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by overlordsero
on 2006-02-23 10:34:31
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So?? If you fail just keep at it! ^_^ I have done things and have stuff happen that I dont like and I regret. However I dont let it bother me, how??? 1.I have a crappy memory, that helps 2.I dont worry bout things cause it doesnt help 3.I just dont give a damn So what if this happened or I did this?? Do I regret it?? Yeah Would I change it?? NO why?? because it made me who I am today How many friends you think I have??? about...ZERO I am very bad at meeting people, I think I am getting better....hehe I just kept to myself, people just cause problems I dont need. But now...I still have no friends....lol...and do I care?? No, I mean I know people but not good enough to be considered friends. I guess I dont think too highly of myself that is all. I have no clue what the hech I am trying to say so I am gana stop typing...NOW... 
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eternaltorture is right dirtyninja. Just because you have been hurt in the past doesn't mean that you should push everyone away. Everyone in the world is not out to hurt you, there is someone out there who will understand you and care about you, you just need to find that person. What good will come from shutting others out. Raising your defences is not a natural effect of being hurt. True strength is the ability to overcome hardships and move on. If you can't overcome your hardships then you are weaker than I thought you were. I am not saying this to be mean, I'm not saying this to make you think that I understand what you went through. I am trying to tell you that your not living a lie, your making your life a lie. Just allow other people to get closer to you, life will be much more enjoyable that way. The wounds of a thousand can be cured by the loving touch of one.    |
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by desertranger
on 2006-02-23 12:42:34
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I've been hurt more than a few times. Even with Rin I kept barries in place after we met and it actually took a lot of time to let Rin inside. That's not right, I wanted her only past hurts kept he at a distance until we go to really know each other. By letting Rin inside we grew very close to each other. It was the same thing with her. We desparately wanted each other only we didn't know how to let the other in. I think that finally happen from a single incident, or at least it was the final straw that let all the water out of the dam on into the camels back. :) It lead to me understanding her deeper than anyone before her. Kotuso, I still don't know how old this guy is, I can tell ya that shutting all that down is gonna bite (byte?) you in the ass one day. Happened to me. I kept my emotions under tight control letting just little bit out through a marriage and 2 long love affairs before I ever met Rin. By the time I met her I was an Iceman. It was amazing how she cracked the ice only it didn't really melt until after I left the AF. Now I like being warm and fuzzy. Especially these days with all the probs going on. If I had kept it bottled up I wold have been a basket case if not dead.  |
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by eternaltorture
on 2006-02-23 12:58:57
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dirty ninja: making mistakes is normal, cuz you learn from them. ic why you raise your defenses, but once, you are hurt, doesn't it make you much stronger and see the truth?? |
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@DNinja I think your blowing things out of proportion. I wasn't close to her,I was close to her for her answers.=) She was smart(and never noticed a peak at her paper),and I passed the 2nd grade with flying colors too.^_^ I don't remember her name anyways. And she never knew mine....heheh I was a ninja in 2nd grade.....You could say I was a Junin from the Land of the Cheat. 15 correct jomunga |
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I was gonna say something but then I figured it would make another long argument putting me in the middle of it. After reading my sig I decided not to say it. Share your beliefs with us anyways Kotuso. Btw Kotuso said his age before I believe or maybe he said what grade he is in. Anyways I think he is 15 give or take a year maybe. Yes is is always nice to melt the ice. Nice quote Jonathan and nice imput. Woops I started bleeding uncontrolably for some strange reason. I'll end this a bit early. *runs off to bathroom  Jomunga eats your avatars. |
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Sero, unfortunatly I have a near photograpic memory. I have trouble forgeting things, wow bet you'll never hear that again. I tend not to worry about things either, I'm the king of not caring. I haven't studied for a test since 5th grade. In fact I have a rather large assinment due tomarrow, but I'm not woring about it, I'm not even going to do it. As far as giving a large water retaing structure, I do care about my life's fun factor. I wouldn't be here if I didn't, and I probibly do my homework. You have friends, I consider you a friend, hell kotuso I consider one. Don't be too quick to say that you have no friends, when I moved this last time they had these nice sheets that you were suposed to write things like "how many people do you know the names of in this room. When I first filled it out I had to put 0, I truly had no friends at that point. As time went on I now know at least 10% of our graduating class. We have about 1200 kids graduating. Based on what you tell us I can surmize that you really don't socialize that much. I don't but I've spent enough time on the outside, the key to making friends is to have charisma. You have it, I have it, Kotuso has it, we all have it, it's just a matter of using it. I'm no social-ite like my sister, but I do make friends easy. It's a skill you develop when you have to make new ones every few years. The only problem is it's like