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I'm depress and lonely hayyy...I'm from philippines and its been almost 1 month since I moved here in california with my mom and I'm still having a hard time to adjust in here...its really a shock for me because I easily get adjust in every situation I'm into but then there's always a first time for everything. I miss my friends, sisters and my close cousins back in manila. I remembered that I always have a full schedule everyday to the extent that there's no room for another activity haha..well, that's my life there. Its really hard to adjust when I'm an outgoing person and can't stand staying at home the whole day and not doing anything exciting. I'm making sacrifices here for my parents because I love them so much that I can't take it if they're hurt because of me..well, I'm not the problem child anymore. My cousins think that i'm sort of a boring person because I'm still in the shy and silent mode. I can't go with the flow because I can't keep up with their sense of humor and their likes; like their more into video games or something when I'm into outdoor things I'm 16 and a freshie in college but I dropped at my school in manila so, I'm still looking for a school here. My cousin same age as of mine is helping me to have a life here but I dunno if her intentions are pure like this instance, whenever she introduce me to some of her friends, after the hi, hello thing, she and her friends let me feel that I'm an outcast and not existing, just a part of the wall...I dunno if that's not intentional or something but I just felt that she wants me to be embarass and she wants to show off the things she has here that i don't. There are other things that she does that were really offending. I don't have friends here so i don't know if I can trust her and be my friend. I'm bored to death here for doing nothing. What can I do?...sometimes I just want to go back in manila because there I have a life but I can't leave my parents here... I'm sorry, I really can't help it. I don't have someone to talk to. I miss everything... |
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@trisha : Nee, there Trisha-san ^^ Don't be so gloomy ^^ Being in a new place is sumthing that I've been dreaming of ^^ New friends and new environments. Why don't you try to take a step ahead trying to know things in front of you know ^^ I believe that it isn't as scary/or whatever you may think which make you wander why u havent make any move. Cause I feel like I'm on my way similar onto you, now I'm facing the 2nd year, where I live now. And yeap, the first time was the hardest way for make to make up everything, but without any "starting point" you'' get nothing, and you'll even regret for those.. Cmon, Trisha-san ^^ Cheer up.. Well, as you mention that you're such an outgoing and active person, so just prove it now ^^ Hey.. You're in California ^^ It's not thing that you should forget your past, friends and your previous activities, now is just another chances for you to manage other things that may encourage and increase you capability, you still can have them as your motivator, right ? So, when you back to Manila, you may show them that you're still as great as before ^^ Asian - Philliphines , I guess having many differences, so now you may learn new culture and habits, nee ? Hahaha -*hug hug hug-* then I give you hug so you may smile again and face the next day with lots of spirit ^^ Ganbatte !!  |
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Sorry for not being around. I have been dealing with a lot of issues at work and home lately. Khashin - In this day and age going to school and working is very hard. When I first started going to school at CofC I was working two jobs and studying in efforts to become an International Business major. I was a member of four different clubs at one point and held positions in all of them because I wanted to enhance my chances of getting a job later. Even with two jobs I could not afford to go to school and live a healthy life. There were days when I did not eat just because I had no money. I had no time for any kind of social life and I did not talk to anyone outside of my room mate. People would call me because they needed my help with projects or tutoring for different classes. This was before I met my wife and there were days when I would literally cry myself to sleep because I was not sure how to deal with it all. I started passing out because I was over straining my mind and my body. The doctor told me I had to lighten my load or I was going to die so I finally gave up on the club activities (Except for karate). When I did it angered a lot of people because they were overly dependent on me. If you are doing your best, then don't let all of their concerns pressure you. You have enough to deal with. I learned that I can not be responsible for everyone else and sometimes I need to take time to get myself together before I can worry about other people. The exception to that is the friend that is helping you out. Do what you can to help them and your family. I am sure your family knows and understands that you are trying your best to be your best for them. Times are not hard forever. I believe that if you do your best things can turn around for you. Trisha - I felt the same way when I moved to South Carolina from Germany. Everything the military showed on TV was dated so when my family moved back to the United States it was like I walked through a time warp. I didn't dress, think, or act the same way as other people my age. I was still listening to MC Hammer and Madonna while kids were talking about the Back Street Boys, InSync, and the rise of Snoop Dog. I felt like I was on the outside looking in at everybody and the rude people did not hesitate to let me know I was an outsider. Life really sucked until I found a group of people who were willing to get to know me. My advice is to use your cousin by letting her introduce you to people so you can find new friends that way her intentions won't matter. Let her talk, it's not as if you have to stay friends with her. Michibi is right, this is an opportunity for you to make a new life for yourself. California is a really big state. I'm sure you'll be able to find more than one person who is willing to be your friend.  Good? Bad? I'm the guy with the gun. - Ash, Army of Darkness |
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Depression is common in a city or an area with high stress levels. These stress levels causes the brain to become sort of overly worked out, resulting in chemicals produced that causes the brain to be in a state of depression. Depression can become serious if medical treatment not seeked. It can force one to commit suicide or the person may become mentally unsound. Medical treatment would often involve psychological treatment or psyco-therapy. This is to enable the brain to become more relaxed, and less fired up. Individuals can do their part by relaxing and taking breaks after long hours of work to give the mind and body a chance to recover. ^^
~I will Kill all who Stands in my Way~
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Michibi and Doraemon- thank you very much for your advices, it means alot to me. I'll keep your advices in my mind always, I'll just try to overcome this things. I just have to think positive in every things here... Seriously, I thought before posting here that someone will be saying rude words to me if I post here hehehe...(other forums from other websites have that kind of people) but now, I'm thankful that I did.^_^ |
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by AnimeAngel27
on 2007-09-16 12:46:54
