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Family Obligations
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This thread was made to see how many gendou users take there family responsibility seriously. In certain families you are expected to follow a role you were chosen to do. Why is it that someone in your life tells you what to do without considering your own feelings and desires? I guess that is why my family and I do not get along. I decide I will live my live the way I want without limitations set by unimportant people. I have much admiration and respect for anyone who can follow there families rules. But when does a person how enough and draw the line. In what job you should take? What kind of person you should marry and were you live. When does a person get out of their family prison and free of the mental chains that we are put in at birth?
All Alone in this so call World
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by S-a-c-h-i-e-l
on 2006-07-20 15:15:37
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I have no "family obligations." My family is very loose on what jobs each person has, insomuch that all that my parents say we are required to do are household chores. Nothing more, except things like paying for rent and stuff when you get older. And for everyone's information, I do not know of a family that gets along better than we do; it seems like every family in our neighborhood/that I know of online either has some serious problems, or the family's apart so often you can never tell. Sure, our family isn't perfect... but trying to shove a circle block into a triangle hole won't do anything besides cause conflict. Let all the shapes find out where they belong themselves, maybe at most pushing them toward the area you think they'll fit best from time to time... But never force anyone to try to fit somewhere they don't wanna fit. In short, I have no roles or jobs given to me at birth XD  |
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on 2006-07-20 15:19:47 |
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Hummm...interesting comments there, D-Grave. (other's call me D, lol). Well, if my dad tells me WHOM I should marry, I would slap him. Not really, but you get what I'm saying hopefully. I help out a lil bit (kinda lazy), but I do love my family. You gotta love your family! Forget those unimportant people, they can't control me or you my friend. Nobody tells me what to do in real life, and I'll be damned if I see it happening to one of my own friends. It won't be right now, but in a few years, that I hope they help me out with the animation thing (college, career in Japan ~ Animator). My dad says I do have a family in Japan so if I move in with them for the current moments, I would have two lives to live and learn from. Comparing Japanese Family Life Style and American Family Life Style are not similar at all...atleast in my opinion anyways... 
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by
 
on 2006-07-20 15:25:09 |
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I have no family obligations either... All they want from me is to be able to go to a good university later on, and graduate. ^^ That's all they want. |
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I truly think that it is wrong if anybody tries to force you to do anything that you don't want to do, with disregard to your values, even if it is family. I think that it is even more wrong for people to use family as an excuse to manipulate others. Life is about finding happiness and hope, and I really don't think that anybody has the right to take that chance from others. I do have family obligations, but I really only do them to make my family happy instead of just doing it to keep the belief of "family obligations" alive.
You need a reason to be sad. You don't need a reason to be happy. The secret to happiness is to face the fact that the world is horrible.
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| I don't really have any either. Maybe regular chores and helping around because my parents are the people that support me and give me a place to live. I have to respect them because they are my care givers. But I wouldn't goes as far as to not listen to my family and rebel against them. Otherwise they would eventually kick me out or something. So I guess the only one that I really have is to respect my family and love them. |
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unfortunately i am still under control of my parents..T.T im in a college now, so life is good here. but when i get home sometimes, i have to do chores and stuff, which i dont really like, because im not used to doing chores. man, i sound so lazy now XD our relationships are going okay, though i havent been around my family for quite a while, and its been like a year that i havent met my sister. anyways, my parents still support my study fees and all that, so they also make me follow their rules in most things. right now im still living my life like they're telling me to. im not really complaining, but to be honest i dont really like doing all the stuff they told me to do, but i've gotten used to them, so i dont really care now. though living a free life of your own sounds so awesome..i cant wait to get a job!  |
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on 2006-07-21 01:11:01 |
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there's really no obligation at my house...i got my freedom when i was 10.so i pretty much do things my own way at home.my mom won't really complain that much if i were to decide to live on my own one day. |
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by OwdEe sh4H
on 2006-07-21 05:19:57 (edited 2006-07-21 05:36:01)
