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In my country, sex is an evil thing. It's a SIN to have sex b4 marriage. No man wants to marry a girl who isnt a virgin. I know some guys, who have sex with their girlfriends and make them pregenant but then they drop their girlfriends. Unfortunatedly, everybody dont critise the guys, they think all the faults are the girls'. Sex is a subtle problem in my country. If we ask our parents about sex, they will shout at us.They also dont want their children have boyfriends or girlfriends when they are at school. My parents even ban me to be so close with some boys. I'm 16 years old now but they dont let me to go out after 7 o'clock. They never undestand me. My mother will kick me to the home if she khonws what I'm thinking. I think sex is bad if we dont know how to protect ourselves from HIV and STD and it isnt bad if we know to protect ourselves from them. |
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by lil_aznx_qutie
on 2006-01-08 01:17:24
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| *laughs* depends how much of it you have |
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| Why are u asking this type of question here man... but neway yeah Sex Is good as it helps to carry on the Human populations... IF u think that sex is bad then stay single and just keep watching anime for the rest of your life... Lol and stay away from romance animations.. |
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by 嬰 å…’ æ«» 桃 女 å©
on 2006-01-08 02:56:49
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lol *nods in agreement to random*
hmmm... cant b stuffed making 1 at 10:30 pm... will do it laterz...
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on 2006-01-08 08:18:07 (edited 2006-01-08 08:34:21)
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Random and Cherri ask a good question. I'll answer it but first I would like to know where the two of you and Phapsulua are from. Now chldren pull up a chair while Aunty Rin tells you about sex and culture. Whether sex is good or bad the way we are discussing it has a lot to do with several factors and has nothing to do with sex itself unless we're making fun of sex *scowls at lil_aznx_qutie* among those factors are
Some examples and objectively as I can. Fundamental religion and cultures may keep women from showing all or part of themselves in public. The burkah worn by some muslim women and the longs skirts, stockings. blouses and wigs for orthodox jews or the covering clothes of the amish are good examples. For them a women is forbidden to be touched by a man or for her to touch one unless she is married to him. IN some soceities it women wear gloves tin public to keep there naked hands from being touched by a man. I grew up that way. In ancient times a woman who violated those laws could have been put to death usually by stoning. Family: Mine is a good example. Men dominate the women. We are expected to do as we are told maintain the home, lay on our backs and make children. Nothing more while the men do as they please including with other women. This is in England and is a holdover in my family from the from the days of Queen Victoria. Victorian sex was anything but Victorian. that was a time when men could have an affair with a young teen and no one said anythn. If a womna had an illicit affair andwas cought that could be the end of her family and reputation. Dual standard. Another way family deals with the subject is two girls who live not far from us. Thye are both in their teens and still don't know anything about sex other than it's the devil sin. Their mother has forbidden them to take SexEd in school. I started teaching my girls when they were 13. School and culture: I went to an all girls boarding school. There were no sex education classes beyond biological reproduction. All I learned was what I heard from other girls most of which was not true, I found out eventually. Until I was 20 my only sexual experience was a forced kiss at the hands of some of the older girls while I was in school. The night of my first sexual encounter I didn't have any idea of what was going to happen not even a preconceived one. I had never seen a man or picture of man in the nude, not even in art class. I knew when he took me into the bedroom I was going to make love only I didn't know what making love was iver and above kissing, holding, laying on a bed. That was pretty much all I knew. I didn't even think of bodies together or that it would be experience like no other. It is amazing in 1983 that a 20 year old college art student has no knowledge of sex, love and how they go together. Ranger on the the hand had sex for the first time in High School and had a lot of experience when we met they were both 17. You learn a lot about each other 22 years of marriage. Enough so that my introduction to sex was and incrediblae experience for me. I have heard and talked to girls who for their first time it was anything but pleasant. You can't just jump into bed, you have to learn something. Only you can't learn anything if the attitude is sex is for making babies and nothing else. It's ridiculous. Phapsulua in his country sex is an evil thing. I live in America and single or married, sex is great and a good thing. I was afraid, trepidatious the first time because I didn't know what was going to happen. If you get married to a girl who has the same problem it cold destroy your marriage when you connsumate your lover since you may physically cause her pain while trying to make love. That can happen quite easily. That's becasue yuo don't know the mechanics of sex. Without that knowledge by at least one of you your first time can be a major pain in the A--. *giggles* Wrong side. Does that help? Sex is neither good or bad, it just is. that's my favorite answer, war, love, sex. You can do anything about it's just there and it does affect our lives. It's culture religion and society that make sex good or bad. I feel good sex, making love as opposed to just bundling is essential to a long happy marriage. They only way to achieve that is to educate yourself.  |
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I believe it relies on the point of view and morality of a person. There will always be people who think opposite other people's, so there might never be an answer for this question. However, the answer is really up to you. It's your life to lead. By the way, this was a really thought provoking question, I would never have had the guts to as about sex. ^__^  |