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Trisha- Don't ever hesitate here. Gendou can be proud to say that we have, for the moat part as no one is perfect, an awsome community of members that are willing to help others in what ever way they can. This thread especially has become some what of a family over the time that it's been here. Doraemon is just one of many. One of the best I might add!! As are a lot of people on this thread. We've all faced similar situations as life is not always fair and deals each of us a different fate. But in the end it's only helped to make us all stronger and show the world we aren't to be messed with. Just keep hanging in there and when you're feeling down or feeling like no one in the world cares know that someone in here does. I care. And I believe you can do just about anything you set your mind to. It will take time of course because nothing in life that holds any worth comes without some sort of a fight. That's why you have to work hard at it, don't give up, and in time the rewards what ever they may be will always make it worth the fight!! Good luck Trisha and let us know how things go!! Doraemon- You are something special, I admire you. You always know just what to say. Maybe it's because of your own hardships maybe it's just who you are. If I were a religous type I'd probably say you were sent to us all by Kami-sama. Thanks Doraemon for everything you've done and for everything I know you'll do! Khashin- Doraemon has pretty much covered it all with advice unparalleled. But if I've anything to add it's that I believe in you as well as I do Trisha. The situation you're faced with is of course, not a favorable one, but life always gives its hardest trials to the strong. The one's that are destined to become greatness. You are no exception. Keep strong, keep holding on and someway, somehow things will pull through in one way or another. Don't lose hope and do what you can but don't push yourself further then your physical limits will allow. And if you feel like things aren't getting better you've always got friends here who are more then willing to listen and help where they can!! Good luck, and you'll find the finish line before you know it!
"Everyone has a photographic memory, some just don't have any film..." "Friends are the people who know everything about you and still put up with you!" "Nothing in life is free, even death costs us."
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AnimeAngel27 - I appreciate your compliment but as you stated, I am no one special. There are many people here who give advice. I just know a little about depression because I have been there before and I want to help people avoid making some of the same mistakes I made out of loneliness and general disatisfaction with life. Good? Bad? I'm the guy with the gun. - Ash, Army of Darkness |
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by AnimeAngel27
on 2007-09-17 19:50:20
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Doraemon- I never said you weren't special. Becaue you're very special, not just as a person but you're special to me as well as many others on this site! Don't you ever doubt or think otherwise!!! :)
"Everyone has a photographic memory, some just don't have any film..." "Friends are the people who know everything about you and still put up with you!" "Nothing in life is free, even death costs us."
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I'm sorry, what I meant was I am only one of many people who give advice. Back when I first started coming to the depression thread there were a lot of people here who gave advice. Some of what I am saying to people now comes from what people have told me in the past. Thank you for your kind words though, I try to help where I can. Good? Bad? I'm the guy with the gun. - Ash, Army of Darkness |
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AnimeAngel27- thank you very much!i will also keep that in mind.^_^ I'll let you guys know what my progress after a few days.^_^ |
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Hey trisha, California is a great place to get used to ^.^ I know, because I was almost just like you! I came to Cali from Hong Kong, but you just have to get used to it. Who knows, you might be going to my school in a few days XD |
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Ya, California is a pretty entertaining state. I think it is pretty good if you are bored. If you live in LA and have a car there is lots of stuff around.  Jomunga eats your avatars. |
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everyone is special. no one is worthless. Everyone has their magic. just wait and see :)  |
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I feel like Sh...right now... And it's all my fault...I made a huuuuge mistake...I lied to the person I cared the most...and now he found out about the lie and now he hates me...*sighs.. I feel so hopeless... |
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Wolf thank you... What I can do at the moment is wait...just wait to see if he will forgive me. And I know it will take him longer...since he is a really proud person. But that's all I can do...wait...gosh I am impatient! T-T I'll be strong and learn from my mistakes, that's for sure...I have promise myself not to get involved in situations like this...or at least...prevent them. Thank you for your words...I truly appreciate them. |
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how cum the depression thread is olredi on its 4th version yet the happines thread has just started.. does this mean that there r more lonely people than the happy ones?? nooooooo :x 
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It's not that there are more lonely people per se. The depression thread covers a variety of topics. Loneliness just seems to be a key factor leading to most of the depression on this thread. Some people who are in the depression thread are here because they are afraid of things that are happening in their lives and they have no other place to express their frustration. Others need an outlet to vent because they can't figure out why they can not seem to find happiness. But to answer your original question, I think the happiness thread is shorter because happy people don't really need a lot of advice or help from other people. The depression thread is probably in the fourth version already because there is no shortage of people here to talk to people who are depressed and for that reason the thread gets really large and has to start over from time to time. At least that's what I think happens. Good? Bad? I'm the guy with the gun. - Ash, Army of Darkness |
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So disappointed having a sister who's totally numb, I never felt so furious yesterday because of her. I can't even fathom for a while how i smashed the wall of our with my bare fist boring an obvious whole in it. After a while i did'nt notice my knuckles was bit peeled (but no bleeding). Good thing I'm still sane enough to redirect my fist towards her, I just can't imagine how rage could be devastating. This is the first time i had manifested my anger by breaking something near me. Thankful I am that I got my college friends to be an assistance by listening to my fury regarding my sister. I know i need time for cooling off my resentment I do hope so it will not consume me. Thanks for this thread I've shared once more my infuriating hatred yesterday.        |
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What happened to make you so mad? I hope you are okay now. Good? Bad? I'm the guy with the gun. - Ash, Army of Darkness |