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Communication to someone new
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on 2008-01-11 21:53:53 |
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I wanna ask you all about something i was thinked about,i was dizzy and felt so sick about this! For entire of my life,this is always happens to me! -If you have new friend,what the first time you'll do? -Do you make a friendship with everyone,or only with someone who means to you? -If you have a new friend,then since the first time you know him,you don't like him/her for some reason,and then, do you never want to make friend with him/her again? -Discrimination and Ignorance..is it right to be given to your new friend as long as his/her personality didn't fit with yours? Even if he/she wanted to know you more? -and the last question,can you accept your new friend well,or maybe you'll forget him/her? |
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If you have new friend,what the first time you'll do? I'll talk to someone just if I need it. And I'll talk to a new friend just if I need it. I'll talk to her/him if I need to be kind and friendly. If i think i don't, I won't talk. Do you make a friendship with everyone,or only with someone who means to you? Just with someone that can give me what I want, who can give me advantages If you have a new friend,then since the first time you know him,you don't like him/her for some reason,and then, do you never want to make friend with him/her again? I'll be her/his friend if he/she can show me that s/he can be useful for me, that s/he can give me what i want. Discrimination and Ignorance..is it right to be given to your new friend as long as his/her personality didn't fit with yours? Even if he/she wanted to know you more? No. Though their personality don't fit to yours, and even you don't like her/him... don't ignore her/him. If you do it, s/he might hate you. Who knows that someday s/he would be useful for you~ and the last question,can you accept your new friend well,or maybe you'll forget him/her? As long as s/he's useful for me, I'll accept her/him. But If s/he's not~ I might forget them~ |
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Re: Communication to someone new
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on 2008-01-12 08:49:48 |
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Wow, sorry to say, but how you say that you would make friends only when you gain advantage sounded pretty selfish to me, Kiseno. Although having a leeching b*tch who claims to be your friend but doesn't even want to help your problems is unpleasant. And to the first post: If you have new friend,what the first time you'll do? What do I do? Depending on what situation I was in when I was meeting that new friend for the first time. Usually, I only talk quite a lot with a new person either if I really need it or if I believe it could turn out a decent talk. Do you make a friendship with everyone,or only with someone who means to you? For me, someone would "mean" to me after we've been in a close relationship for some time, and I wouldn't know if that person will actually "mean" anything to me at our first meeting. But yes, although I'm not racist or stereotypical in picking friends, I won't just befriend any random person. If you have a new friend,then since the first time you know him,you don't like him/her for some reason,and then, do you never want to make friend with him/her again? According to how bad that person is. Usually I stop trying to befriend someone if that person is showing negative response. If I really dislike that person, I won't try to get much closer. Discrimination and Ignorance..is it right to be given to your new friend as long as his/her personality didn't fit with yours? Even if he/she wanted to know you more? No. Unless I have proof that that person has bad intent towards me, I'll just let them know a bit more about me, as long as that person's not bothering me too much. and the last question,can you accept your new friend well,or maybe you'll forget him/her? According to what the person is like. If I feel that it's fine, I'll accept that person. If it makes me uncomfortable, I'll try backing off.   |
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Re: Communication to someone new
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on 2008-01-12 23:27:19 (edited 2008-01-12 23:27:59)
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-If you have new friend,what the first time you'll do? I usually just talk to them about my weird interests *_* so yah thats what ill do -.- i hate pretending so its better for them to hate me while its still early xDD -Do you make a friendship with everyone,or only with someone who means to you? Im not really a friendly person but i hate ignoring people so ill just talk to anyone i feel like talking with or to those who talks to me first... -If you have a new friend,then since the first time you know him,you don't like him/her for some reason,and then, do you never want to make friend with him/her again? I will still befriend with him/her but she/he musnt expect for me to be very close to him/her in the future or i will just be frank and tell him/her that he/she has shown me something i dont like... -Discrimination and Ignorance..is it right to be given to your new friend as long as his/her personality didn't fit with yours? Even if he/she wanted to know you more? Nah! in friendship we must always remember to set aside our diferences... and since he/she wants to know me more why not give it a try... who knows we myt becum really good friends sooner...and thats how everything starts i guess +_+ talking to a complete stranger... -and the last question,can you accept your new friend well,or maybe you'll forget him/her? well it depends... if we had a memorable time or did something special i will accept him/her... but if something's not ryt then i will just try not to forget him/her but hu knows what'll happen next... 
