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| Well, good luck. You've managed to find the only subject on which I know very little. I'm kind-of musically inept. Once you set your mind to it I'm sure ou'll do well, especially with the conviction you're showing now. |
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@Pame: You know what they say: "there will always be someone that is better than you at everything". Those things are the ones that give us the motivation for becoming better and better everyday. Try to look at it this way. Well, I'm deppressed because I won't be able to be here much time this week, because of lots of things at college. But, hey!, that's why I'm studying for right? for learning!.   |
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on 2006-11-13 20:15:52 (edited 2006-11-13 20:21:13)
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...oi... i got into an argument with my bf yesterday....and he still haven't forgiven me... i know it's my fault but i already apologized to him, but he just won't forgive me....and it's not even a big deal either!! *sigh*...sry, but i can't tell you guys why we argued... i just emailed him...and asked him on msn about it, but he told me that he hasn't decided how to say whatever he was going to say yet...and now hes offline... i'm so frustrated and scared of what he would say..... why is being in a relationship so hard.... 
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Maybe becoz u still dont fully understand each other... *Sigh* i lost a tennis match just now and my coach says i have to go for practice everyday after school... My school ends at 5 and i wonder how long i have to practice to satisfy him... AHHH!!! I wanna QUIT tennis!!!  |
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@FA- Try not to worry. Arguements in relationships happen all the time, it's bound to happen no matter how much either of you love eachother. Just wait things out and let him think things through. You apologized, I'm sure he'll calm down and whatever he's going to say won't be bad.    |
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I have no clue who your boyfriend is or how he ticks but I'll assume he's a good man and I'll try to explain from the man's perspective. Relationships are a collaberation in general and when that fine balance is lost then people with strong feelings will have those feelings in the good and the bad. A man who loves passionately has the capacity to hate passionately. Guys are pretty simplistic. They have a guiding set of rules which they all live by. These rules can change but it doesn't change the fact that they are still guiding him. These rules are unique to every individual.(I'm pretty sure girls are like this but I'm not one so I won't speak) You can slap, beat, poke, prod, and belittle a man on any aspect of his life until those things come into conflict with his guidelines. When these are undermined or attacked then most men find it completely inexcuseable. It's hard for a man to look at someone the same way once they have attacked what, at the very core, is his true self. In example of my own siuation to back this up. My ex-girlfriend was my love. I loved her so much I would have killed or died for her. When one day she gave into her insecure natures and brought my loyalty into question. This is one of my guidelines. No one questions my loyalty because I am honor-bound by the bonds I make between friends and family. This set me reeling because it is something I just could not excuse. After she begged for forgiveness and explained her reasonings behind it I did forgive her. Though as time passed I just could not look at her the same way. It just wasn't possible for me to do. Eventually I did get over it and things were patched up between us. Though she betrayed me in other ways. But that's her. Not to say this is the case in your situation because as I have seen in life, everyone is different. Though the majority of guys I hang around have affirmed my theory it is still my opinion that I have gained through the scope of my life. As long as you have explained yourself and asked for forgiveness then there is nothing else to do. It is all on your boyfriend from here on. It might just take a little time for him to sort things. Have faith. |
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by night_link
on 2006-11-14 00:05:48 (edited 2006-11-14 00:11:21)
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Hi, is there any room in this thread for someone like me?? Wow, reading all these posts, I see you guys are really good friends! I'm not depressed right now but I wanted to share something that was depressig me for a long while. There was a girl that I loved so much because she reminded me of my mother. While she only saw us as friends, I decided recently to ask her how she felt. This whole time, I've been devoting my time almost thinking about her and trying to do anything she needed help on. But... I had a price to pay. My body couldn't take it. It was costing me sleep I needed badly because of the many college classes I was taking. But I didn't care. Until though, this attitude nearly costed me the friendship I was having with my best friend, someone I've known for 10 years. I asked her. She said she did like me, but doesn't feel she deserved me. To be honest, I felt happy I could finally know so I can rest my mind at ease. I've waited 3 years to ask. Didn't know the right time, place, way, and so on. We are still good friends. I don't know how I'm supposed to act according my age to this situation, but I'm the slightest bit depressed anymore. There is also someone who has become her boyfriend recently. I can trust her judgement about him and know he'll take care of her the best way he knows. As for me, everything's back to a way I feel free about. Oh! I need some shut eye though... I'll try to visit more often to help some people! Pame, dont worry! I'm like that abot drawing too! I can't draw anything but I've set my mind to trying! I'm gonna be unique in my way! |
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by overlordsero
on 2006-11-14 13:00:23
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well i guess i can post and just let people know im alive, though i guess i did that in the bar....ehh. I am just at the library waiting for my car to be finihed being flushed and hopefully it stops over heating. oh and my laptop has issues but i will try and get on. 
