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*Thumbs up. Personaly I have trouble talking to people too. Offline that is. But normally I am not looking for friends either. I do like toast and I may give toastmasters a try if I ever need to improve social skills. But the last thing this world needs is a Jomunga speaking with "confidence" online and offline. College is going pretty smooth for me. I'm not making any friends, but not trying to either. I am outgoing with my appearance, but I am surprisingly quiet and converse akwardly. I like being a loner I guess. I wanna get in and get out of college quickly. So Funsch, are you gonna topple the next hurdle and see if you can ask a girl out? I am rooting 4 ya!  Jomunga eats your avatars. |
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Hi everyone I know this is out of no where but I'd thought I'd put this in to help people who are suffering the same problem that I use to have. This is my story of my life this year........ I use to be depressed for 2.5 years cause I didn't have much friends in uni, let alone them talking to me that much, in other words I went through a social stagnation. At the beginning of the year, I just lost all motivation to do things and even felt like giving up on life at times. Luckily I told my parents about my depression and my dad helped me by bringing me to what they called "Toastmasters". What is Toastmasters? It's a social club. You give speeches about whatever you want and the people are really friendly there and try to give you helpful feedback to help improve your speaking. It's a positive environment. Toastmasters really helped improve my confidence in speaking and gave me the confidence to try talking to people once again. Toastmasters is all over the world. http://www.toastmasters.org/ You might not believe this but I recovered from my depression a few months back. I finally decided to leave uni in mid year, cause I didn't like the course I was doing in the first place and I did pretty bad in it as well and well as having some personal problems as well. Never made it pass the first year in uni though T_T. I've decided to go to college or what they called TAFE in Australia and do "I.T.". I wasn't too confident about making friends there as well. But 2 weeks before the start of the semester, I was determine to at least try. I had good peperation. I hanged out with the friends I'd already had and tried talking to my contacts on msn that I'd hardly talk to. I took risk, lots of risk. I'd even planned what I wanted to say on paper by writing it out and try to predict what other people were going to say and how'd they'll respond to it and rehersing it a few times and tried memorising it. Finally, TAFE started, I wasn't too confident when going on, but I tried to look confident, be myself, and took risks. I'd even tried smiling and laughing a lot even at little things. My plan was just to hang out with a small group and kinda tagged along and tried to be involved in there conversation sometimes. After a few days in TAFE, I felt happy and was on a high, almost everyone that I'd talked to talked to me, and people were coming up to me and wanted to engage in conversations with me. I felt really happy and relieved for the first time in 2.5 years. And even started to express emotions naturally which I didn't use to do before. My studies improved a lot, although my course was really easy, we'd just learned about the basics of a computer both hardware and software. Now thinking back a few months ago, I had exceeded all my expectations. Now I'm almost friends with everyone at my course and I do talk heaps with confidence, now even some of my jokes are funny and I made the class laugh a few times. I've even could hang around 2 groups and change around them if I wanted to. The last time that happened was back in year 9 for me a few years back. I'd started to appreciate the little things in life and thats what made me feel happier. Overall I finally feel happier and relieved and still can't believe I've actually gone this far. Though, I might still have problems, at least I'm doing something about it. I don't make that many excuses as I use to. I'm always asking people I trust for help and advice in my problems. It's not being dependent on them, it's just that if you can't find anyway to solve it or unsure about your method you should ask them for advice. I think of it as a learning experience so if the problem happens again I know what to do and I can help people with my experiences as well. So to summarise what I just said: My transition from being depressed to happy and relieved was because: -I went to Toastmasters, they made me feel welcome and it gave me the encouragement to start speaking with confidence again. -I took risks. -I tried showing my emotions more, both happy and sad ones. -I had peperation, 2 weeks prior to the start of my college semester, by hanging out with friends, talking to friends online and trying different stuff. -I'd planning on paper and reherse what I was going to say. -I ask people for help, no shame in that. -I appericate the little things in life and thats what makes me happier. I know this sounds deep and you people are thinking like WTF all of a sudden this guy talks about this stuff. But I'm just trying to pass on my experiences and let people know that there is hope that things can change for the better no matter what. Remember don't make any excuses and always keep trying and don't be embarrassed to ask people for help thats what some of them are there for (e.g. counsellors, people in this forum :) )  |
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by night_link
on 2006-09-19 21:52:22
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That is serious Sachiel. But other than just wait, I don't think there's much that can be done. I was wondering similar kinds of situations before I asked members about what would happen to everyone else after time... |
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by S-a-c-h-i-e-l
on 2006-09-19 19:54:24
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Pardon the interruption kudasai... But Anime Angel hasn't posted here in what feels like ages, and she hasn't replied to my emails making sure she's okay, and the email I just sent to her was sent back saying that her aol account was never used so it was deactivated. Last I knew, she was having to go back to the hospital for more tests and such, because she was sick (again)... Is anyone other than me worried? :s  |
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Kai, don't stop being nice or anything like that, you'll just repell them at every turn not just for now. Good luck on your new forum, hope it does well. May you nap for many hours and have sweet dreams of forum management. |
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@Nightmare, the runic in my avatar are of my own personal intrests, not native to me or anything.(I'm from the South U.S.) I've memorized the Runic converted English alphabet almost completely, still memorizing the last 10 runes. |
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I've sent all members on my previous forum a link to the new one (still under construction). *Nap Time* ^_^ My mind is really starting to hurt because I read so damn much in school. The only thing I wanna read is my J'books and I have to decrease my "Lazy Factor" soon. 