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Re: Communication to someone new
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on 2008-01-13 11:23:13 (edited 2008-01-13 11:26:20)
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I'll type down my experiences of making new friends, along with your questions. >If you have new friend,what the first time you'll do?: I guess just greet my new friend, which is important to establish the communication between my friend and me. Then start talking, like what did you do in the weekend, have you heard this band before? bladiblabla... just to understand ourselves much better. -Do you make a friendship with everyone,or only with someone who means to you?: I find the idea to be friends with someone that means a lot to me is excruciating and extreme. I do know the world is not in my hands. The way I make friends is I put my mind on the person I find noticeable to my sight and thoughts. I had to think a lot what should I do in order not to give any bad impression to the person I want to be friends with. It happened last year, where I first observe her clothes style, which reminds me of rock music, and she does love rock music. Took days to build my courage to talk to her. The first thing I said to her was "What are you listening to?" (she was listening to her iPod) and she replied "The Answer". Days later, we began to talk like friends all of a sudden during a cancelled lecture in the afternoon. This year it happen again, but not as good as that one. >_> -If you have a new friend,then since the first time you know him,you don't like him/her for some reason,and then, do you never want to make friend with him/her again?: Depends. Not all people are what you expected. I hate to be friends with people who keeps on ranting over their personal issues like this guy stealing some guy's gf etc. It's just really annoying. -Discrimination and Ignorance..is it right to be given to your new friend as long as his/her personality didn't fit with yours? Even if he/she wanted to know you more?: Discrimination and ignorance sounds too heavy and out of place. The first time I went to college I had that sort of idea. Especially Chinese students. But then I was in a HRM group where there were 2 Chinese students, I began to appreciate their ideas and their quick-thinking, regardless of English literacy. And they are really friendly and funny too, and that's where I began not too think wrongly on foreigners. I judge people's behaviours, not their origins and culture. Okay, back to the q, no. Forget about discrimination. This leads to further stereotyping and inequality in the environment they are in. It's unfair because we are humans in equal, regardless of their origins and their culture. -and the last question,can you accept your new friend well,or maybe you'll forget him/her?: To tell you the truth, I don't make acceptions. I don't treat him/her as a person to be fully trusted. I ain't no FBI recruiting for new trustworthy people. It sounds so nerve-wrecking as if I don't have the balls to be anyone's friends. I let the friendship between him/her and me to run via our communication and same interests. It'll grow without even ourselves noticing the picture. |
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@ asd-san you're kind and I might sound selfish. but I can't like someone easily. I need "something" from her/him before s/he can be my friend. kindness will be the first best thing s/he can give for me. her/his kindness ish enough for me to be her/his friend. and I'll like her/him more if s/he can give me what i want. what I want are just: - loyalty - a good friendship - any help when i need it of course i won't indict too much from him/her. I won't ask him/her to buy me car or house~ (what kind of person do you think i am?) but, if s/he treat me (not bad but) not-as-what-i-want, i'll keep being kind just for any advantages s/he can give me. oh, but the topic is "communication" and me myself will talk to someone new if i have nothing else to do~ |
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Re: Communication to someone new
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on 2008-01-14 03:33:45 |
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As a martial arts instructor I make many acquaintances day to day. However, I don't make friends that quickly. I have many close friends for life from my dojo, so I can't complain much, as for what I do to communicate, it all depends on how I judge the person initially. Usually, I greet quite openly and friendly. I don't like people to feel threatened around me. I suppose I like to make friendship with people that have the opposite personality traits I have. I would conflict with anyone similar to me (quite explosively). So I would look to people I thought I could communicate amicably with. If someone is willing to get to know you and doesn't seem to have ulterior motives for it, then I have no problem with them at all. So I wouldn't discriminate. I am still hanging out with friends I made in school. Our bonds are more solid than cement. I would do just about anything for my close friends and I know they'd do the same if I needed it.  |
