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Re: Determination and self-control
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by
 
on 2006-08-22 16:45:15 |
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Well, only the "it was too hard", but the other ones I don't think I've barely said before. Maybe once or twice? |
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Re: Determination and self-control
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by S-a-c-h-i-e-l
on 2006-08-22 15:13:55 (edited 2006-08-22 15:14:15)
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Well, here are my two cents: If they were making you work that much and giving you little/no time to sleep, why is it your fault for making mistakes? Wouldn't they hold some responsibility? After they've seen you making mistakes because of lack of sleep, wouldn't they either have to let you off without termination or reduce your hours? Sorry if I didn't understand correctly X_X  |
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Re: Determination and self-control
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on 2006-08-22 12:00:12 (edited 2006-08-23 06:15:50)
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wow! it's been a while since i last found a thread that's full of sense. and it's really overwhelming me. hahaha... i almost thought of leaving gendou.com because this is suddenly dominated by people who just wanted to waste their time or play the role of something/someone else. anyway, i do agree that people never run out of choices. but it do happens when you only have one choice to choose from. i had this situation, just two weeks ago when i really wanted to leave the company i've been working for because i'm not really liking the job. so i talked to my immediate supervisor and he listed all the consequences of my decision because he was thinking then i have not thought about it that much yet and he strongly believes that i'm not giving myself a chance to enjoy that job. he said i still have to render a 30-day notice before i could leave and i can't request for an immediate resignation. i told him i had made up my mind and i couldn't even render the company a week notice. i'm in the operations anyway. i do not have to wait until someone replace me in that position because there are thousands of people on the floor doing the same job. besides i have been on their operations for two weeks only because i came from a different account. so my supervisor let me talk to the operations manager, and he told me the same thing about rendering 30-day notice. he added that the only reason they could waive it is if my performance would affect the company. and i told him it would later on, because i was only forcing myself to come to work during my last week. and i'm not really doing good because my thoughts are flying somewhere away from that job. it's a job by the way that i don't really like but the only job that opened opportunity for me then. and everytime i'm doing my thing there, i was always like "i shouldn't be doing this. this is not what i've been dreaming of," haha... i'm quite idealistic, too bad for me. but that's not what i wanted to talk about. it's when i talked to the project manager because she's the real person who could grant me my request. when she told me that she can't waive it because it's in our labor code. it's either i render the 30-day notice or she'll sign my resignation letter but on my employment history it will show that i was terminated. it felt like, she had given me no other choice but to terminate myself. hahaha... because if i would render 30 days more just to wait for my resignation be approved, i would eventually do things that will force them to terminate me. i'm not allowed to absent for the next 30 days or i'd be suspended or terminated. but with our work schedule, it would be impossible for me not to get sick and be absent. i'm not a machine. i can't work graveyard, 10 hours, 5 days a week. that's 10 hours in the office plus 4-5 travel hours. plus i can't sleep in the morning. so for three months i have not been getting enough sleep. like 2-3 hours everyday. i'm also pretty sure i would make other mistakes during that 30-day notice because i can't focus anymore. my mind is set already to looking for a new job. see? she should have told me it's either you'd be terminated by rendering 30 days more or you'd be terminated by not. hah?! so where are my choices? it's not literally speaking. we never ran out of choices, that's true. but, it's the value of the choices given that make them appear like the other's non-existent. boy, am i making sense? urrghh... it's hard to vent out in english. hahaha... i'm raging whenever i talk about this with my friends using our own language. hehe... because i thought, 'the nerve of that manager to impose on me the labor code as if i didn't know why the 30-day notice to the company was included in the law.' it's about transferring responsibilities to your replacement. but i don't have anything to transfer plus i've been in the position for a week only. and it's as if her company had not violated a lot of labor codes, which was among the reasons why i decided to leave. hmp! okay, okay i'm done with my rants. i just got carried away. and this is about choices if i'm not misunderstanding it. by the way, i chose to be terminated. as if i had other choice.  |
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Re: Determination and self-control
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by overlordsero
on 2006-08-22 10:53:15
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Yeah he does! XDXDXD hmm... everyone... JOIN THE CAUSE!!! Join SAROW!! Sachiel's Absolute Reign Over the World (SAROW) Join today and get a free lolipop!!! (while supplies last) 
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Re: Determination and self-control
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 the 'papermaster'
on 2006-08-21 21:17:05 |
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wow, sachiel sure has his work cut out for him, eh? |
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Re: Determination and self-control
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by S-a-c-h-i-e-l
on 2006-08-21 20:36:44
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Ever since I came around :P I'm gonna FIX THE WORLD!! No more depression, no more meaningless wars, no more greed, no more idiots, no more stereotyping, no more stupid stuff. And this is where I begin!! :D |
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Re: Determination and self-control
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by overlordsero
on 2006-08-21 15:00:15
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when has humanity ever had self control??