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by SuicidopoliS
on 2006-11-14 14:12:27 (edited 2006-11-14 14:25:53)
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Night Flying said:" I asked her. She said she did like me, but doesn't feel she deserved me. To be honest, I felt happy I could finally know so I can rest my mind at ease. I've waited 3 years to ask. Didn't know the right time, place, way, and so on. We are still good friends. I don't know how I'm supposed to act according my age to this situation, but I'm the slightest bit depressed anymore. There is also someone who has become her boyfriend recently. I can trust her judgement about him and know he'll take care of her the best way he knows." Well, i lived a similar situation... only... from the moment my (girl)friend got a boyfriend ( one of my own old friends b.t.w. ), i never heard from her again. Just like that, snap, dissapeared out of my life, like she's dead or something. It's like all of a sudden she's überscared of me ( coz' like always, situations like that are complicated ). Such events make you wonder what the hell friendship 's worth anyway. That event, together with some other thing that happened to me before, gave me a SERIOUS lack of trust in people. I think that, except for my own mother, there's no person alive on this planet anymore that i really trust for the full 100%. It's kindda of cynical, isn't it? All those previous posts about "the good old times" made me think about a song... One of my favourites actually. "When we look back at it all as I know we will You and me, wide eyed I wonder...will we really remember How it feels to be this alive? And I know we have to go, I realize We only get to stay so long Always have to go back to real lives Where we belong Where we belong Where we belong When we think back to all this And I'm sure we will Me and you here and now Will we forget the way it really is Why it feels like this And how? And we always have to go, I realize We always have to say goodbye Always have to go back to real lives But real lives are the reason why We want to live another life We want to feel another time Another time... Yeah, another time To feel another time... When we look aback at it all as I know we will You and me, wide eyed I wonder...will we really remember How it feels to be this alive? And I know we have to go, I realize We always have to turn away Always have to go back to real lives But real lives are why we stay For another dream Another day For another world Another way For another way... One last time before it's over One last time before the end One last time before it's time to go again..." The Cure - Out Of This World I listen waaaaaay too much to The Cure, excuse me for that... But that song is just so gorgeous, and the lyrics haunt me from the first time i heard them! .oO° Life's THE CURE, the rest are details! °Oo. |
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wow, it has been too long... im glad to be seing some new people on the thread, welcome all! i cant remember and dont care to check when my last post was...but Laura finally got back to me on friday and asked how is was..i said trhat i was sick and i wans sorry...she said it was ok and that we might be able to hang out again soon....*sigh* shes soo cool!  |
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on 2006-11-14 16:20:59 (edited 2006-11-14 16:22:05)
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OMG! i JUST WANT TO SHOOT MYSELF RIGHT NOW! (It's a saying..) I can't believe what she just told me...I really can't I don't know how the hell to react to that!...I'm feeling betrayed...and lonely again...I hate to feel this way. I hate it... She is supposed to be my best friend...and i thought...Gosh...Whatever!... I'm not making sense. I'm just pissed off...I'm hurt...ONCE AGAIN I CAN'T TRUST IN ANYONE ANYMORE!!!! WHY!!!! Why do you keep lying to me!~! WHY!!! |
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Figures, once track starts up the thread gets new members. FA, as I've said innumerable times love's one of those intangible all powerful things. It's so precisely balanced that even the slightest event can set into a problematic situation. It's probably best for you to let him gather himself, give him time to collect his thoughts and find what it is he really wants to tell you. If you try and force an answer out of him it may result in things being said that aren't meant, which is the death kiss to any relationship. Night Flying, nice to have you join our little corner of Gendou dot com. Don't worry you've made one of the four realizations of love. Those being the realization that you'd give anything for that person, that you'd never do anything to ever harm them in any way, that you put their needs before that of your own, and, most importantly, that you'd rather see them happy with someone else than with you. you've realized the final sacrifice for love, which is the ultimate sign of your love for that person. This realization does not mean that you're willing to just let them go, it means that you're willing to step back and let them do as they please without any jealousy. Congratulations on reaching the pinnacle of self sacrifice. Sero, I was getting a bit curious as to where you were. Nice to know you're alive. wow, nightmare, could you be anymore 50's. Big thumbs up to your achievement. Pame, details=good=help=you get better |
