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on 2006-01-01 18:12:05 |
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The original questions as I recall wqas one of how different people, cultures and faiths look at sex. We all know it's natural. For the most part we know that it can be a good or bad experience and I can give you examples from two innocents making love for the first time that can be good or bad to rape and we all agree on what that is. And what about a virgins first time. That can be good or bad as well it depends. I have friends who are sexually conservative, so conservative they haven;t even talk to their teen girls about it. You comment on this being a stupid (not stoopid) question has no meaning. Add to the fact if you have had sex without protection that is a choice you and yr partner make. For those of you who don't know I have only had one lover my life only one person has ever shared my bed. So feel free to be sketical if you wish. Of course I've had more sex since I've had that one lover for many years, and yes I'm being obtuse tonight.  |
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by animezsuki
on 2006-01-02 02:17:25 (edited 2006-01-02 02:54:06)
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hahahah xD i am young ^_^ but jus asking~ ive asked few females do they like sex...then they turn out saying ewwww....ur so disgusting.....and said of coz they dont like sex...probably those types of females are still immature... kkz~ i get it |
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by desertranger
on 2006-01-02 17:08:52
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They may not be old enough yet. That'll change  |
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Re: Is Sex bad?!
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on 2006-01-02 18:19:52 |
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Change is meek to what they really do, from ew to you. I know that sounds very chauvinist but look at what most bars are full of. We men go though an even more dramatic change. We go from cooties to boobies. As far as cultural interpretation most of the worlds views are influenced by Victorian views and beliefs. That being that sex is taboo and should not be talked about, period. They're also the ones who gave such wonderful things as the subordinate woman and very "polite" society. |
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by desertranger
on 2006-01-02 18:46:49
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Taboo, victorian sexual mores and polite society. The victorians were a randy little culture in their own right. Carroll Dodgeson aka Lewis Carool had a thing for pre-teens, women were supposed to lie on there backs to satisfy their husbands and bear children while there husbands could have any number of girlies stashed elsewhere and she had nothing to say about that. It's still prevalent in places among the English today. Rin when I met her knew less about sex and reprodction that an american jr hi student at the time (1983) and nothing about male/female anatomy and relationships other than "keep you hands off me", she was 20. She had no idea about what was going to happen when I led her to her bedroom that night. Zero, nada, zip. I am talking nothing at all. Not what a man looked like, how you went from kissing to the next step, why I was touching her that way or what happened in the end. How often does someone run into that? More often than you think. There are entire cultures and sub-cultures that have very "victorian" attitudes towards sex. We even have more than a few of them here. How can you not have SexEd in an era when avoiding STDs is a major subject on TV. |
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on 2006-01-02 19:04:33 |
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Gotta love those Victorians. Even more surprising is the amount of sex on TV. I believe a study concluded that by the age of 10 a child has seen over 1 million sexual acts. According to the study a sexual act was considered everything past first base so-to-speak. Then again it was funded by the people who believe that a kid raised in an inner city that played a violent game, that every criminal act was caused by that game only. That's an entirely other debate. My mother has been anything but "Victorian." she was buying me books at the age of 12, so I can say I know a good bit about it. I do find it funny that I scored a 100% on the female anatomy, but only an 89% on the male. I realize not many kids have had the same luck that I have had. I believe that all kids, even though they hate it, should defiantly take sex ed. The things you learn in there are more important than how to tell what the parts of a sentence are. |
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by Midnight Jackal - Thief King
on 2006-01-02 21:10:44 (edited 2006-01-02 21:17:57)
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i dont think sex is bad. However, at times people get embarrassed talking about it, because its something 'private'. And for girls, well.. it's a bigger step for them (compared to guys) when they're going to have sex, since they're the ones who are going to get pregnant. i'm just irritated that our school doesnt have the proper SexEd classes.(the fact that we're in a Christian school)(it's just cos i read some stuff in magazines and books my parents give me when i was small that i was properly educated) they just give useless pieces of advice..like the common sense ones. ToT most of my classmates dont even know when sex starts. They just know.. if people touch you 'somewhere you feel uncomfortable' tell him to STOP. T_T *sigh* Anyway... The only thing to remember is.. have sex, with the person you love and trust. and not be forced into it.  |
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| I don't know anything about it. In my place this is so private, so your are lucky can get sexEd. is i know we have sex went we get merried |
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by desertranger
on 2006-01-03 07:34:57
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That's gte problem. You guys aren't being educated. Midnight Jackal - Thief King is stumped because he goes to a christain school. Rin went to an all girls school. She told me her very first sexual kiss was forced on her by some girls she knew in the batroom on night. I don't know why Ryu has that prob it could be culture, religion, parents or school. I said earlier, " She had no idea about what was going to happen when I led her to her bedroom that night. Zero, nada, zip. I am talking nothing at all. Not what a man looked like, how you went from kissing to the next step, why I was touching her that way or what happened in the end. How often does someone run into that? More often than you think." I think I've made my point. |
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on 2006-01-03 19:30:08 |
