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Is it wise to get romantic with a friend?
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Me and my friend got really bored one day and started talking about anything that popped into our heads. One thing that came up was is it wise to get romantic with one of your friends. I argued that it would be kind of awkward if it didn't work out, while my friend argued that life is too short. Seeing how I am once again bored I would like to see your take on it.  |
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by
 
on 2007-10-25 20:31:09 (edited 2007-10-25 20:32:47)
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Been through this many times. It depends on the person and the the friend. For me, anyone I become friends with pretty much is a permanent friend and our relationship will not go more than that. Actually, they all call me the wiser brother if I know them for a long period of time. So this led me to a philosophy, there seems to be a period where you're open to get closer to the girl/guy before becoming permanent friend (or enemies). The reason for that reasoning is that, once you know the person for a while, the thought, "Oh, he/she is just a friend" gets stuck in your head like super glue. So you become used to seeing that person as a friend and nothing more but can later be something less. That's why we would perceive becoming close with a friend is awkward. Well, most of us that is. Of course, I've known some few couples that have known each other since K-grade. So this philosophy doesn't apply to a few occasions.  |
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on 2007-10-25 22:06:31 (edited 2007-10-25 22:08:14)
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erk.. being romantic to a friend is really awkward.. and what if he misunderstood it yayks he myt think that u like him and love will develop scary >.< 
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on 2007-10-26 04:40:43 |
| Can be.. Just don't show PDA... I mean Public Display of Affection... I have a best friend... I think os, she doesn't treat me as best friend but I do... Then we got closer... Now I think I fell in love with her (Okay,,, I don't know if its true love or infatuation..)... Now I tell her always why she's so cute... Everything she does, she has, is cute! Hehe... But I don't do romantic things to her or else she might find out... |
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on 2007-10-26 05:38:56 |
If your talking about being friend w/ benefits I would think it was ok. But if either of you would be uncomferable I wouldn't go for it.  
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by
 