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Re: Determination and self-control
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by S-a-c-h-i-e-l
on 2006-08-21 11:12:27
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Something else to think about... Do you have any habits/traits that you wish were gone, yet you can't seem to get rid of it? Everything you do gives you something; While sometimes it may be apparent what your payoff is, sometimes it's not so apparent. Examples: You are overweight and you hate yourself for it, yet you can never lose weight and keep it off. What might you be gaining by staying overweight? A: The obvious; you enjoy eating. It provides stress relief, something to do, it could do any number of things. B: The hidden; I recall hearing a story like this one from a woman who was raped when she was young, and ever since then she was overweight. Why? When she was thin, she felt sexy, thus prone to rape again. She ate and ate to feel secure. What you must do is find out what you're gaining by doing whatever it is you don't like, stop doing the bad habit, and get the payoff by doing something different, preferably something productive. This may take a lot of self-control, however... Something humanity is beginning to lose... |
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Re: Determination and self-control
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| The best way to be in good control of your reality is to be distracted from reality. Mainly,the action you want to abstain from's reality. |
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Re: Determination and self-control
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by
 DaedalusMachina
on 2006-08-19 00:06:55 |
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Most human beings have an innate need to belong in a group, which is evident in almost anything you look at. Political parties, religion itself, companies, sports teams, etc. To some people, it goes so far as the choices they make, regardless of the logic behind it. Myself, I have always hated/been afraid of groups of people, so I've never even been tempted to do as they do. As a result, a lot of the things I do are very different and a bit radical. |
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Re: Determination and self-control
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on 2006-08-18 19:02:51 |
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Wow, Sachiel, what great points you've made! You are truly one of the few people left in the world with common sense. You don't have that silly voice in your head that tells you to accept ignorance. Congrats. Humanity is so varied, yet it seems that the better off a people are, the less respect they have for their fellows. So basically, it seems that financial prosperity warrants moral and sensical decay. You also have to consider the families some people grow up in. You obviously have a fantastic upbringing, yet others are not so fortunate. Millions of people are subject to turmoil at home, which may give them the trait to give up quickly. In that case, you can't necessarily blame them for psychological inadequacies. Nevertheless, we can only hope for the best. |
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Determination and self-control
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by S-a-c-h-i-e-l
on 2006-08-18 18:36:39 (edited 2007-01-07 21:07:18)
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How often have people said "It was too hard," "I couldn't help myself," "I had no choice," "I can't change it," or anything else like that? Those quotes make me angry, except maybe the "It was too hard" if they put in enough time on whatever was too hard. It was too hard - People often start a project, and then give up nearly immediately. Why give up so fast? I can see giving up on building a house ot something like that, but not everything is like that. People give up in games, give up on working, give up on making things better, people give up on anything that's uncomfortable. Now, what would bring more pleasure; Saying "I beat Halo 2 on Heroic, and it was my first time playing it," or saying "I beat Halo 2 on easy!"? I am asking you all to stick with things, even if they're hard. Never give up, never give in. I couldn't help myself - Yes, you can. You just didn't feel like doing what you were supposed to. This is a sign of lack of self-control. Having self-control is one of the most important things you can have; those with no self-control are frequently greedy, raping and stealing everywhere they go. And if you say "How am I supposed to get it? It's not like I can just ask and suddenly be able to control myself!" Actually, it is almost that simple. A good way to do this is to buy a large amount of soda (if there are people around you with some free cash), and sell it for more than you bought it for. If you can find 12-packs for $2.00 each, and you sell all of the soda without drinking a single can, you make $1.00 with every 12-pack you sell. So not only is it self-improving, you make money in the process XD Do what you know will help you and others around you. I had no choice - There is always more than one choice; usually there are at least three. You may just not like your choices. Example: Friend A tells you that friend B did something horribly wrong, and that you shouldn't tell anyone, but you don't agree not to tell people. You have three basic choices here: A: Keep quiet B: Spread it around C: Ask friend B why s/he did it and if it's even true Another example might be... Your friends all say "C'mon, you're not cool until you do this!" when it's something stupid like (the parents' phrase) jumping off a bridge. You might say "I have no choice" and go on with whatever it is... However, you do have more than one choice: A: Jump off the bridge B: Use logic to tell them why it's not cool C: Simply leave You have choices, you just need to see what choice is the best one to take. I can't change it - This one bothers me the most. I once heard someone I know say something along the lines of "I saw someone walking down the street a while ago. Do you have any idea how many people's lives changed because of him?" If you're dressed in rags, are walking slowly in a dejected manner, and you're carrying an empty bottle of beer, would that make someone feel uplifted? Or what about if you're looking straight forward, you're taking long, triumphant strides, and have a spring in your step, would that make someone feel uplifted? Everything you do changes things around you, just like a spider web. If you tug one of the threads, all of the threads connected to it will change. That's why all must be strong and hold each other up to make the web stay connected. Then the spider known as happiness can eat flies and live XD Everything you do has an impact. Lastly, people don't want to try things. If you try, who knows what will be accomplished? Just do it. |
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