| If the world was more open to sex would it really help us any. Think of Sex Ed a library even though the library always open who would go in. There is a bigger problem with society it's the lack of wanting to know. that keeps people from learning as well. I could spurt out facts and statistics on what is wrong but that doesn't garentee that you'll read it, or even give it a passing glance. In the few minutes I've taken to write this someone realized what sex is, and may more are engulfed in ignorance. If there is no desire to learn then teaching is worthless. |
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by phoenyx214
on 2006-01-04 00:41:15 (edited 2006-01-04 01:22:49)
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Hmmm dont really have an opinion whether its good or bad - **NOTE THAT THIS IS THE 4TH TIME IM EDITING MY POST. I WANT TO EMPHASIZE THAT ALL WRITTEN BELOW ARE MY OPINIONS - NO ONE ELSES... Sex is the means to perpetuate our species, a form of expression most of the time I would like to think it is of the right kind of love... but on the other-side its the cause or effect of evil... I dont have to spell it out there is an exponential plethora of things thats bad when it comes to sex. You only need look at most crimes like rape, murder caused by lust, human excesses such as - pornography, perversions, inhuman means to gratify ones self (regardless of species, amount, and number of people you do it with.....), intentional spreading of diseases etc etc. But let me also stress that these are extremes. For me - there are only a few basic rules: 1) Be responisble - You must be able to live with whatever consequence momentary pleasure/lust/out of wedlock etc etc will get you - most of them have in small print **FOR THE REST OF YOUR LIFE, or in other circumstances however short it renders your life... Being responsible is just as easy as getting contraceptive (the one you wrap or plug your thing with - depending on your gender). If its against your religion - then you have to think to yourself, is a couple of dollars and a lesser evil of using contraceptive worth getting fatally ill/sick, your life and or another beings life... 2) Think with with your head, not with your stick or your hole... whichever one you've got. Always ask yourself do minutes of pleasure (given you're a normal person) equate to an eternity of regret - If its because you're horny/toey, and dont know what to do with yourself, then you need a better hobby, a cold shower, or if it even means you relieve yourself (its better than getting everything else that's out there...) 3) Is your heart in the right place? It is also important to remember that LOVE DOES NOT NECESSARILY CONQUER ALL.... 4) Moderation is the key - its not bad, scientific findings actually says it boosts metabolism, releases prolactin hormones, phenylethylamine (also found in chocolate) and endorphin which are good for your body.... Just remember rules 1 to 3 and you will be fine. Im not one with a lot of experience - but I certainly have been around people who do/have. I believe I am one of the lucky few who learned a few things through other people's mistakes... |
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by desertranger
on 2006-01-04 05:13:46
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Phoenyx214 We have learned here that opinions are like assholes, everybody's got one. You don't have to apologise for that you are entitled to your opinion. Yur also entitle to take a crap and I'm not talking about the toilet. Ya see your said, " Think with with your head, not with your stick or your hole..." but let me tell ya, all too often a young man thinks with his dick that that's it. You don't always have control when yur playtoy wakes up. You also said, "Is your heart in the right place?" and "LOVE DOES NOT NECESSARILY CONQUER ALL". Well since ya like to scream at us I'll answer that with ABSOFU--INLUTELY. Maybe l love doesn't conquer all but it sure conquered me. What's this "Moderation is the key" The three best things in the world are Tequila, chocolate and sex with Milady. |
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on 2006-01-04 19:00:54 |
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Phoenyx, I would just like to say that with great vocabulary comes the essential know-how and application of that vocabulary, "there is an exponential plethora of things" is not the correct usage of exponentially. The proper usage would be "in the past few decades the has been an exponential increase in 'things that are bad'." Sorry if that offended you it's just I hate to see good vocab put to a bad usage. 1. Responsibility is very important in anything you do, I must agree with that. With out responsibility what would we even be having this discussion about. Your application of responsibility however would seem to indicate that you lack the grasp of responsible behavior. If you are unwilling to have a child then you are being irresponsible in that right. What makes going out and buying a contraceptive for the "responsibility" of having it at that time responsible? 2. I think ranger summed up this subject quite well. If your willing to have sex with someone then you should be willing to share your life with that person for the rest of yours. Chocolate is as good a substitute as anything for sex. Can't say that about Tequila though never tried it to young to anyway. 3.To paraphrase what has been said numerous times, with the proper motivation one can accomplish anything. Love may not necessarily conquer all immediately, but with the right guidance and support it can. If not for love I wouldn't be here and I'm sure of it. if love can conquer people like me (whose heart was a cold and hard as a million-year-old glacier), and people like ranger, then it can and will conquer all, in time. 4. Moderation is key my aunt Mary. If your post is anything to go off of your CONSTANT CAPITIZATION FOR ENPHASIS shows you don't believe in what your saying. I'll believe that when you show me an excellent dinner with anything less than four different foods. I'm a shot-putter so as you can guess I'm what you could call a barrel-chested man. I love food and lots of it. The very definition of moderation is a restriction and by definition a key is something the removes a restriction so what you are saying is an oxymoron, on par with jumbo-shrimp. Note: I didn't edit this post at all. I got it right the first time. |
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by 嬰 å…’ æ«» 桃 女 å©
on 2006-01-04 19:07:26
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I believe it depends on many things.. mainly age, the second person and the maturity in which you enter into the act. For example I have 3 friends 1. had sex at the age of 11 (I kno it is terrible) she was too young, chose a bad partner and not mature 2. had sex at 13 with a guy 3 yrs older hu she had been wit 4 1 yr... she made 1 mistake that was that she was not old enough 3. had sex at 16. She made no mistakes, right person (though i have to sai that he is my brother lol), ok age and VERY mature so just make the right decisions and remember NO REGRETS
hmmm... cant b stuffed making 1 at 10:30 pm... will do it laterz...