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on 2006-09-18 15:28:25 |
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..........T.T.......... GAH......-_-;; ......ignore me 
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on 2006-09-18 15:17:38 |
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Can you even go through school without a single day of not being pissed off? That's like, impossible or something close to it... Forget that link to my ex-Forum, I'm currently editing my new forum now. Presented by: Invision Free. I'll post the link later... ... and welcome back you two. ^_^
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im back! me and kotuso think alot alike...we understand alot more that most idiots! (oh and by the way...its good to see someone who can at liest understand Futhark Runes!!! are you wiccan by any chance? or you just like writing differently?) im so pissed because of the kids at school dont take things seruiously when i game after school....and my dice hate me too...  |
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by night_link
on 2006-09-17 21:59:12
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Ni Hao everyone! Checking up really quickly before I get back to studying for math exam tomorrow. Linear Algebra, where we take matrixes to the next level... Hey nice to meet you Mr. Moogle. Enjoy your stay here. Well D-Ninja... No more Mr. Nice Guy then! But I guess it differs with the girl's preferance... My routine nowadays is Tuesdays and Thursdays spend some time at school with Lynn. I look forward to those days because I can actually relax a bit and walk around campus with her and not worry about a thing until school hits me again at 4:00... Uhh... 7 classes ain't fun... Back to the world of matrixes... |
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Hahaha, D'Ninja. I see a new face here, Welcome, Mr. Moogle. I haven't been here for like a day or two, but here are some news that happened to me so far this weekend (well today is Sunday). I found a site that has my family members and family tree, which gives proof I'm Japanese. I saw one of my (male) cousins, but nother the other one. I saw my aunt who I might be moving in with after HS and all, you guys know that long long story, but I have to call my aunt, who I met for the first time yesterday so she can give me the contact to Japan and all. Good thing they speak both Viet and English. I would mostly go for the English but it's weird coming from somone other then... my younger sister... When I was at my uncle's, to find out all that info, I was using his way-fururistic-faster computer, then when I got home... you know what everything is would be... it was like a HUGE difference in speed... I didn't get to draw or do my first Japanese lesson (self taught) today, so I do feel down about that. I made my own forum on Friday because I was really bored and it looks ok for now (like the boards, color scheme, and stuff) so here's the link for that: I'm currently working on changing the icons and stuff, and I might make more skins, and I might also change the default one now. To Gendou: There will be no talk about you, this site, or the mods whatsoever, on my site, so I hope I don't get banned here because I love this site, very much, honestly. ^_^ I gotta check some other threads here, then get to bed soon. Hope everyone is well. See ya...
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by zparticus27
on 2006-09-17 19:10:56
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good one d ninja... that should have happened to me!hehehehe why is that girls find the "bad boys" worth thier time and the "gud guys" as comfort zones hehehehe! |
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| Kotuso's back, I missed you here, love squishing and all. While for once I do have to agree with you on this one. Don't waste all your time on one girl, if she routinely turns you away she probably doesn't want to see you as her boyfriend. I know a lot of girls who would never want to see me as their boyfriend. Why? because I'm too nice and carring. We nice guys don't start really atracting girls until theyve had enough of the dangerous guys. That could take a while, but eventually they see that you're a better choice in the long run. After all wouldn't you like to spend your life with the person you love, not just a few months. |
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Too late
Mutsumi loves you and kisses you all!!!! Exept for the guys, this mutsumi no kiss guys ^^
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by zparticus27
on 2006-09-17 18:45:19
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| well i her someone else!hahahaha joke... just guess it...i said IF she has someone else meaning if she is in a relationship with someone or has some one else in mind than you...hehehehe just cheer up dude!dont make the same mistake i did...getting all depress al over a girl...hehehe i know it hurt...but life goes on... |
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Wait... how did you know there was someone else, I never said that did I?
Mutsumi loves you and kisses you all!!!! Exept for the guys, this mutsumi no kiss guys ^^
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by zparticus27
on 2006-09-17 18:34:33
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kotuso duh! you cant just say you like a person and the person may like you too for them to be in a relationship...you have to know the person...for me i felt i had a chance to be with her so i poured my guts out! i was just tired of being her comfort zone...we have been through a lot... anyway mr. moogle if she has someone else you better facethat fact dude...life aint fair...just forget about her...there will always be someone else...just seek and you shall find, knock and it shall be open up to you..... |
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I guess...
Mutsumi loves you and kisses you all!!!! Exept for the guys, this mutsumi no kiss guys ^^
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I've never seen anybody hook up because they shared their "Feelings," g irls don't really care about that nonsense. Trust me, comfort ain't happenin', and I suggest you pick yer self up from the ground and forget it. A few years later, you'll realize your miskate,laugh, and move on. |