cloning, the more friends you make the less of the freind they become. That is the root of all my problems, raipd friend making and slow matureing friendships. Jonathan, don't wory you'll never offend me. Offending me is like trying to make me angry, it's about the same chances of you finding a song from the 80's that doesn't have an innuendo in it. I realize that the entire world is not out to get me only a set few people. I hate to sound like I know every thing, which is impossible, but the idea of raising one's defenses in my case stems from the need to. You see all though those impressionable years of my life I was mentaly tortured. In oreder to not have a mental breakdown everyday I needed a way for my mind to protect itself. One of the ways was rationilizing my way out, saying that I was smartter than all these fools and bigger at that(which is kind-of ironic, I was the big smart kid and was the one being bullied). The other way was for my mind to turn in on itself, basically disappearing from the crowd. That has actually helped in some ways, I now have a great imagination and have no problem being alone. Athough it has lead to the constant defense of my mind, like a hermitcrab that you poke for too long my mind won't come out for a long time. I am have moved on it's not like I think about this stuff daily, well I do now but that's because I've been writting about it. In fact I haven't even contemplated my past in well over 3 months, since my seccond post ever. Truth be told I'm not that strong either, I'm actually quite weak when it comes to emotional stability. i.e. on valentines I was aprehensive untill about 11am then I became depressed, that lasted 'till about 5pm and after that I was pretty happy. I have emtional breakdowns every few weeks, and sometimes every few days. My emotional state is not one of solidity, in fact you could compare my emtional state as a this piece of balsa-wood. It can do fine on its own, but add weight to it and it'll snap. I do try to let others close to me, key words here are "try to let," I don't tend to take the initive. Ranger, good use of combinig cliches. This is Rin we're talking about here, so I'm sure she could do anything if she set her mind to it. Romatics are like that, I dated one for a while. I hate bottling of emotions, they spoil really quickly. The only thing you can do with them after they spoil is make cottage-emotion or emotion-yogurt. That stuff isn't very good for you, increases your blood pressure and can cause insanity if not handeled properly. WE'd all be dead if not for the ability to drain our emotions, to empty our pantry so-to-speak. enternal, yes and no. Yes to the part about mistakes no to the part about stength; yes to the strenghining. No to the truth, if I saw the truth from all the times I was hurt I would know everything. Seeing as how I don't I never really saw te true reasons behind anything. Sure I can make assumtions based on evidence, but to say I saw the truth, that's not true in it's self. I know not the true reason why I was betrayed on many occasions, on why my girlfriend left me, why I always meet the people I love at the wrong times, why so many other things happened I do know that they happened at there was a reason. I just fail to see the truth behind them. I did however shut people up when I won the arm wrestling competition in 6th grade. I moved right after that so it made little difference. Kotuso, just keep telling yourself that, whateve lets you sleep at night. It is possible that she noticed and let you copy. I used to do it all the time, especially if I liked the girl who was doing it. That and I almost always got every answer right, 2nd grade was easy. Come to think of it Whittney was in that class, happy memories for once. Jomunga, hope your not a hemophilliac, you could die. Use a sterile bandage hate to see a spontaionously bleeding wound get infected. |
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@DNinja Come to think of it,I don't know that many people in my CLASS,hardly any in my entire grade. I like bottling up emotions,or as the old saying goes "Showing your heart on your sleve" is not what I like to do. Besides,I wouldn't live long with my heart on my sleve. Heck i've had heart surgery once,don't need it twice. @Jonathan,I don't really think that raiseing your emotional defence is a sign of weakness,I think it is just a method. But,I do understand what you are trying to say,and I appreciate you opinion.(although it wasn't directed at me) You see I haven't gone through any emotional crises in my life,I kept my defenses up since after preschool.(not during it) I'll never let them down,why? Cause i'm "opionated," if that's a good way of putting it. @Jomunga Sorry,but i've already said my beliefs,anyone who wants to know for pure insight should go look on love oriented threads.(like this one)Lol You see i've kind of loosened my mental block a bit. I don't need any reasons,or any mind numbing thoughts to stop the emotion. The way I see it,the only reason for me to really say I believe is to not need any arguments between myself or other people. I think that if I state my opionion and you(or somebody else) states thiers than that should be it. I do understand,however,that somepeople don't want to leave it as just that. So simple explainations,not reasons is what I would use. To tell you the truth,the mental block was planned to be Temporary anyways.(started in 8th grade,ends now) |
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I agree with Ranger. Keeping those emotions bottled, especially if your an emotional person to begin with, will work against you one day. I don't show my heart on my sleeve yet I am a very emotional person and for a long time Ranger didn't know how to cope with my emoti0onal releases. After his breakdown and when the floodgates opened it was a lot easier for him to understand only now it can be very difficult for him to control his emotions. I have also found, that when you keep your emotions under tight control the one that comes to the surface most often is anger.  |
