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Does personality matter?
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Does personality matter? Say for example if someone is giving you "negative attitude" all the time, treating you with "disrespect", "not accepting and respecting your decisions", "not treating you as equal", but helps you out, say gives you stuff, do you consider this person to be your friend or someone you like? Personally, I don't like these kind of people, ofcourse I'm glad they're helpful to me, but I prefer someone that treats me as equal and respects my decisions most of the time. To me if someone's personality is bad despite them being helpful to me I don't want to continue knowing this person. I don't care how much they've done for me, if there personality's bad sadly it overshadows all the good stuff they have done. I don't like people like this giving me negativity.  |
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on 2006-11-04 00:01:22 |
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you say you don't like negativity, but you, yourself, are being negative. wtf? 
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by zparticus27
on 2006-11-04 00:13:02
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| well i dont know maybe they're using reverse psychology on you acting all negative and all but it might be a cover up or something...darn it im not making sense am i....hahha oh well |
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@Gendou How am I being negative Gendou? @zparticus You might not mean it, but I think you're right, people give negativity and pick on others to make themselves feel good cause they have insecurity issues. I don't like these kinds of people, they're bullies, making themselves feel good at the expense of others who don't deserve it. I despise these people. |
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on 2006-11-04 00:38:25 |
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"I don't like these kind of people" ... "I don't want to continue knowing this person" ... "I don't care how much they've done for me" ... "sadly it overshadows all the good stuff they have done. I don't like people like this" ... thats called negative.
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on 2006-11-04 00:49:43 |
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psychology... it does personality does matters a lot (literaly maybe) Gendou- sama you are right.. but sometimes that we humas are pathetic, irony... etc.. etc... etc (due to some maybe harsh words i will say) well thats all i must control my temper well thats all love you all ingatz  --> |
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@Gendou and ppl viewing this thread Heh, you got me there :S Already an irony in this thread. But then again it's people that "give you negativity" that causes you to think negative. I'm not talking about a one shot but rather an accumulative effect. I myself have been a victim of negativity from people for a long time and I really despise these people despite what they have done for me. You have to experience this for yourself to know how it really feels like. Anyone who doesn't deserve negativity shouldn't have it inflicted on them, so thats why I don't even want to know these people who inflict negativity on people. But at least I'm doing something about it, I stick up for myself and stick up for my own rights and let them know that I can't stand there negativity anymore. I've already done something about this. I've use to have 3 friends, they gave me negativity and made me feel uncomfortable, 2 of them I've known for a long time. Now I just stop talking to them and stop responding to them on msn messanger and even there phone numbers and contact details. I've seen on "Today, Tonight" (an Australian current affairs show) where this person was given so much negativity by his boss that he suffered psycologically and couldn't work anymore, the boss treated him like crap, kept yelling at him even for the smallest things like when he dropped something on the ground, and the worst thing was that the victim had to ask the boss's permission so he could go to the toliet and what's even more worse was the boss said "Good boy, you can go to the toilet". JUST DISGUSTING BEHAVIOUR! At least the victim had a $1.5mil AUS payout, but then it can never fix what he's been through. They even interviewed the boss and he ofcourse denied any wrong doing. Anyways, I'm going a bit off topic, so does personality matter? In my simple opinion yes. |
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| you call people who treat you like that friends? Don't sound like they are very good friends, imo. So if they aren't friends, what do you care about their personality? |
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I am sorry you feel this way about people Funsch but people aren't going to agree with you on every point in your life. Most of the time they aren't going to even act happy if they don't feel like it. But in my opinion anyone that doesn't like what you're doing but supports you anyway is called family. I think of the relationship with my brother. I don't want to go into it a lot but he doesn't make healthy choices with his life. This is something I constantly discourage. I debase him, plead with him, yell at him, and disrespect him in all sorts of ways. But I support him in whatever he chooses, because the underlying fact is that I love him. Am I supposed to accept my brother at face value without questioning him? F*** no. I want what I believe is best for him and will attempt to dissuade him in any way I can. That doesn't mean I support him on everything but I am there for him whenever he needs me. Friendship, like love, is a collaberation. Needless to say that your actions against your friends, for lack of a better word, perplex me. How can you turn your back on the people that support you? All I have ever known is that I would give my everything for my loved ones. The situation between the boss and worker is different from yours because the boss offered no assistance or support to the worker. If you dislike the way these people treat you then instead of matching ignorance with ignorance just for spite, just talk it out. Atleast then both arguements can be heard and hashed out between the involved parties. Personality is everchanging in an individual. There are many factors that come into play with personality. There is a line to draw when people don't see eye to eye. But that line is not permanent and it is almost never solid and straight. Do not disrepect the bond that has been formed between two people, simply collaberate and come to terms. In my opinion that is the only just way to start, continue, change, or end a relationship. |