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hello..jz wanna say that to cheer up d atmosphere a bit^^ okay, about me n my familia..well, i won't say that i don't have any "family obligations" coz i feel like i do. but whatever it is, i think my family is perfect the way it is. basically, my parents hardly scold us especially my dad. i could count how many times had he REALLY being mad at us (usually he jz broke the cds that we're fighting over, or jz say it out loud that he doesnt want me to treat him, i'm so scared when this happened). my parents r fun, they don't really order us around but yes, at 20, and worse, perhaps, as d only girl, i'm d one who's gonna do the household chores. the good thing is, thank God, that i'm willing to do them coz i see them as my way of giving sth to the family. talk abt being the good child^^ i still got scolded though. i know how tiring doing chores is and i'm even taking care of my 80 yr old grandma who needs constant 24 hr care now, so it IS tiring. maybe this is a child's role; looking after elders and helping out wth the chores. but i don't think we should see it as a job. it's different. that's why i think some ppl have problems wthin their family, they think it's a job or sth that they should do coz it's what asked of them but it's not really like that. ok, i'm kinda talking in circles eh?^^ haha either way, i think it's inevitable that everyone got some kind of role to play in d family. i know that my eldest brother stressed out sometimes. and my second brother seems like d one who's always okay. while i'm like the cook+cleaner+butler one (as i'm d only gal-_-) fights r common in families. but so far, we're doing fine. but i've been having my own idea of how my own apartment would be like^^ a lil freedom won't be harmful rite? @D Grave, when u say u'll live the way u want wthout any limitations from unimportant people, does that include ur family? coz if so, i guess it can't be helped that u n ur family doesnt get along well. i donno how to say when to draw d line, but everything has a limit rite? u hv ur limit of tolerance too. what i'm trying to say is, if u cant decide on things, decide based on what u are capable to do then tell them. but be firm wth it and prove it. and please, be gentle when u're saying it. sorry if sound disrespectful or sth, this is what i would do anyway^^ hehee....easy to say, i'm fine as long as they love me for who i am, care for my expenditures till i get a job and allows me to watch tons of anime^^ hahahahaa   |
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| Hmm, i guess i'm lucky to have a family that doesn't restrain me... All they're asking is for me not to screw up my life... |
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on 2006-07-21 06:58:07 (edited 2006-07-21 07:00:19)
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I don't really have much obligation at home as long as my mother or father says to do this or that , I must follow them it's tiring sometimes but that's the least I could do for them^^. It's not an obligation coz I choose to do it on my own, coz my brother and sisters don't follow my parents sometimes^^ As long as I don't fail in my studies, then things would be A Okay!  SUBARU  SEISHIROU  |
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...as for me,i guess as long as i do fine in college n help a bit wth the chores at home,i will get most of the things that i want.but then im the stubborn n rebellious one.so i kinda do things my way and dont like to be told what to do.huhu T.T really giving my parents headache sometimes...sigh...im x a good daughter...(people say that 2nd child is most troublesome.im 2nd =.=' issit true???any of u who agree wth this statement??? XD ) |
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My parents plead with me instead of trying to force me to do anything. They try to get me to do stuff without trying to upset me or irritate me. I believe they are doing it the right way. Then again... I still don't have a job yet. But hey, I am looking at least.  Jomunga eats your avatars. |
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by Ravensender
on 2006-07-21 15:43:22
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I don't really have any major obligations. I don't know about how to handle that though. I mean, on one hand you should do what you need to, but you should have some sense of duty, too.
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I have been running my family business from since, i was litarly 13. I have one more year in university, in my home country. THEN IM going to get my MD, in the USA, I dont think I'LL be coming back to my home land. ME and my family have a normal relationship, but I want more out of life. SO IM just going to leave and not come back. I wont need them seeing as how, I already pay all my own school fees.
a. bai
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by OwdEe sh4H
on 2006-07-21 20:54:43
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@ai-hime, i don't think that 2nd child is the stubborn or most troblesome one^^ i donno..my 2nd brother (who's 2nd in the family) seems like the genius guy, you know. he may seem stubborn but he's not that problematic. but my friend once said that the 2nd child always try to be the one who balances things, as in, they don't want to be like the eldest but they want to be reliable for the ones below them. so they get tired and quite stressed out inside. well, i haven't asked my brother about that^^ |
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@owdee_sh4h-->2nd child balances things???cool.i nvr heard that before.all i ever heard ws the bad traits of a 2nd child.sigh.even in anime,u can c,e.g ranma 1/2.akane's sis,nabiki is materialistic n such.huhu |