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Identity Crisis, anyone too?
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Anyone has this problem too? My parents keep saying I am Chinese, but I don't feel this way. I don't feel proud about it. I don't know anyone in China and I don't want to either. I feel like Dutch and yet has the appearance of Asian. I only speak Cantonese and Dutch, not Manderin. I hate the Chinese Society in Holland, they only keep to themselves. I have always liked Ancient-Egyptian stuff, mainly because they involved stuff about Death, what my parents hate to talk about (Death is Taboo in my family, but I like the concept of it.) Here I am classified as 'Allochtoon', because my parents weren't born in Holland. I will never become a 'Autochtoon' and I want to be one. |
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on 2006-03-20 15:41:28 |
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I read "Identity Crisis" and thought you were talking about something along the lines of dichotomy (split personalities). On that note, however, I'm a pure mutt, uh... Norwegian, Irish... uh... Native American somewhere... I don't really know. |
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i remember my whole family shifted to another country when i was one-month old. then we shifted again. and we shifted again. nomads. (=o=;;;) my parents' ancestors came from China. but i have no feelings of belonging or whatsoever to that country. well, Hong Kong and Taiwan, yeah i've been to those countries. but i've not been to China for even once. moreover, even though my ancestors came from there, it doesn't necessarily mean we're real Chin-people. judging from my dad's surname (which is obviously my surname as well) i doubt that we're one of the natives. might've been Manchurians. might've been Caucasians. i don't know. since our roots in China were completely destroyed.
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on 2006-03-21 07:30:47 |
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*agrees with Daedalus* identity crisis means the inability to distinguish your gender. As for your question, i don't have any problem with my family's ancestors or roots.    |
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| oh, hehehe. But I have Identity Crisis too, sometimes it feels like I have two personalities. |
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For the record, Shiroyuu, I doubt that all "westerners" set out to destroy the heritage of others. Please don't make blanket statements that lump all people from an entire hemisphere of the globe together. It would be just as wrong to say "easterners" ruined my heritage. That is a very broad statement and it is kinda messed up to say something like that. Athough it is in vogue to demonize the western cultures, I think that you are above that level. (obviously not discounting your individual circumstances, afterall, the british were quite dastardly during their empire) I think that a situation that we call "having an identity crisis" is more about determining the parameters of your personality and how you define yourself and the world. Some people may feel some "culture shock" or "disparity of cult" with the society that they are living in, but that is just a particularity of their current living condition. Once a person gains money and education, they can live anywhere they choose. This may seem a bit alien and radical, but I will say it anyway. In the 21st century, people define themselves by their choices and their ideology. Nations don't impose their beliefs. There are no state-sponsored religions anymore, except for communist countries and mohammedan countries. Everywhere except those two circumstances, people have the freedom to assert themselves in the manner they please, whether it is right or wrong. |
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@Mentalis i apologise if my statement sounded offensive. as such, i have editted my post so that hopefully it would not seem so over-generalising.
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| you didn't have to go to that extreme. But, the gesture was very courteous Shiroyuu. I agree that some of the entanglements of Europe in the 16-20th centuries were at best messy and difficult to understand fully. I wasn't offended by your comment, just wanted to make a distinction. |
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Identity crisis? That is for gender right? Racial crisis (maybe this is the proper term). I remember I watched a documentary about it and those kids really have in it in themselves. They really wanna know what race do they belong. @ Kamen: My teacher taught this dilemma when I was in high school. He said (my teacher) that "Some countries have laws that a child's nationality will depend on the father and mother's nationality. Others depend on where the child is born." Relying on the my teacher's statement, maybe you should do some researching about Holland's law about this to clear things up. Allochtoon? Is that some kind of a racial discrimination? That is not allowed! We must not tolerate it! |
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Allochtoon is someone who lives in Holland, while one or two parents aren't born in Holland. Also if you were born somewhere else, but lives in HOlland, then you are Allochtoon also. It didn't use to be a racial discrimniation word, but now the media made it one. 'Allochtobnen' always gets bad news, when they are compared to 'Autochtonen'. |