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by dreamangel0802
on 2009-01-29 14:37:59
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| Affection is shown in different ways. One person says it, the other uses gestures. Moreover it conveys a persons feeling towards another. But what if it isn't being received but rejected? How would one respond, would one be to hurt to say anything or would one think about it and consider the possibilities of why such a thing occured? What do you think? How would you respond if someone for instance wouldn't hug you as a greeting, even though it's just a greeting between two people which is normal (over here that is). Tell me about it ^^! |
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on 2009-01-29 16:29:40 |
I would feel terrible, hurt and rejected. I need hugs and affection a lot of it. I feel I never get enough.  |
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Wouldn't bother me. Handshakes are more suitable.
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by
 
on 2009-01-30 06:50:24 |
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I think it's okay with me... Smiles or shake hands is good enough...^^   |
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by
 
on 2009-02-09 08:22:22 |
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Don't be so flabbergasted that someone would reject your gestures. I won't be that concerned if my friends/relatives don't hug me when they have to go home. As long as they say 'bye', that's acceptable. I definitely wouldn't like some stranger who kindly ask me for a cup of coffee and attempt some kind of sweet talk to me. Happened to me once and my god, it was f*cking scary. I politely rejected his offer and he quietly walked away. |
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it's certainly justified to be upset if one rejects your gestures and accepts someone elses right off the bat (even though that person knows both of you equally well). just one of those wtf moments that piss you off. 
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on 2009-02-10 13:06:05 |
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Everyone gives me hugs, that's fact ('cept for a few from school cause we're not that close). :P Hugs are like my "high5s" or "fist pound", even though I rarely fist pound anyone. So I either receive a hug or high5 every time I see someone, that's fact. :D Plus hugs are more enjoyable to me anyways. That's like, my sign of affection to people, but I'm just that type of person. 
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on 2009-02-14 11:57:01 |
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Well it depends on how well you know the person and the situation. I mean if your girlfriend/boyfriend rejected holding your hand or osmehting like that....yeah that'd suck. There would definatly feel some hurt there. But everyday stuff with people if I were to make a gesture of affection and it wasn't accepted/returned or whatever I can't say I'd feel hurt or even think twice about it. Unless it was like something where they did with the person next to you then not with you. I might feel a bit slighted and wonder if I pissed them off somehow I my self am not a touchy person. And when people go tohug me or something like that it tends to shock me lol and I get nervous. So alot of the time I tend to hold an atmosphere of "don't touch me" not mean just...don't touch me (I'll be polite and such, shake hands if offered one)lol it just makes me uncomfortable and there are other people like me so someone rejecting someone's friendliness could be due to them just being uncomfortable. Soo I generally don't care, but I'm not one to offer affection casually |
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on 2009-02-20 17:21:10 |
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i prefer handshakes...or just words or smiles will do~ i'm not into hugging. lol  |
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on 2009-02-24 18:30:59 |
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Hmm, well affection is a funny thing at times. Like others have said, it depends on situation, people, and personal liking. I'm not one for hugs myself, though with a few exceptions. Yeah I can agree that hugs are enjoyable, if one is really familiar with that person and show a great amount of care towards them. Otherwise, a quick high five, smile, or some form greeting is okay. Though I think handshakes are a bit formal for friends for a greeting but that's just me saying, it's different for others.  |
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Affection? What the hell is that? Honestly speaking, I don't much understand the need for something like affection. I never feel "affectionate", nor want others to do so towards me. I wonder why.  --> |
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on 2009-03-05 15:51:42 |
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affection is sweet and wonderful~ it gives me such a warm and tender feeling ;__; whether its hugs or cuddling or someones arm around you or anything like that though ive managed this school year without any, so i guess its something i can live without. Hahaha. |
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x] I've never had much affection to begin with =/ It's kind of sad for me, cause uhm I was bullied around and stuff as a kid. I grew up hating a lot of people, and I had times where I acted out in ways I'm not extremely proud of. As a result, I seriously lost control of my emotions. I forgot what happiness was, how to smile, I was only drowned in sorrow. But yeah...when I eventually found friends, my crappy life lets me realize that some things are good, and that people aren't looking as highly to these things as they could. A picture is worth a thousand words, and I respect my friends for not only by their presence, but by the way they talk, the way they act, and they way the make fun of me. Sure it isn't all happy and good, but I grew to understand that humans aren't perfect, they'll hurt you sometimes. But still, learning to appreciate little things in life makes me that much happier. Every hug I receive means a lot more to me than probably for most people. I think I just went off topic. Anyways. Emotions are powerful things, and you want to show them to the people you love. Sealing yourself away isn't the answer, I have learned the hard way. However, maybe it's better to take a closer look at yourself and think. If you truly do love a person, then you should be able to set them free. I know this is a cliche saying, but it's true. People die, people have feelings, things change. Not everything will be the way you plan. Similarly, it's important to consider the other person's feelings before acting. For me, I've always been afraid to convey my emotions. Heck, I've never actually initiated a hug or anything before. Hahaha, but. I know. That I should respect people's feelings. And well, if they love me too, they'll tell me about it, they'll initiate the hug first. Humans are about understanding, about connections. If you want to know, ask. Don't be afraid to take a few emotional blows to the heart here and there, because you can take these lessons and learn from them. I went off topic so bad here. lolol. I am such a hypocrite for saying this. EDIT: Uhm, I just realized that the last post was 20 days ago. My apologies for bumping a topic. >_> |
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on 2009-03-26 09:47:02 |
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Affection, another one of the human abilities that needs clarification. I'd say I'm pretty much a social person, I know a handful of people to give me the amount of friendly affection to say that I am not lonely. There are also some who gives me a more surreal affection... some gives the "special" affection" lol, but all in all... it's balanced. I myself needs a lot of affection, I dun know why but I really do. It's a part of me that I just let... XD You can't really say that one doesn't need affection, you yourself gives yourself the affection you need to satiate the feeling. It's just something that you need to prove you are existing in this world. Some takes affection very harsh and such, though this is something that needs special attention from psychiatrists and teh like experts. 
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Re: Affection
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on 2009-03-26 18:08:03 |
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i am the person that had bad greeting attitude =x i don't feel like being touched at all and people around me just .. xDD they react really bad xDDD i'd be the person that is blacklisted for not giving such affection xDDD i guess >.> .. oh x_x..how am i going to survive in this world.. xDDD |
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on 2009-04-04 14:46:23 |
| im someone that doesnt need a lot f affection, so I would be ok with it, I dont like hugs anyway O.O |