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by lil_aznx_qutie
on 2006-01-08 20:48:23
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| *scratches head* ehhh.....hehe. welll. its true...kinda haha. *reads what lady_rin wrote*....ehhhh hahaha well i learned sumthin |
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on 2006-01-09 07:04:00 (edited 2006-01-09 13:04:51)
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Where do you live Qutie and what did you learn? As mods we are discussing, among other things, the issue of sex and how it is handled or dealt with on the forum. I shall say that there are forums where the subject is discussed freely and in much more detail than it is here and I would like to know how far can we go, in your opinion, before we start stepping in places where it would offend you or other members of Gendou. Don't forget we have users here as young as 13 and in my opinion that is the correct age to start proper sex education. In other words, shall we continue these discussions or lock them out? I would like to suggest that you read this entire thread if you haven't yet. I shall also advise you that you may read something that is not accepted or looked well upon in your country, culture or family and that is the problem with a truly international forum. Here is the original question by Kazeha_18, "Is Sex bad? Whats da good and bad side of it"?!! |
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on 2006-01-09 07:49:26 (edited 2006-01-09 07:49:41)
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| At age 13 I knew very little about sex. As a result I felt like talking about sex was disgustind and vile. As time progressed I accepted it as a natural part of lif and now feel comfortable with talking about it. I belive that those who would feel offended by talking about sex will steer away from this thread. Unfortuneatly some people won't follow this pattern so my opinon has no bearing on what people will do. I also belive that this thread is a viable resource, that if used properly, could open the eyes of those who don't know what sex is about. Well that's just my opinion so however much that's worth. |
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sex is natural . its the STDs　u　gotta　watch out 4  |
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@ 'aunty Rin': I live in Vietnam. My country is still little feudalism now. Despite of the culture in my country, I still think that sex is not bad as many people think. However, I think we shouldn't have sex with many people without protection. Luckily, we are taught a little about sex at school now ( but it's very less) and I really dont understand why they always teach the girl but never teach the boy???!!! |
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by desertranger
on 2006-01-10 09:05:15
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I remember Vietnam. Spent a couple of years there in the late 60s. phapsulua you absolutely right about not teaching the boys. I think the reason the focus on girls is because the can get pregnant. |
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| It is also as much of the man's decision to have sex as the woman's. Educating both parties is very important. At least there is some education, many people can go though life knowing nothing about sex, and when the time comes they are lost and confused. Unfortuneatly most of those people are taken advantage of and don't realize untill it is too late to do anything. |
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Sex is good. Be sure you're married. |
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Well, for what reason would something so natural and so necesary be wrong!? You guessed it, nothing.  |
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on 2006-01-11 07:20:04 (edited 2006-01-14 20:35:47)
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Zyxro it's not the physical act we are looking as being bad but how different cultures look at it. That brings me to a thought. I know that in number of fundamentalist religions and cults (and there are a lot of them) "Doing It" see how dumb it is to say that and having fun or enjoyment is considered a sin and a major sin at that. This is carried to the extreme in that marrieds sleep in separate beds, I even know one couple so conseravative they sleep in separate rooms. When it comes to sex there is a barrier between them, a special garment to wear even rules about how to "Do It!" so they won't be lured into lust and sin by enjoying the physical pleasures of the body that is making love. That's animal sex, just for the sake of reproduction. So who, back in ancient times, decided that "Doing It" felt so good that they had to tell people it's a sin to feel that way. Him, "Oh man, that's was fantastic... Incredible. Wait a minute; we can't have that much fun. Have to make that a sin" Her, there are women who feel the same way. Honey can we do that again, and again and again"? Him, "Yep , definitely a sin, feels too good.
Ranger I edited this for Rin, she's been tryin to make her audio work properly. Why didn't my table go where it was supposed to? Gendou Please be careful to close tags such as TABLE and that TD tags are enclosed in TR tags. thanks! |
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Is Sex Bad?.... It kinda depends on the situation and the way you react to the situation.
If humans are supposed to rule this world, then why are we so weak.
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| *sarcasim* Don't you just love all those people who placed sex on the taboo list. Thank you victorians, thank you unnamed person who wrote that sex was bad. |
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no, sex is not bad. But be sure your in the right age before doing that...
Love and peace! Baby!
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on 2006-01-12 05:20:28 (edited 2006-01-12 05:22:14)
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I didn't know the table row tag were required, I've never used one before. Closing tags, yes, we shall pay closer attention to that. Khezef can you be more specific please? Note: I shall remove the audio link after five posts from where it is. That way you won't go crazy listening to if forever. |