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Help! Im in love with my best friend!
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by [fullmetal]
on 2007-04-01 15:12:54
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And I don't know how to tell her. (yeah, im bi deal with it) What should I do? How do I tell her? |
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Re: Help! Im in love with my best friend!
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on 2007-04-01 15:14:14 |
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Just get into a serious conversation with her, but think it over before hand. [sorry, this might be a lazy simple response from me for now... (-_-)] 
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Re: Help! Im in love with my best friend!
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on 2007-04-01 15:38:08 (edited 2007-04-01 15:39:06)
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hmm...well, i would say...pick a good time and try to ask her how she feels about your relationship, but don't go straight into asking if she likes you more than a friend or anything. Understand her feelings first, and then you'll be more clear as to whether or not to confess to her. Keep in mind that sometimes, if you rush things too fast (i.e. telling her you like her more than a friend outright), things might not turn up the way you want. Be patient, and think it through before doing/saying anything too rash. i'm sure that even if she doesn't like you the way you like her (keep in mind that im not saying she doesn't like you that way), you would like to still be friends with her, right? ^^ umm i hope that helped..kinda? loll, im not sure if i was making sense..but that's all i can think of right now ^0^ good luck~! ganbatte ne~ ^^ 
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Re: Help! Im in love with my best friend!
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on 2007-04-01 16:47:03 |
Just forget the whole thing and walk away. :) JK.  |
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Falling inlove with a friend is clearly hard to decide... Of Course due to the fact that at first you werent actually attracted to them romantically in the first place... Most importantly you could be risking your current relationship with your friend right now... are you seriously sure you wish to start a relationship? You do know once you start going there... It wont be the same again...  Kneel Before the Great and Benevolent Cow! |
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Re: Help! Im in love with my best friend!
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on 2007-04-01 18:35:39 |
ok, to make things much easier for you, my dear, Take a deep breath, let it go, and talk to the person. Best let it settle in before it's too late, right? Go for it! The sooner the better. Don't wait. You wait, you lose it and you doubt it. Go now and prevail!  |
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on 2007-04-02 01:16:39 |
just say "I LOVE YOU" and it's done.. mission accomplished :D  |
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on 2007-04-02 01:18:17 |
@legendkiller:easy for you to say  |
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Re: Help! Im in love with my best friend!
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by MiCHiYo μ
on 2007-04-02 05:38:28
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the fact that you're bent... does the know this? and is she too? i have to admit, it IS hard to be bent. in my opinion, the first thing you should do is figure out, or find out, if she knows your gender status. (yeap, i'm being frank here.) and clarify, if needed, the difference between being twisted (gay) and bent (bisexual), because there's the whole misconception of both being the same thing, which is so not. if she knows your situation, and fully understands it, it might be safe to finally let her know how you feel about her. you should assure her that you still DO like guys, and that your friendship will not change. the only difference is that it will go a tad bit deeper than how you are now. in fact, i don't reckon it going anywhere deeper than how it is now, since you two are as close as best friends. if she accepts your state, and that you love her more than just a best friend, then that's great. but, are you okay if she won't accept it? you need to keep a mindset that if she doesn't, you're willing to be friends with her still, and hopefully even a best friends status. well, before all this, you need to keep in mind that a vast majority of your friends might just start looking at you differently. it might be an underground thing where you live, but hey, what's important is that you are accepted by them. be calm. relax. it's your best friend. she's supposed to be the first one to understand. remember? she brushes you away, expect that. but make sure that you talk to her later on. sorry if i'm sounding really negative. but the best way to get to the positive side of things is by looking at the negative aspects. neh? ^^ if you need to talk more about this to anyone, feel free to PM me or email me. my email is in my profile. you just have to hunt it down. ^^ -michiyo- 
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Re: Help! Im in love with my best friend!
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by [fullmetal]
on 2007-04-02 19:15:38
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^_^ Thanks you guys. Most of you seem to be telling me to take this slowly, and I'm, trying to. I'm sending her hints and she seems to be understanding them, but I still need some advice so keep it coming. Sorry I didn't mention it before, but yeah, my friends do no that I'm Bi. They don't treat me any differently, and we're still all very close. |
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Re: Help! Im in love with my best friend!
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on 2007-04-03 13:07:12 |
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With all joking-ness aside. Here is my two cents. My experience with tell someone you love that you love him/her is that the simpler it is, the more effective the message. I hate to be cliche but like the Nike slogan says, "Just do it". Now with this said, I have to say, with all serious, that you should walk away, because you are still young. You have to ask yourself are you ready to risk your heart for this person. What will this relationship lead to? Are you and/or the other person mature enough to have a meaningful relationship? Basically, it comes down to commitment. Sexual orientation is not an issue if your friend accepts you as you are. I just worry about whether you are truely ready given your age. Yes, I am chronologically biased. I know how you feel about relationship. I was there myself. I am sure we have all been there. |
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Re: Help! Im in love with my best friend!
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on 2007-04-03 15:52:12 (edited 2007-04-05 19:20:53)
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just be aware of the consequences.That,and tell her how you feel.If you don't,then you'll be wondering what would have happened if you would've told her. 
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Re: Help! Im in love with my best friend!
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on 2007-04-04 02:51:07 |
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i agree with the most of the people. go and talk that will help ^^  |
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on 2007-04-04 03:10:06 |
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Well... I was too lazy to read the other posts tbh. But here's my point of view... Tell her... Before you might regret it... Its better to regret telling her than not to... From past experiences, a chance should be taken... No matter how small... Dont keep it in too long.. Or you'll b regretting it for life... Yes.. I believe its better to take that chance...  Claimed |
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Yeah I agree with them, just tell her the truth about how you feel. Take the chance. Whatever happens, its a better feeling that you told her, than keeping it to yourself as a burden for your heart.    |