on 2007-10-28 10:59:59 |
| I prefer to be best friends than starting any romance within my friendship. I thought it's better off to spark off romance with a new person. The feeling is always different, because a couple learn together on how to get along, how to cope any situations, and to develop their love. Worst thing is, love is strong, yeah, but it's the romance that regulates love--- friendship works differently, and easily too. In the end, friendship always lasts long, no matter if you made enemies out of your only best friends. |
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on 2007-11-15 13:04:22 (edited 2007-11-15 13:05:30)
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You can't combine romantic relationship and friendship together~ THOUGH most people started off their romantic by friendship~ Let's see~ Boys to Boys~> Hardly see friendship becomes romance but possible that boys started romance through friendship but really..Fat chance Boys to Girls~> This might be the higher chance of it getting into romance~but then..some may not and they would like friendship becomes into business associate something like that.However..most relationship of bf/gf because of the friendship~but then the chances of getting into marriage status would be really thin too(since you know that person so much as the person knows you much too,it is hard to associate and become lover as lover needs to united one where as your friend and you are already about 'united' and therefore..couldn't work up that much) though..there's much success about it into romance~ Girls to girls~>..well..let's see..when they are sad or whatever..they get hooked up together..so mostly..i dont think it would work up for any romance relationship~but then there's some would get themselves into lovers..(still..it's few..) So..we can try to conclude that romantic with a friend~it doesnt really get that long(unless both you and your friend never ever make into friendship but the thought of wanted to become couple together one..) Just my opinion,no offense |
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by OmegaPhatts
on 2007-11-15 22:35:23
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I wouldn't know. Most girls I know think of me as the "BIG BROTHER" figure rather than boyfriend material, which sucks. That being said, I CAN see problems, but that is only on a case by case basis. I have seen people that were friends that have become more. So, it's all a matter of how you and the other person feel. If the other person agress, then okay, if not, then no.
"Suffer the little ones, for they may yet rise up and beat you senseless." Druid's Call, from Magic: The Gathering
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by Mystic Deadman
on 2007-11-15 23:56:38
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| It really depends on where you think the relationship could go. If you think things will not necessarily work out in the end, it's probably better that you not pursue and just remain friends. If you believe you two can make things work out, then perhaps you could pursue on a trial basis. Either way, don't get too serious too quickly, or else you will make things awkward between you. |
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on 2007-11-20 10:54:18 |
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I think that it would depend on who the people involved were. If you could still be cool with the other person after the relationship ended, then why not go for it. I do agree though that if you cant get over the awkwardness after the break, then it probably isnt a good idea.
"Life's simple. You make choices and you dont look back" "All that matters is knowing what you really want... and going after it"
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on 2007-11-26 13:33:11 (edited 2007-11-26 13:35:11)
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| i think whether you can or can't get over the awkwardness at the end is something you'll never know till the end, no matter what you think at the beginning. i think the important thing is communication and thinking through your feelings. if you really want a shot at something with this person and are ready to accept the consequences and take a chance then that is better for you than suffering wondering what could have been. secondly you of course need to talk to the other person about how you feel and how they feel, and any worries about your friendship not being salvagable if you break up. although, it is kinda a bad omen to talk about the end at the beginning, heh. well just my opinion! :D good luck people. |
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on 2007-11-29 17:59:20 |
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Do you like that friend? If you do, then get romantic! :D Or maybe not because it just might be awkdward if that friend doesn't feel the same way... o_O Or you two can talk it out and just go out for the heck of it! o_O 
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on 2007-12-02 12:14:49 |
Well, I think it's just a bad idea to Date somebody who has been a friend for a short time, And okay if it was for a long time cuz' I bet you already had alot of romantic moments with the long time friend But make sure in the romanitic parts the you guys both click! <3
Just get over it!~
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by Taleniekov
on 2007-12-04 09:13:35
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It depends on how you define romance. If it means 'spank it and thank it' then no, it's not wise. That's what anonymous sex and hookers are for. If it means you want a kid with them, then it's alright, but still not wise.
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on 2007-12-04 18:41:04 |
It really depends, if your not sure about it don't go with it, a mistake in a close relationship can easily mess up any ounce of friendship you had with that person; however, if you already know how it might turn out and both are confident go for it.  |
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by OmegaPhatts
on 2007-12-04 20:37:10
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I have to agree with Kenko. You shouldn't try to go out with a friend that you have only know for a short time. I did that. I went out with a girl that I only knew for about a few months, and worked with her on top of that. I should have gotten to know about her quriks and problems BEFORE I went out with her. Needless to say, the relationship failed miserably, and I ended up having to quit the job because there was no getting along with her. All I have to say is just be CAREFUL!
"Suffer the little ones, for they may yet rise up and beat you senseless." Druid's Call, from Magic: The Gathering
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on 2007-12-08 06:20:22 |
I think that if you guys are, like, really close, you should give it a try. My mom always told me to have a boy be my best friend before he could be my boyfriend. I think that's the way to go, and life is too short, so go for it, just be careful and remember that nothing always works out.  |
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by
 
on 2007-12-08 06:34:06 |
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frankly, I don't think it's wise to get romantic with a casual friend close friends on the other hand, .. there could be possibilities ;) most relationships that last are based on long-term friendships :) you know each other through good AND bad times, so you're both used to each other's weakness and insecurities. it won't be awkward for both parties to talk about things like this and that, since you've both been used to each other for so long. ^^ for casual friends --- the "romance" doesn't really last ;p    m y . L i F E . i . t r a d e . i n . f o r . y o u r . P A i N . |
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on 2007-12-13 05:41:35 |
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Well if your prepared to take your one step forward why not..no opinions needed..just be prepared with the outcomes though..or rather ending up throwing your bonds in the trashcan..   
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I'm kinda learning from experience that it can go either way. one of my best friends, I liked her, she liked me, we went out, twice, both times in failure cuz we're both immature. and I was really mad at her for a while. but in the end we couldnt help but smile at each other whenever we saw each other. in the long run our relationship got stronger I guess. for my other best friend, I liked her, and I let that little secret slip to one of my other friends. that friend blabbed out right in front of my best friend, then she starts crying because she only ever thought of me as a friend. We don't talk much anymore. it's awkward. I always saw that as an indirect rejection and I would never get over it. It really sucks. I never told her that I liked her, but she already knew, and I know what the answer would be if I asked her out. so yea. from what I've experienced, it looks like it might not be worth it. But I'll go against my experience and tell you that you should go for it if you really feel like you like/love your best friend that much. if all should fail, in the end you'll either still be friends or you wont even talk to each other. tough, huh? 
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