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To Seek or not to Seek (a GF)
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| I have never had a girlfriend, I have never found anyone I like more than a slight crush, I am 18. I so far have been of the opinion that someone for me will eventually come along. I have recently been thinking if I should start being more proactive in looking for someone. (I should first say I am not that good looking (at least I think that anyway) and I have never been one for making myself look any better. I wear sweatpants (sometimes jeans) and t-shirts in the winter and t-shirts and shorts in the summer. I wear large boots all winter and during summer alternate sandals and tennis shoes (sneakers). I don't comb my hair or do much of any kind of management with any of those types of things and just have regular hair cuts.) Because of all of that I am somewhat of the opinion that no normal girl would like me, so I am kind of just waiting. What do you guys (or more so girls) here think of this. |
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by zparticus27
on 2007-12-12 23:33:48
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| well i'm in the same boat as you pal hahaha kinda...i mean time will come and you'll find the girl you'll like that you yourself would want to make a move on her...no use searching if your just looking to have a gf right...you'll find her eventually ^^V |
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on 2007-12-13 05:27:50 |
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I may not be the same type with you bro, but it doenst matter whether your wearing this or that, or even your hairstyle.. what matters most is your attitude..well im saying this by my opinion ok. And also like Z said, they will just eventually appear..no need for searching..but if your the type of person who really wanted to have a gf for experience *--im not thinking of the green ones ok?--* then hook someone..its not that hard though..just cling in with the person you want to be your "gf" and afterwards who may think that your relationship may work. I will not go into details bout on how you will escort your girl but simply do it on your own.   
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on 2007-12-13 08:37:16 |
I belive to need need to show some sort of effort in finding a girl, because if you don't then how will a girl know that you will work and put effort into a realsonship?. I could say things that are a lot more depressing considering my attidute on the subject but yeah, Show some effort and they will see it.  
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if you're a guy, then you have to seek for GF (but thats your freedom, actually) coz a girls won't seek for a BF. they just wait~ |
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by
 
on 2007-12-14 03:16:10 |
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@Kiseno- wow, Kiseno. That's so bloody wrong. I am a girl myself and I do have crushes in the past and I had to do all the communicating work (no stalking, don't worry ^^) and the boys were so slow to get the point! And they always have no clue what it is and ignored me in the end! God, that's not the first time! Awh, Ergzay, to let a girl attracted to you naturally is just a painstaking time. No normal girl would like you? What do you mean by that? That's a bit ambiguous to me. What, in your opinion, is a no normal girl? I want to hear that first from you. There's no point waiting though. You gotta at least make a nice conversation, even a short greeting (or even ask, is somebody sitting here?), to build the communication. That'll tell you that you already put an effort communicate with her. If you really need a girlfriend, better start off as being friends. I think that's the most important part cuz it establishes communication. And trust, interests and so forth. When the time's right (must take days), tell her you love her. |
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on 2007-12-14 03:50:19 (edited 2007-12-14 03:50:59)
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nyaya! omg w00t0s ur a girl?? ooh no~ss i nvr knw ~~, anyways nvm that xD ayee this topic is intriguing... xDD well yeh i heve to agree with u w00t0s guys r slow at picking up the labu labu waves! xDD going back to ergzay well since ur the guy here i think that u shuld make the first move =D u shuldnt just wait for the girl's coming, go look for her =D ~well let man do the chasing as they say xDD~ 
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by zparticus27
on 2007-12-14 03:54:57
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@kiseno we live in a world where girls chase the men >.< *points at shuffle for reference* though it sounds weird...its a free world but really...MEN SHOULD COURT WOMEN!! its a guy's duty to ^^ |
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To make myself clear I am not really in need of a GF. I have just been wondering. One reason I haven't gone out looking is that the vast majority of girls I have ever known aren't even close to fitting what I want. I am extremely picky. A few issues of which if they don't fit I won't even consider them, even if I fall head over heels over them, if they don't match a few certain things, I won't go out with them. I know guys are supposed to seek the girl, but in my case I am much more likely to find a bad girl for me than a good one. Oh and by normal I mean the average of all of the girls I have ever known. |
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on 2007-12-15 20:12:43 (edited 2007-12-15 20:14:54)
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I completely disagree with Kiseno. I'm a lady and I was normally the one doing the chasing although most of them...I had to come out and say, "hey, you know...I like you." lol I will admit...I always did have a lot of fun chasing, but I prefer to be courted and wooed. I guess I like things old fashioned at times. There's nothing wrong with having standards on what kind of gal you're looking for. If you're not really in "need"/wanting one in particular then yeah, just do what you normally do. Don't put yourself down though. You'd be surprised at what kind of guys us girls will go for. ^_~ When you decide you're interested in someone...strike up a conversation and go from there. No point in really looking per say. It will happen when it's time to happen.  |
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on 2007-12-15 20:48:35 |
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well maybe i'm in the same boat as Ergzay.... my friends have and start searching for girlfriend and personally i don't need a gf that desperately, i have my college to conquer first then my dream........ well generally i have a lot to do. for once i'm going to say if you cannot care for yourself how can you take care other just a pure though not discriminate about girl have to be taken care of, but really if you start a relationship with other you bound to care about them... 
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on 2007-12-16 14:34:12 |
Well, from my experience, my gf just kind of came to me. We've actually been together since like er..freshman year of high school until now. Which is a very, very, very long time. I think you should just wait and see. 
So I drove into a parking lot one time and saw this person pull into a handicap parking spot. When you think handicap, you think wheelchair and whatever, right? So it just ticked me off when I saw the guy come out of the car perfectly fine. So then I ran him over. |
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by
 
