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hi can you help me? my name is William Tj when i step to 9th class(15) in my country-- i have a relationtship with a girl.. when i first meet her, i don't like her,i have many fight with her.. but after i have many fight with her.i feel something different with our realtiontship ,in the class i like to look her,and she like to look me too, but in that age i don't know what is love and i don't say i love her in that time.... But now i'm was 17 and she still the same school with me..,i still can't forget her althought 2 years was go.. but Now she already have a boyfriend.... Are i must forget her? or tell her what my heart feel? help me plz thx |
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by Renegade Bladesman
on 2006-02-20 05:59:18
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well, i'd say bide your time for a bit mate, if you forget about her, you might miss your chance to tell her, but if you tell her now, you might end up in alot of pain, just remain friends with her, and hopefully the opportunity you seek will present itself one day.....
Even from the realms beyond Life, Death, Infinity and Eternity, I still see you
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well i would say confess to her i mean if she says no then tht's a no n if she says yes then u knw n it's good i mean u can't hide it forever 
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on 2006-02-20 12:08:42 (edited 2006-02-20 12:12:00)
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That's quite a situation you've got there. Well I am going to have to agree with angel on this one. You should just tell her and clear this whole thing up. It's better to get this off your chest. You will be a better man because of it. Remember, it is better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all. P.S. Who knows, you could still have a chance with this girl.^_^(I know, not as profound as my previous statement, but what can you do.)    |
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by eternaltorture
on 2006-02-20 15:16:49 (edited 2006-02-20 15:18:58)
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wow! that's a tricky situation... you should of told her earlier but, you can't go back in time..XD so, i agree with Angel and Jonathan that you should tell her and get this over with. you never know what she might say!!! so..let's cross our fingers and hope that something good will come out of it!!! |
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She if already has boyfriend it may be too late. I have used to this problem but I found a better girl and not need to tell her "I love you" because we both feel it... Sorry, I found your English to be quite comical (no offence)
Wise Man says: "Take a dog off its leash and it will wander."
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by zero lionheart
on 2006-02-20 16:27:19
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i too agree with them you sould just tell it if something happens good and if it dosent well just leave it and close that chapter in your live ^^ i hope that my point of view helps you ^^ good luck!!!!!^^
"i dont believe in god ,but i belive in angels because you are here"
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Remember that you can always keep a friendship close, but as soon as you break-up it can be over, and even if it isn't over there will always be a bit of awkwardness between you. I have something for a guy who is a few years older and it probably wouldn't work out so I kept it to myself and I wouldn;t change our firendship for anything.
woot
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CONTINUE to be friends with her, but try to forget or focus on having a relationship with her, for it is mear infatuation. THAT you have for this girl, best to move on than to always, think what could have bin. I ofcorse had had this same problem, with a girl I was infatuated with, and sometimes it seems that, I still have her face in the back of my mined.
a. bai
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on 2006-02-20 19:57:05 |
| I could write a long winded, overly metaphoricized, in-depth essay on how you should A)not forget her B)wait to see if it is what you truly feel C)be honest but I won't. I will, however say simply to do the three above things. I speak from expiriance when I say that I know how awkward it can be to go out with someone who was your friend and later break up with them. In most cases you feel depressed or you could feel even pain. You have to ask your self is it worth it to you, are you willing to forgo the years you spent with that person to feul your desires. "Love" can make you do strange things, but love is something you expiriance. The difference between "love" and love is that "love" is what you feel towards another, and love is what you heart feels toward them. "Love" is the twin of love, and the slighly less prctical one at that. |
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on 2006-02-21 11:24:45 (edited 2006-02-21 11:25:07)
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That appears to be a long winded, overly metaphorical, in-depth essay to me. Your thoughts on love are interesting though, but not that clear, are you trying to say that love is being misused, overused or misunderstood in todays world? |
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Sometimes I think there is only lust. All people want is sex, not a real relationship. It bothers me expecially when people are so immature about it as well. "ewwwwww! They're kissing!" Dude, grow up. Well I am done ranting.