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@Eiko There not my friends anymore, and I'm just saying "because of there personality" I'm not there friends and I don't care about there personality, I didn't say I'd care about there personality. I'm just saying if people see that side of them, the attitude they give to me, then who wants to be friends with them, let alone even talk to them. The only reason why other people like them is cause they don't treat them like they treat me. @Wolf The only reason those people treat me that way is cause they see me as someone lower than them, and just to confirm they're all around my age the 3 of them. They probably see me as someone weak and pick on me cause of that. So thats why I don't like these kinds of people, picking on someone else to make themselves look big and feel good about themselves. But at least I'm doing something about it, I'm sticking up for myself and believing in my own rights. Hey man, I use to be like you giving the slack to my bros cause they make the wrong decisions. But then now I know how they felt cause 1 of the 3 former friends did the exact same thing. So I know what my bros felt when I gave them the slack, so now I'd hardly do it anymore. How do you know what it feels like to be in a negative environment. When you experienced it then you know what it really feels like to be on the receiving end of negative comments. I'm not talking about a one-shot but rather an accumulative effect. One of the guys kept giving me negativity and even made me depressed a few times, I just feel that I don't care what he's done for me cause it's sad that his behaviour towards me overshadowed his goodness and I can really only remember him for giving me negative attitude. I've been through a lot of negativity in life and I feel that it's time I did something about it. Yes, I could talk to these kinds of people, but hey you can't change someone, they have to change themselves. They aren't gonna change there attitude just for me. So I've decided I don't need these kinds of people in my life that give me negativity. I just feels it's for the best, well for me at least, that way I don't have to suffer anymore or go into anymore arguments with them. LOL, it's kinda ironic sometimes what I do reflects in soccer or the other way around. My situation is kinda similar to the Dutch National Soccer team around 2 years back. They had players like Patrick Klivert, Clarence Sedoorf, Edgar Davids, all world class players (i.e. They're REAL GOOD), but they always caused dis-harmony within the Dutch Camp. When they brought in a new Manager, Marco Van Bastin, he didn't choose these players cause of there trouble making, but it was for the best cause without these players harmony was restored in the Dutch camp, and it was even good cause it gave young talented players a chance to prove themselves to the Dutch National team. So 2 things were achieved, harmony to the Dutch National Team and the renewal of the Dutch team with younger talented players, and to that decision they manage to remain unbeaten in there qualifying campaign to qualify for the 2006 World Cup and beat the likes of the Czech Republic and Romania twice home and away to top there qualifying group and automatically qualified for the world Cup. So I'm following Van Bastin's example on how to get rid of the trouble makers, in my case the people that are giving me negativity and to finally have peace and quiet for myself and not worry about those former friends giving me there negativity. |
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what is bad/negative? what is the basis of being bad/negative? these things are relative. |
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on 2006-11-05 04:51:39 |
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ah guys can you stop arguing now maybe we take it personality and can lead to misunderstanding --> |
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| nope we haven't answered the question yet. |
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You won't find peace by simply pulling the ignorance card and dropping it where it is. That's like cutting off your hand and acting like it never happened. Not only will the wound fester but it's gonna come around to haunt you in the end. Yes, it inevitably turns to the individual to change but that change is brought upon by stimulus which in this case can be your persuasion. It seems like both sides of this negativity are too stubborn to drop off they high horses and deal with each other. In life you gotta deal with the good and the bad, never just one side. Key word is deal with it. You can't pretend that these problems never existed, didn't happen, or aren't there. I mean s*** if you wanna drop the friends like they a bad habit, atleast give them the courtesy of knowing why you're doing it. I don't wanna analyze what you said, but what you're sayin. |
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it depends all on timing and the tone of voice your saying 
you know, this site is like myspace with anime so it should be 'animespace' |
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on 2006-11-05 19:17:05 |
| Duh. Personality makes what you considered an actual friend. |
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@Ryoko Yes, finally someone that understands what I mean, heh sometimes I have problems making things simple. Thanks for giving us a simple answer. @Wolf Woah! Chopping off your hand O_O. You make it sound like a big sacrifice. Hey sometimes change is for the best. I'd changed high schools and it was one of the best things that happened to me. 95% of the bullying had stopped and when the bullying did happen. I'd just ignored it and it eventually stopped. Wolf I think what your saying is that I should talk to these people, heck it's hard to talk to these people, as I said before they're not gonna change "just for me". You can't change a person, they have to change themselves, and plus I don't like there personality's anyway, so another reason why I'm leaving them. Imagine I'd used your method in my old high school. Does this mean I'll have to talk to everyone to stop bullying me?, which was almost like my whole year. Heck it's not an efficient way to deal with the problem. I could have ignored it but it was too late for that cause they already knew my weakness that time and wouldn't stop at anything to bully me. I'm not gonna suffer towards them, let alone take there crap. I'm glad I'd left that high school. If the atmosphere's not comfortable for me after a while, then I'll just leave it, cause I know I don't belong there and try to seek somewhere, where I do belong. I'm not pretending these problems never happened. I'm just getting rid of the negativity so I can finally solve this problem. I know it's a big sacrifice to lose friends, but hey sometimes it's for the better. But in time I'll let them know why we aren't friends anymore. So overall: -Change is good sometimes -You can't change a person, they can only change themselves |
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| Well obviously we have grossly different perceptions and definitions for the word friend. I said you should extend that courtesy to your friends, a**holes are a different story. You tell those people to play a nice game of hide and go f*** themselves. But as far as the negativity on that scale is concerned, You can nip it in the bud. If you take it one case at a time and at the time it happens then people won't give you s*** ever again. But yeah I hear what you're sayin'. |
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@Wolf Sorry I don't understand what you want me to do. Can you simplify it please? |
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| Hmm... i don't think too much about these things. If your gut tells you that you don't like someone's personality, whether they're sadistic, genuinely nice, cold, or sexy, then you simply don't... It's a bit difficult to influence someone's way of naturally judjing others. I personally don't want unnatural friendships. It's all up to you. |