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| do you think online relationship or long distance relationship will work? i'm having one now... people around me say i should end... but i really do love that person so much... even though so much problems exist between us... |
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on 2007-03-03 09:13:07 |
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Only person who can truly answer should you give up is you. Just because people say that long distance/online relationship never work out, doesn't mean you shouldn't give up. If you truly love them you shouldn't give up. If you love yourself on the other hand...(Sorry couldn't resist)  |
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on 2007-03-03 10:05:15 (edited 2007-03-03 10:16:52)
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Ok...I'll be totally honest with you...People can say a bunch of things...No it;s not going to work out...you are crazy...you are going to be hurt...oh long distances...he/she is cheating on you...but you know what? Nobody can tell what will happen...the answer is in you...only you two can make it work it out... I was in a distance relationship and It didn't work out...WHY? Because both of us were not as concerned with each other...wait...no...correction...he wasn't...I was....I always tried to maintain a contact...to keep each other updated, to talk everyday, in the phone, with the web cam...sending pictures...You know...everything I could do to make him feel like I was there...the problem...he didn't do the same...and now I'm not so sure why...He still bugs me...after years...he still calls me to say that he loves me...but oh well...his mistake for not knowing how to keep me. See? When you are in a long distance relationship, I think is very important to let the other person know how much you love him/her...and how much you trust in him/her...It is hard...yes...it is...I'm not going to lie to you...there is a lot of problems....but if you both are strong enough...I don't think it is even if you guys love each other enough...is just that you both need to be strong and overcome the difficulties together...be honest to each other...if something is bugging you, let him know, so you can fix things together... All I can tell you is not to give up...listen to your heart and try your best...Now if it doesn't work out...don't feel sad....just know that you did the best to make it work out...ok? Good luck! ^-^ If you ever need advice, or something...PM me...I will be glad to help you... |
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on 2007-03-03 10:12:46 |
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Problems don't only exist when u have an online relationship...even if you're in a real life relationship, there are bound to be problems. but you'll just have to think of a way and try your best to conquer the problems. you and your significant other. So, don't doubt your relationship ^0^ try to keep contact!! But thing is...i agree with what Pame said, that other people's opinion are not as important as YOUR feelings for eachother. And true, there might be a lot of heartbreaks in an online relationship...but don't let that stop you! if you really love the person, i'm sure it'll work out!! ^_^ Always believe and NEVER GIVE UP! ^0^ Ganbatte ne! and i would be glad to help you as well ^0^ if u ever need it! 
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on 2007-03-03 11:00:39 |
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now, how do I put this..i sorta had a long distance relationship before but I ended it after some time coz I didn't want both of us to feel the stress and pain of being apart one another...it is difficult to stay in touch (yes to be honest..--although u always feel how easy it is at the start until u realise later that it isn't that easy all) but if u truly care for your partner, things should work out fine mostly important, place trust in your partner the best u can..all of us has doubts most of the time..which I feel is normal..if possible, try to talk over the phone once in a while too..or send voicemails etc etc..hearing each other makes you feel closer to the other person ^^ for my case.. things didn't work out much but it was mostly coz i felt rather insecure as didnt know the person well enough since we hardly ever actually talked..both of us were of the quiet-type..sighs put your heart into it..& try ur best keeping in touch...remember to let each other know honestly how u feel bout the relationship and always talk things over..cast aside the negative things people tell you-they'll only add to ur insecurities..it is all hard enough already being so far apart...........................u should follow your true feelings and keep them strong..so all the best! ^^ [however if things didn't work out as well as u think they should..it will hurt..but after some time the pain will go away..it would be part of an experience which makes you stronger..but do keep the feelings u once had for that person in your heart..including the gr8 times u both had..and you won't ever regret the relationship..]  |
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on 2007-03-03 11:37:57 |
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I support any type of relationship, it doesn't really bother me as long as the people are happy, right? (Angel Yuki & Sachiel, Jomunga & Honey'ko [they were so cute, lol], etc.) So with that said, I'm happy too, but for me, I can't really date a person who lives in places like California or is out of the country. One day, I almost went out with this girl online, but we never did but it all worked out to this day. XD 
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on 2007-03-03 15:13:15 (edited 2007-03-03 15:13:35)
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I like what FA, said... online relationships are not the only ones that can face problems, real life ones too. If you really love that person, you'll try all the humanly possible (and way more than that) for conquer your problems. Never give up!!!. Nevertheless, This is easier said than done, but not impossible   |
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on 2007-03-03 15:24:49 |