woot
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on 2006-02-21 17:34:51 |
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Jonathan Not realy, if you want long winded and metaaphorical, go look at some of my posts in here, here, and here. Anyway, I did end it prematurly, I had to sleep, I actually fell asleep somewhere around the expiriance part. I guess it falls under abused, not like domestic abuse-abused, but more like political power abused. Schala, that's the way people are, stupid society. It's all conditioning from society, everything is. Don't belive what's the color blue, is this blue or is this blue. Can you be sure, what if all your life you were tought this blue, then you would "know that this (blue) was accurate. The truth is society dictates what we belive, there is no universal truths, at least not ones that come from society. Math and science does not so it can be [universal truth], which is why you only take three credits worth of those and four of the ones dictated by society. Much like religion the subjects which are procured from society are taaught to engrain the ideas of society into your head. If not for society there would be no human "feelings", there would would only be emotions, and basic ones like love, not fear or hate. Those are prreordained by society. Society tells you what to be affraid of, what to hate, and not what to love. Although what you precive as "atractive" is. That's what we like to call lust, true love is not controlled by society, in fact quite the opposite. Society has tried to controll love for millenia, but failed. Such examples as censorship of various materials in the victroian age, to the anchient practice of covering womens' faces in Islam. These are all atempts to controll the feeling of love, but for the most part are unsuccessful. Thank goodness. Society is evil face it, it wants to control you. If it can't do that it will try to convince you its points are correct such as this "truth" blue. |
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| Basically,he's talking about Plato's Allagory of the cave |
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I'm going to have to go and disagree with all of you :P And I'm not disagreeing out of the sake of disagreeing but out of experience. It's happened twice with me. I loved two of them (not at the same time of course!). They both found out i loved them. They both got all weird/akward around me and in the end both friendships died. DO NOT TELL HER YOU LOVE HER!!!! WAIT IT OUT!!! |
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by overlordsero
on 2006-02-21 21:26:17
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1.Tell her 2.Wait 1.You could end up with her or put your friendship in jeopordy. If you do this, make sure that it wont create any awkwardness or anything that can ruin what you all ready have. 2.She could dump/be dumped and then tell her how you feel.(If she was dumped, wait a couple days to let her get over it) or you could do.... Option 3! 3.Sabotage the relationship she has now and tell her. But if she finds out.....cut all the loose ends! (I am just joking about Number 3) 
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on 2006-02-22 13:45:58 |
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That is quite impressive dirtyninja. How old are you anyway? You seem to be a very knowledgeable person. |
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About dirty ninja's comment "Such examples as censorship of various materials in the victroian age, to the anchient practice of covering womens' faces in Islam." Firstly, in Islam, it is not emphasized that the faces of the islamic women should be covered but rather their hair. The coverage of the face is not a must except in extremist countries such as saudi arabia and afghanistan. Secondly, when a woman's hair is being covered, it is merely a tact used to prevent lust rather than love. Lust and love are quite different. Having experienced both, I will tell you that Lust is only the need for contact with another being. It is purely to relieve physical needs. Love however is a need to direct your emotional self towards a particular being. You can only truly love someone when you've interacted and delved into each other's soul. What I'm trying to say is that there is no such thing as love at first sight but rather lust at first sight. Love can only be acquired through time and can only be mutual. You can't force someone to love you. So if it doesn't seem like she loves you or is interested in you that way, I suggest you let it drop. Or if you're really stubborn you could pursue your quest for her love :P But you'd have a much harder time of doing it rather than those 14th century knights in shining armour who could obtain a lady's love through a single heroic deed. :P I wish you luck with that dilema. |
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on 2006-02-23 01:37:48 |
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for me it depends upon the situation..if the girl is still single maybe you shold go for it!if theres nothing that will stop you from doing so.. but if she already has a boyfriend right now i dont think its a good idea for you to jump to the scene..it will just make things worst between you and her and can end up, her hating you and that will surely hurt you.. -kino- 
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confess.... its the only way to make ur life easier. if you dont.... the thought that she will be gone from you will HAUNT you for a long time. ...not gone but ur closeness as friends will not be the same. ----------------------------- i, too have that debate in my mind. "to tell him or not to tell him" in the end i didnt tell him now my mind is being haunted by the thought that when i had my chance i didnt take it and i dont want you to suffer the same faith. ------------------------------ gud luck anyway...
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