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what's your style in giving advice?
Link | by Naoh_Gawako on 2011-09-08 03:23:25
Our friends and folks sometimes want to hear our voices about what they are concern about. Most of the times, we answer in a manner base on our experiences, expertise and gut feelings.

I for one if i know the subject is technical I answer it directly. But when it comes to emotional subjects I just making them realize what they should do and the entire subject is up to them.

So what's your style in giving advice?

Re: what's your style in giving advice?
Link | by hello on 2011-09-09 07:04:43
depends.

technical: left is left, up is up, 7+8=15. either im right or wrong and same goes for you.

emotions: well, thats just like, your opinion man/woman. I can only suggest that you should (insert advice here).

No.

Re: what's your style in giving advice?
Link | by riiko-chan on 2011-10-10 12:43:46
I'm going to troll and say you tell them what they want to hear, because really, who wants to hear your opinion when all they are looking for is sympathy for their case.

Again, trolling, not really my belief.

Re: what's your style in giving advice?
Link | by Wolf on 2011-10-24 12:38:17
I love sitting down with people and hearing their thoughts and problems. On a singular basis I've found asking questions is the best. A good question can knock people right out of their comfort zone and really get them to think of what it is THEY want to do. You can pepper your own opinions/experience into the conversation but ultimately you want them to come up with the conclusion. They are more likely to follow through with something they think they came up with on their own and not something that was preached to them by a fallible individual.

This differs a little from how I post here. A forum is incapable of handling such consults so I just like to dish out as much shock and awe as possible while staying on topic. This gets people stop and think which is the ultimate goal. I am unable to guide this thought process because of the relative time lapse between posts and lack of response by some users. But I'm just happy to stimulate thought even if it's usually to flame the s**t out of me for being insensitive.

Re: what's your style in giving advice?
Link | by red_13 on 2011-10-24 13:10:29
I just tell them how I see, and what they should do. It's up to them to listen.


Re: what's your style in giving advice?
Link | by on 2011-10-24 23:51:58
Using my logics, facts, common sense, and sometimes my own experiences
yeah, i'm not the best advisor >.<


Re: what's your style in giving advice?
Link | by on 2011-10-25 03:32:46 (edited 2011-10-25 04:19:23)
i'm not good when giving advice to someone, but when i have to advise, firstly i search some good words on Internet and saying it. Tricky, isn't it?

Call me Mondo-san


Re: what's your style in giving advice?
Link | by giiraaffee on 2011-10-25 03:34:28
I'm not good with advice, but if I'm trying to give advice I try to use common sense, logic and experiences, and maybe think about how the advice would be different for different people.

Re: what's your style in giving advice?
Link | by williamlcb on 2011-10-29 02:06:18
From personal experience. Otherwise, it follows my guts.

Re: what's your style in giving advice?
Link | by ochibisan_27 on 2012-04-18 01:45:25
When giving advices..
I really don't give advices from my experiences..
I always think of an advice that fits the situation..

Re: what's your style in giving advice?
Link | by darcwizrd on 2012-04-27 17:41:42
For the most part I don't asked for advice much. So when I do I really think about the issue. But a lot of the time in a mob situation I tend to move with the crowd rather than think about it real hard. In a one on one situation, I look at it in several ways and in the end come to the best solution. And while technical situations are seemingly straight forward there are times where there are a whole bunch of complications to the situation so that why i really think about things find their faults and come up with the best solutions.

"The direct use of force is such a poor solution to any problem, it is generally employed by small children and large nations." -David Friedman

Re: what's your style in giving advice?
Link | by dskilly on 2012-05-22 16:56:38
Well, if it's about advices... it's recommended to not come to me, I'm the worse thoughts-wording person there might be... or amongst them... and I well here I go:
Logically - I would first try to form questions that could lead to the answer so that the person who is asking can understand where I am coming from and then explain more in depth later... if they don't get it I simply give up and give them the answer and think (honestly) "Screw this, back to what I was doing =.=...".
Emotionally - Well, I just simply tell them what I think of the question and my opinions of the matter, end, if I don't understand, most people just gives up on me and never comes back XD.

Otherwise, I just simply say "I don't know", which doesn't happen often since I just make up random stuff...

Re: what's your style in giving advice?
Link | by holkers on 2012-05-23 11:28:44
Serious mode. Joke mode. Serious mode. Joke mode.

But when people advice me, I push them off XD
But I still considering their advice, and it got me thinking hard.

Hmm... I've always given out serious stuff when some serious stuff is happening, but I like to add some spice of laughter so that things don't get too tense :D

And all my advice either work, or not work, I still end it with joke.

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Re: what's your style in giving advice?
Link | by gelkiller666 on 2012-06-27 23:11:29
hmmm...well it depends on the person who asked for the advise in the first place. if its a friend who i've known for a while then i would say what i think and hope its the right one and for anyone else then its just something generic that i've heard or had said to me. because most ppl ask just to know what you think and really dont care while other closer to you want to really know since you've known each other for a while. i personally don't like giving out advise since im not really that good at knowing what to say to either sides. especially since i get asked for advise i never been in. it feels wrong to me somehow but maybe since i've never been in that type of situation i think or hope i add a different side to it. only time and observation would tell if i said made a difference.


Re: what's your style in giving advice?
Link | by kaoru on 2012-08-08 11:30:11
"hello" had a pretty nice grasp, either it's a concept right or wrong.
Emotions are more of an abstract view based on opinions.
I'f i know I'm right about something I try to keep it humble and explain the best I can, I don't like it when people shower you with information just to make their case rather than truthfully try to teach something to someone.

If it's an emotional problem (or a phylosophical(sp?)one I tend to thread lightly since there's never a definitive answer, just an opinion.

---------------------------------------- Everyone is connected.

Re: what's your style in giving advice?
Link | by on 2012-08-08 13:19:35 (edited 2012-08-08 13:20:20)
I like hearing out people's problems and troubles, and I love it when I'm able to help out the person in question. I can't say whether or not my advice is good, but I do try my best.

I find that simply asking questions to the person speaking to you is enough to help them. You talk things out with them, hear what they have to say and their thoughts on it, and just ask them a few simple questions. Talking everything out with the person gives you a good idea of how they want to handle the situation. They might just be too confused or thinking too much about it in order to realize it. In my experience, the person usually comes to their own conclusion after talking it out.

Other than that, I usually avoid giving the "This is what I think you should do. . . " type of advice, because that can easily be an invitation to disaster whether it works out or not.

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Re: what's your style in giving advice?
Link | by niinii101 on 2012-08-08 21:55:16
Problems, it's better going straight to the point and spit out the wrong things the advisee has done just to give them an overview of what they have done and become.

In my opinion, it's better to tell it in front of them and directly for them to realize and look upon themselves and just let it out. However, I will point out to them that my advice will may or may not work and it is up to them to play their role in their problem. It's a shoot or miss.

If ever a stubborn person asks for advice, there's nothing else for the advisor to say such a thing cause why deal with a person who hardly listens to what others say and instead just ask themselves.

Re: what's your style in giving advice?
Link | by on 2012-08-09 04:43:27
Sarcasm. if the person is dense enough, then I go straight to the point


Re: what's your style in giving advice?
Link | by 918ben on 2012-08-09 12:50:40
its depends on the situation, but in general, i would say try and connect to them on the same level, and if its difficult, you just have to tell them the truth, the best way to solve a problem is to admit it


Re: what's your style in giving advice?
Link | by koy+ on 2012-08-10 06:31:18
Usually very bluntly, because if you are to seek advice, you should be willing to take it as it is. Sugar coating in most situations solve nothing.


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