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by night_link
on 2006-11-14 22:00:05
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No it sometimes gets pretty slow. Some days it gets alot though. Nice to see you Sero. Dninja, I happen to disagree with the last one. I think its that ultimatum when one says they will never let go and that the promise to be with them forever true love. Sure if u don't let go u may make things hard on each other but at that point one isn't fighting for each others well being but rather for their own love in general. Letting go is the nice guys approach, but not the romantic one.  Jomunga eats your avatars. |
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by SuicidopoliS
on 2006-11-15 07:40:56 (edited 2006-11-15 07:42:49)
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It's kind of ironic, that in the "The Depression Thread" there are so many posts about love, isn't it? Love's a confusing tricky little thing. "What death will join, no more let love divide." Makes it all the more cynical... .oO° Life's THE CURE, the rest are details! °Oo. |
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You'll be surprised, especially after a long lag it usually comes back with 10 posts in the span of 3 hours. Jomunga, I am the "nice guy" that's the problem. I'm almost too nice, hence why I have lots of friends but few serious relationships. As a result my views are skewed towards that end of the spectrum. I guess you could call me a cynical idealist, I know all that's bad to expect from people while looking for their redeeming qualities. I'm able to overlook bad portions of people but I'm not naive enough to say that they don't have bad parts. This thread is like the remnants of a grander time, so a lot of the topics that ruled the other topic now pop in here every now and then. |
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I don't know, I think there's a time and place for that unselfish nature and that passionate nature in a relationship. I believe in a fine balance of those things. It's really hard to elaborate because of my sheer inexperience in the romantic area. I'm kinda stuck in that nice guy area like D-Ninja. I guess when it comes down to it, love is situational. There never is a game plan, just a no huddle offense at the 2-minute warning. You just have to try your little hearts out in the hopes of building a bond that'll never break no matter what tries to destroy it. Love is one of those topics everyone has or wants advice on. That little feeling we all get in our lives. The void we want to fill and the connection with another where you know you are never alone in this world. Wedding Crashers said it, "True love is finding your counter-point in another person." So ofcourse with our varying age groups of forum members where some are coming onto the dating/relationship field and some who are already veterans at it. Naturally there's a lot to talk about between the groups and friends are easily made. |
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by overlordsero
on 2006-11-15 20:37:11
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Well the whole thing on love is that it really is hard to be definent on anything pertaining to it. There are too many variables to have any concrete results. oh and my car is an evil piece of...(THUD!) "Sorry bout that folks, just the censorship taking over, so ahem I will now read a slightly different cleaned up versoin" My nice pink fluffy car has seemed to want to over heat from having a cracked headgasket, so to get it fixed the nice auto repair dude wants me to pay him about 700 dollars.So i am very happy. "Thank you and have a great day"
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by night_link
on 2006-11-15 23:40:32 (edited 2006-11-15 23:41:55)
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$700? I've heard better prices than that! I haven't seen Wedding Crashers yet. Maybe I should rent it... |
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by SuicidopoliS
on 2006-11-16 06:48:21 (edited 2006-11-16 06:53:57)
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All i meant when i said that it is kind of ironic to see so many posts about love in the Depression Thread, is that love is usually something considered a "positive" feeling, something that makes you feel good and makes you enjoy life... not something that brings you down and makes you want to kill yourself. Although my own exprience greatly contradicts that... In fact, i even got hurt so much i seriously got scared of love. Whenever i feel in love with someone ( i'm just an ordinary human after all, and that's one of those things you can't avoid ), i start to freak out like a motherfunarking maniac, because i get scared of all this, and all that, and all that might happen afterwards, and blablabla... I just see the Face of Doom staring at me, laughing it's ass of. And it always ends up making me depressed like hell ( even if i have a rather natural tendency towards depressions... ), cause i usually don't like to share my feelings with too many other people, so i just choke in them myself. .oO° Life's THE CURE, the rest are details! °Oo. |