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How to avoid pushy or selfish bulls
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| We’re still figuring things out, but one thing that’s already frustrating is how many guys ignore the basics. We’ve had a few conversations with potential bulls who acted cool at first, then quickly pushed boundaries or turned it into some fantasy they wanted to control. It kills the vibe and makes my wife feel like an object, which obviously isn’t the point. Are there any early red flags you look out for? Or things you ask right away to spot if someone’s going to be selfish or just not respectful? |
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Re: How to avoid pushy or selfish bulls
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| We ran into that a few times too. What helped us was laying out a few “non-negotiables” in the first convo — like no texting my wife separately, and we choose the pace, not him. If they push back or even hesitate, that’s a no. Also, reading through Cuckold caps gave us a better sense of dynamics that work — and the ones that don’t. It’s funny how much you can learn just from seeing what turns people on respectfully versus what feels like pure ego play. |
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Re: How to avoid pushy or selfish bulls
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| The best experiences I’ve seen usually happen when all sides understand their roles and actually want everyone to enjoy the moment. When one person treats it like it’s all about them, things fall apart quickly. Mutual curiosity beats control every time. |