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I need advise, big time!
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on 2007-04-09 11:44:13 |
Mythman Here. I need some advise on what you guys think I should do. There a person I have had a crush on for years. I think she's the one for me, but she already have a boyfriend. I have no idea on what I should do. Should I just wait and see how things turn out between them or should try to overtake her from him? I'm so lost on these kind of things. I'm really too shyof a person. Help me out here. Peace! :( 
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Well, still try to talk to her, be friendly and all. If you get on her good side, she'll probably dump her BF and come running to you or her best friend. So, just be nice to her, and hopefully she'll come to you. I've noticed that teenage couples don't last, so there's a good chance that they'll split up eventually. Just hang in there, okies? ^^  |
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on 2007-04-09 12:14:09 |
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I disagree. Why would you walk up to someone you have a crush on, and basically force them to break up with their partner for you? If you're already friends with her, then continue to being friends. Time there on out, will let you know if you can ask her out or not but until then trying to get into her life when she's already in someone else's is wrong. At least for me, I'd feel guilty if I ever did something like that, but I wouldn't, but using that as an example to explain to you what I think. Anyways, the choice is really up to you though be wise with what you have to say. 
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on 2007-04-09 12:26:28 |
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I agree with @DA. If you HAD a girlfriend, you love her very much and all of sudden come her friend and took her away from you. What would you feel? Think again. It's your choice. You can stay as her friend, be good and pray for her happiness or you can be a selfish jerk, and grab her away to fulfill your desire. My advice is just wait. Be a friend, stay as friend. See how her tale unfold. If she is single again then it's up to you.   |
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on 2007-04-09 12:27:59 (edited 2007-04-09 12:28:51)
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I agree with DAngel and Night! I think you should wait and see if things would work out or not...and yeah breaking her up with her BF wouldnt be the wisest thing to do...she may either find out what u did and not like you or things might just get ugly...sorry didnt mean to sound tooo rash but its just my opinion... Its your decision anyway, but personally, if it was me, I would just wait and see...  |
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on 2007-04-09 12:57:05 |
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They're all right. Do what the others say. Patience is the key. ^^   |
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on 2007-04-09 13:13:28 |
@mythman: if you truly love her, you would want her to be happy. Whatever makes her happy you must do. If she is happy with the guy she is with right now, then you should not intefere. Perhaps you should find out if she is happy right now.  |
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on 2007-04-09 17:04:45 |
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^ like post above says..u should always place her happiness before you take any action..of course, u have the right as well to go after her...anybody has (as long as she's not married:P)..and most importantly, she still has the right to make her choice ^^ try not to rush into things..and if u decide to let her know how u feel, try not to pressure her...be your usual self around her (secretly hoping she notices and is attracted to the great characteristics about you)..if you wanna be close, start out as friends..and see how everything goes Things will somehow progress..only time will tell :P  |
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on 2007-04-09 17:08:19 |
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"Love is liberty not possesion...Or maybe love is freedom and not possesion" Basically that means that is not about you and what you want but it is what is the best for both. If you do really love her, just like someone else said, let her be happy, and be her friend. Don't make her break up with her boyfriend, just be the best friend you can be. Now if she breaks up with this guy, maybe you will want to let her know your feelings, but till then, don't do it, cuz that would be selfish, since she is in a relationship with no problems, now you come and confuse her, so think about it. Patience! Just be patient ^-^ I wish you the best!~ |
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by zparticus27
on 2007-04-13 00:22:10
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i say go take her boy friend in the parking lot and pop a bat in his head and shove him in the crate heading towards the south pole or send him to kingdom come!Hahahahaha ok dude...seriously i agree with these guys... patience is key here...besides would you really like to break them up? i mean she like her bf right? are you cold hearted enough to take away here happiness? think about it man...if you confes your love to her she might get confused and might stay away from you...life sucks and its unfair...believe me ive been there...kinda but you get the picture... sometimes ones happines means taking away someone else's happiness... it just so happens that by taking your happiness...you made her happy even if she's with another man...ahahaha its sucks but its the best option you got...at least your still friends right? just be there for her...and maybe when the time is right she'll know that she has someone special all along hahahahaa well you could always do what i said earlier...a crate heading to the south pole aint cheap though...haahahaha |
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Hmm, listen to those guys... But i'd like to add, prepare your heart to move on. There's still a possibility that she and her bf won't break up even if you wait forever. If that's the case, you'll just end up being disappointed... I'm not telling you to give up, but to remind you that things aren't always going the way you want. I actually experienced the exact same situation with you around 6 years ago... And ending up not getting anywhere with her, just a friend, but i've even lost contact with her these past 3 years :P That's what you call a pathetic ending, and i hope that wouldn't happen to you... Well, that's just a real life example of a situation like this. If anyone else had acyually experienced this and end up with a 'good ending', might as well tell mythman here about what you did with the situation... |
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on 2007-04-13 12:39:25 |
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I agree with everybody else, but I have to add one thing. When and if she does break up with said boyfriend, don't do this: "What's wrong?" "Me and ____ broke up. *tear*" "Oh that's too bad. Go out with me." That would be aweful!! Be sure to comfort her, and show that you care about her feelings! Then, try to hang out a bit more, and I think in about..... at least one week, then you should tell her how you feel. But emphasize that you feel upset for her when (if) she breaks up with her boyfriend. Don't pretend, or jump up and down in joy. That will send you the right way for a slapped face.  |
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on 2007-04-15 18:21:54 |
I agree with these people. You just need to be patient.If you take away her boyfriend while she is happy,she could be upset afterwards.If you like her,then you'll want her to be happy.Just continue being her friend right now and wait.Maybe you should tell her how you feel so she knows. Either way,whatever you decide, good luck. Sorry if I'm not that much of a big help. 
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on 2007-04-15 19:38:15 |
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I think everyone's decision for you here, is unanimous. Do attempt to break them up and just follow along the fresh breeze of life...
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my personal opinion is that you should find some things that you're both into. Become friends. Let things progress naturally. 
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by vincentyuahyu90
on 2007-06-30 03:37:05
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sorry, i didn't read any reply and reply u. I'm little lazy now. well i think wat you need to do is befriend wit him 1st. The 1st priority. What you need to do is greet wit him, chat wit him, but not too over shown and later if it is too obvious..... later what you need to do is, try to get the information what he likes, what he need, what he eat... but not too over. just a few thing you need to know more about him b4 you do "the thing". later. jus wait. my last advice, do not break them up. Do not ever, ever do so. You will regret it. |
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on 2007-07-05 17:29:28 |
Wow someone else that has the same situation I was/ in for years. You are asuming that she doesn't know you really like her already. Just be with her when she needs you. One of my best friends that I've loved and still love very much, pretty much knew after a while how I felt for her. Despite the fact that she doesn't feel the same way, we are best friends. So just wait, and maybe drop a hint or two. Nothing big though. I hope it works out better for you then it did me.  
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