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-If you have new friend,what the first time you'll do? The very first thing to do when you meet somebody is of course, talk, share some interests. -Do you make a friendship with everyone,or only with someone who means to you? It's better to know and talk to everyone, but befriend more with good guys and befriend less with bad guys. -If you have a new friend,then since the first time you know him,you don't like him/her for some reason,and then, do you never want to make friend with him/her again? It's better to befriend. Avoid making enemies. -Discrimination and Ignorance..is it right to be given to your new friend as long as his/her personality didn't fit with yours? Even if he/she wanted to know you more? The best kind of a comrade is the person that can accept almost completely opposite type of himself, everything-wise, ranging from religion belief to all kind of common interests. -and the last question,can you accept your new friend well,or maybe you'll forget him/her? Forget? You probably won't forget someone if you stay with him/her or do some activities together for some time. You probably forget only when you talk to each other like only once or twice. That would be like strangers, you know. |
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Re: Communication to someone new
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on 2008-01-24 23:10:03 |
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Q: If you have new friend,what the first time you'll do? A: smile and say 'hi!' ask 'whatcha doin'... ask normal/ordinary question to him/her. go beyond question and she/he goes blank. Q: Do you make a friendship with everyone,or only with someone who means to you? A: Yes, almost everyone who in needs. Q: If you have a new friend,then since the first time you know him,you don't like him/her for some reason,and then, do you never want to make friend with him/her again? A: yes and no. depends on the situations. most people like to friend with personality interest. Q: Discrimination and Ignorance..is it right to be given to your new friend as long as his/her personality didn't fit with yours? Even if he/she wanted to know you more? A: no. that means i don't intend to have a new friend from the start. Q: and the last question,can you accept your new friend well,or maybe you'll forget him/her? A: depends. as long as i can remember. some people tend to forget. (you don't have to force yourself when approaching new friend(s). just be yourself. if you cannot accept the person as a friend, its fine. you like and hate someone at the same time. you disagree and agree at some point. that's prove yourself as a normal being. don't get to dizzy yourself again. ok.)  |
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Re: Communication to someone new
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on 2008-01-27 23:33:58 |
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-If you have new friend,what the first time you'll do? Hmmm... well to new friends, I like asking them a lot of questions to find out what we have in common xDDD I'm rly curious about other people -Do you make a friendship with everyone,or only with someone who means to you? I try to make friends with friendly people... but I can be shy to approach... so I guess just to whoever says hi to me first @w@;; to people with mean attitudes or are mean to other people, I am not mean back to them but it rly isn't in my interest to make friends with them... so end up being overly polite ^^ -If you have a new friend,then since the first time you know him,you don't like him/her for some reason,and then, do you never want to make friend with him/her again? Well I never rule anyone out unless I know for sure that they are mean to others... .__.;; but I do not hold those type of grudges, so he/she always has more chances! >w< -Discrimination and Ignorance..is it right to be given to your new friend as long as his/her personality didn't fit with yours? Even if he/she wanted to know you more? It is never nice to discriminate against anyone, even if his/her personality doesn't fit with someone I would hang out with ;A; but if there rly is a reason I do not like such a person, I would prolly continue to talk to him/her... because of being unwilling to confront or express my dislikes xD;; -and the last question,can you accept your new friend well,or maybe you'll forget him/her? My memory is bad... so unless he/she remains in continual contact with me... I may forget... T____T;; depending on how close we were to become.   |
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* If I have a new friend, i would introduce myself and observe he or she. Then try to communicate with them, know more about them. * Do you make a friendship with everyone, or with someone who means to you? I'll make friend with everyone if they are willing to be friend with me. It's better to have more friend than being lonely, right? * If you have a new friend,then since the first time you know him,you don't like him/her for some reason,and then, do you never want to make friend with him/her again? Of course not! People change as time passes. We should give them and ourselves another opportunity. *Discrimination and Ignorance..is it right to be given to your new friend as long as his/her personality didn't fit with yours? Even if he/she wanted to know you more? I don't think it's right to discriminate and ignore a new friend especially when they want to know you. How could you be so cruel, when they are so sincere? I've been sort of ignore, so i kinda know the feeling- sad, frustrated. * and the last question,can you accept your new friend well,or maybe you'll forget him/her? Normally I'm okay with them. To have a new friend is not easy, you know? To me, friend is as important as family. You can survive without new friend... But will you be happy? I doubt. I won't forget new or old friend. That's my answer. |