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It can work out. The reason why people don't think it will work is because most people think of the internet as a separate dimension where nothing is true and it's all like a game, but a lot of people mean what they say. Sure there are people that lie online, or in a relationship online, but the same kind of things happen in real life. If you love someone then good for you, no-one else has the right to tell you what you should or should not be doing with your feelings. There are a lot of examples that this can work. Jomunga and Honey'ko are a great example, they even spent time together when Jomunga went to visit Honey'ko (They even posted pics). So it can work. I too am in a long distance relationship, and have been in two others. The reason why the past two fell apart? Because both girls ended up finding a guy that they loved more, that sort of thing can happen regardless of whether your with the person or not. While it is hard to make things work with lack of physical contact it can also be beneficial. For one thing you are falling in love with someone because of their personality more than anything. You are focused on them, and not on their appearance for instance.    |
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| thanks guys... for giving me so much opinions about this... actually... we did talk to each other every day... i did feel happy from the beginning... but then... suffers begin... like what pame said... he didn't really care for me... even when i sick... he didn't even bother to ask how am i... i know it's not suppose to be measured this way... but... in alot of times... he cares for himself more than he cares how i feel... he wants me to not give up hope on him... but he kept doing things that destroyed my trust... i love him... but i really don't wanna suffer anymore... |
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on 2007-03-03 18:44:42 |
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"You are focused on them, and not on their appearance for instance. " ~Jon That's so true hearted. XD I envy, those type of people dearly. Oh, and I spoken with your girlfriend, Jon. Hope you guys end up like Jomunga and Honey'ko one day. ^_^
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on 2007-03-03 18:53:39 (edited 2007-03-03 18:54:42)
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Listen, you have to choose what's right. You need to have a serious talk with him about this. If he's asking for you not to give up on him then he needs to change. Don't suffer, you have to fix things one way or another. A relationship is about both people being cared for and happy, you can't have a relationship where one person suffers and one doesn't. |
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| we both suffered in differences i guess... he and i have different demand on each other and from our relationship... we talked alot alot of times... but because he sick alot... and sometimes i'm too afraid of everything... the conversation is getting to nowhere... like now... he is sick... can't talk anymore... i wish i could solve thie soon... i know i should make up my mind... |
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on 2007-03-04 05:32:14 (edited 2007-03-04 05:33:07)
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by zparticus27
on 2007-03-04 05:52:37
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| long distance relationships eh...well i had one once and well...if your notthat serious at it it will just pass you by...so it comes to how serious the two party is about the relationship...i mean i wasnt that serious and neither did she (i think) so it eneded up like it was nothing...so just trust each other wholeheartedly and hang in there through thick or thin if you want to keep your relationship |
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on 2007-03-04 06:28:29 |
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Well i use to have one a long time ago....when i had penpals. Anyways we wrote to each other for a few years & we have gotten really close. Unfortunately i was in Canada & she was in Finland....we were both pretty young so it was difficult getting together. We were pretty serious early on but cause of the distance it became really tough....eventually it ended but we are still friends. So like Z said it depends on how serious your relationship is....& also how patient you can be. Take things slow...don't rush into things. When both of you are ready then maybe you two can get together eventually.  |
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Seeing people compliment Honey'ko and I makes me feel all fuwa fuwa inside. Thx........... To me there is no real trick to making online love work out. One couple just needs the right amount of love and any relationship can last forever.  Jomunga eats your avatars. |
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on 2007-03-04 06:43:43 |
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Wow! I didn't knew Pame were on a long distance relationship... o well, What can I say about this.. It depends on you, if you really love the other person, why would not work??? But what do i know about love??.... i guess not too much T_T   |
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I've been there before. I believe they can work if both couples truly do love one another. Having a long distance relationship makes one cherish the true things in a relationship. Not being able to touch or express certain emotions can make you find new ways to show your love. It can make you more driven to show the person how much you love them, and in turn make you a better person. When I was in a long distance relationship, that person made the happiest any face to face guy ever did. He would text me first thing in the morn just to tell me how much I meant to him and how beautiful I was. He is to this day my one true love. When he was constantly in my mind, I worked out, ate right, went to work on time, and doing anything to give him good news when we talked. I was truly happy, and I was glowing all over lol. Due to our schedules (mostly school, jobs and practice) things are a bit rough for us, and that just makes me cherish our conversations even more. It makes me a little sad that we can't be as close as before. We still talk when we can, and we have severed our titles to each other long ago, but we honestly have a great and honest relationship. I'll love him forever no matter what the outcome lol.   
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just got one think, it really up to you, you want to continue and you want to break up it's really in you, well half of it, coz the other half is in the others, so do all the things you could and choose the best option and the option that you will never regret so that in the end you have nothing to regret 
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| i wrote him about how i feel... and i finally decided to let go of him even i felt so hard to do so... so i went on to tell him... but he tried to convince me to stay and promise he'll change... actually i didn't ask much of him... just for him to care for me... but he could never do that... i'm not sure should i believe in him... |