on 2007-12-16 19:31:21 |
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for me, it isn't to seek or not to seek a GF, rather, it is why you want to seek a GF (or BF). the situation varies differently with every people. he may want to seek a GF because of a feeling of longingness or because of society and peer pressure. others seek because they want the feeling of protecting someone... the most important thing is your attitude (just like Ich said) and your heart. one day you will eventually find the girl that will change your life forever~!  |
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| @ wootos-san: yea~ i know~ but i never seek any boyfriend to get them. it's just wasting my time~ |
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on 2007-12-17 07:06:14 |
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XD lol vie shocker! Anyway, I do agree what Ergzay said. I am picky too. That way I can chose the best guy so far that I want to fall in love with. If I don't be picky, it's a risky thing and in the end ended up as friends (which I prefer that ^_^). @kiseno- I rather put my effort than put no effort at all. That way shows 'that time', I already used it. Nothing wasted. What's wasting time is not trying at all. I think. |
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by zparticus27
on 2007-12-17 20:49:12
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well said key and koganei! key is right...why take on more responsibilities when you cant comprehend your own ^^ |
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on 2007-12-18 10:31:39 |
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when it comes to relationships the word 'should' needs to be banished. First up you need to think about is why you might want one. If you just think you need to have one because you haven't before then you really should just say nevermind the whole matter. There are people who take relationships very casually but generally I do believe that deep down at least for girls they are looking to find someone where it will last. That doesn't mean they won't get into a casual relationship it just means depending on what you would like you have to give certain amounts of effort. In the event you're just being casual about it and don't have any major desire to have a girlfriend or to start looking for osmeone you might share the rest of your life with some day. I think you're just fine as you are really and just let things come as they do. In the event you are having some more long term thoughts or are at least just committed to the idea of finding someone you are going to have to make some effort. Whether people realize it or not we make judement about people's personality and mannerisums upon how the act, look and present themselves. There fore depending on the kind of girl you are looking for you are going to have to shape yourself to optimize your plus's and make your faults look better. Also for instance say you want a girl that is atheletic, you then will need to become somewhat atheletic yourself. Next item is being picky/having standards is a good thing but they don't mean a damn if you don't hold yourself to them as well. Further more you need to examin if all of your pickyness in certain things is really fair. Because sometimes things you want in someone may be...well shallow. You could come across a great person but because say they're taller than you you won't go for them. In that case you really just need to get over it, if not then be prepared to be alone. Also keep in mind that some times are subject to change. Say you don't like smokers and she smokes. If she likes you enough if you ask her to quit she just might if she thinks you're serious about pursuing a relationship. So don't be so rigid, it's not all cut in stone. |
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hmmm. well in my experience...if I just wait for girls to gravitate toward me, they're all the wrong ones (whether it's because I have no attraction for them at all, or they're evil succubi just waiting to use me), and when I try to search for the right girl, I get rejected or find out prior to asking them out that they have no interest in me at all -__- .. ... ... T^T well anyway, if you want girls to come to you, at least make yourself look presentable, hang out with alot more girls, smile more often, be a funny guy. it's always a plus to be a good conversationalist as well. *sigh* -___- this reminds me of a friend who never had a crush on anyone, and everyone just assumed that he was asexual. 
wooo maplestory |
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on 2008-11-23 23:36:31 |
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for me... I'd rather say that GF/BF could wait until you have been ready for the cost bro... remember this. You still need to study a lot; You still don't have a work (or just a part timer) while having date means money (commonly...); You can't know when you suddenly didn't have muchtime remembering your age is differ 2 from me... it is hard to schedule time especially on these ages...; so... for me I'd rather just befriend with The girl whom I loved... then when I'm ready... I'll try to shoot her with my M4A1 Carbine... 
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by
 
on 2008-11-24 00:45:23 (edited 2009-03-26 04:57:54)
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Hmmm...To Seek...To enjoy your Youth that is. If you're 18+ and still single.Seek one now!     |
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