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Kotuso, showing your heart on your sleve is a good way to lose it. Have you tried to keep anything on your sleve, one time I had this huge glob of jelly...so the entire table was alomst on the floor laughing. That's a long time for concious mental block, usualy they become ingrained into the processes that take place after only a few weeks, to have it happen after(I assume) 2 years is a feat. I'm suprised you only started in 8th grade, I thought you had that kind fo conviction since, well, a long time ago. I have a feeling that your the kid who on the 20th graduation aniversary they'll have a picture of you with a big question mark directly under it. You know, even if you don't know people, people know you. Trust me, I get compleat strangers that come up to me and start talking to me. I also doubt that your defenses have been up since after pre-school, you probibly didn't even know you had defenses then. It is really not good to keep bottling those emotions. It's like punching through our school's walls, if you can get your hand out you'll probibly die from the asbestos fibers. If you ever have a change of heart(I doubt it) I'm sure your "opionated" nature will serve you well. 'Cause it's doing a dandy job now. Rin, or sadness. Released emotions tend to cause a increase in endorphin release. Now I do know that endorphins cause happiness, but the overwhelming of the receptors for endorphins causes a short period of pleasure but withdrwal sets in after. That's what causes your sadness, anger, or what-not all thanks to the hypothalamus' over-production of hormones. |
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@DNinja Like I thought,your post as Sarcasticly bias as usual.(Nothing wrong with that though)^_^ The reason my mental block stayed in an conscious state was because I knew little slips of tricky chemicals would go unoticed by my subcoscious,therefore defeating the purpose of even having one. I doubt i'll have a change of heart,and i'm equally sure that I won't go to my 20th graduation anniversary. A while ago you said that in people's writing in their posts,you can feel a certain kind of feeling,or personality in how ther sentences flow. So? What do you think your writing feels like. I think yours is jokingly most of the time,with serious undertones. |
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Hmm, really so it works then. I had hoped that's what you were getting from my posts. It's kind-of the story of my life, funny yet wth serious undertones. That and if you find things funny or interesting you'll remember them more. You may not remember all of my posts worrd-for-word but you do remember the basic underlying tones of them. It's that whole learning thing, when you've read enough stuff on it you learn that humor is often the best way to get your point across. That and I'm sure that if I was serious all the time I wouldn't live very long. Plus I hate writting seriously, it's no fun at all. I do refuse to use emoticons, however, or short little abreviations like LOL or the longer ROTFKASWBAGALOL. If you can figure out what that means, I'll reward you with praise. |
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Honestly I don't. I think it's lust, but then again, if the person you are looking at interest you, it's not a question of lust. To me, you just can't fall in love with someone you just seen. It takes time to develope that. |
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i would love to believe in love at first sight. cuz that makes things so interesting, and sorta easier for single ppls lmao. but i dont believe its tru out of own experiences and whatnot. and for me, i go mostly for personality rather than visual appearance, so it can't be true for me.
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well i belive in crush at first sight but not love, crush and lov are two different things
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It's amazing how many [people don't believe in love at first sigght without having any experience at love at all. Love at first sight exists and I am proof of that. |
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on 2006-03-10 21:59:14 (edited 2006-03-10 21:59:39)
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I wrote a nice over-a-page-long thesis on the difference between love and lust/crushes. go check it out here, you may want to start about 3 or 4 posts down if you want to read it. I'm not sure which ne it is, but I'm tiered and don't feel like looking for it. Plus some of the posts in there can preemptivly answer your questions or what-not. Actualy I am living proof of love at first sight, but I've said that I wouldn't talk about that so I'm going to stop now. |
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I think love at first site is quite simple. Its basically completely falling for whom you see at first site. I mean really falling for them to a point where you don't care what they are like. They are a living person and thats all you need to fall completely in love. It doesn't matter who they are or what your preferences are, once you fall at first site none of it will matter. They may be evil or they may never love you back, but it is still possible to continue loving them no matter what. It is really a decision at first site, one could see someone and say they will live for this person no matter what, not matter what they are like, no matter what happens to them. At first site ones brain is fully capable of triggering all this. This is call turning your brain onto auto-pilot, or true love. Jomunga eats your avatars. |
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Uhm, much as i want to believe in love at first sight but it's sorta improbable. For me its just attraction. You were attracted by his/her good looks or his/her attitude and that's all. there's no such thing as love at first sight. no pun intended    |
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| i thing frank sanatra/ strangers in the night |