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by phoenyx214
on 2006-01-05 00:29:12 (edited 2006-01-05 00:56:48)
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*Reply to dirtyninja - I had to highlight I used exponential, not exponentially as per previous post -- I would hate to argue grammar here but if you're going to criticize my grammar - it might be best that you at least spell check and or grammar check? Your own work???? Who ever said posts in this forum needed to be grammatically correct??.... By using the sentence "exponential plethora..." I was being hyperbolical - you see the intention was to exaggerate… PS: Microsoft grammar check didn't pick it up either..... Even this site didn't http://www.grammarstation.com........ no offence to you too... and none taken....... PPS: dont take me too seriously... I am the way I am... I meant every word I typed... its a shame that I was unable to sincerely convince you. *Reply to desertranger (dont mind my incorrect grammar... I cant be bothered anymore...) Thanks for letting me leave my crap-bag here. Im very opinionated, and like anybody can be crude, rude and tactless sometimes... Its what you get for being around friends who suffer from depression because they've had a number of abortions due to not being able to control themselves..... I know what you mean when you say "but let me tell ya, all too often a young man thinks with his dick that that's it. You don't always have control when yur playtoy wakes up."...... Although Im going to say I didnt mean to shout... there was no other means to put emphasis in sentences, no italics, no bold, no other font... but Im not complaining... I like this board and forgive me I seem to be shouting.... *KUDOS TO YOU DESERTRANGER... your lady is sure one lucky lady.. GOT ANY BROTHERS??? |
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Ranger has a brother who is married to a chinese girl. Yao is very sweet. He also has a plethora of sisters. There is are ways to bold underline and more. Google basic HTML formatting. I shall be adding a page of HML you can use here in the future. phoenyx214 you said, "I'm very opinionated, and like anybody can be crude, rude and tactless sometimes". I have husband who's the same way. |
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on 2006-01-05 18:09:39 |
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Phoenyx, I had no intention of making you feel as if I had insulted you in some way. I just simply stated that you had used the word incorrectly, oh and by the way I type all of my posts in Word then post them, so I do spell and grammatically check my own work. No posts do not have be grammatically correct, but they look better when they are. Sorry if I bothered you. If I ever make any mistakes I want you to point them out to me. Exponential: of or involving exponents; "exponential growth" Exponential growth: profile of growth (or decay) of a quantity whose gradient is directly proportional to the quantity itself. A.k.a. 2-4-16-256 ect. |
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by desertranger
on 2006-01-05 18:22:06
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I would have loved to have taken Rin to bed when she was 16. As it is I can't even take her to bed tonight. |
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by phoenyx214
on 2006-01-06 01:26:09 (edited 2006-01-06 01:38:49)
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@ dirtyninja.... I did sound p*ssed off in the previous post, I think it is because if you spellcheck your previous to previous post - it contained a lot of errors. One should not judge others unless they are certain they are without flaws. Like the bible said "Let the first one with no sin cast the first stone...." I suggest you cut and paste it in word and see what errors were there. It is not the proper thread to argue about grammar - however the unit you are referring to - that I should have used is plethora. This word could be used to describe an extreme excess, or representation of a variety of things. The definition of the two words could be found on dictionary.com. And the way I used it - you many also want to look up what a hyperbole is.......... Im not as @nally retentive, as to bother spellchecking my posts all the time. I have far better things to do - as long as you understand me. @ rin Thanks for that -- I was I was expecting buttons, and I didnt know whether it would work... GOMEN! Hmmmm I dont mind what desertranger said... what he said was true especially about the @ssholes part. Also he already mentioned I shouldnt apologize :). D@mn -- you're lucky then rin... :) @ desertranger Before I forget, too much tequilla, sex and chocolate can be bad. If you have too much tequilla how are you going to get it up, you can get a bad liver, have massive hangovers that lasts for days, alcohol poisoning etc etc Too much chocolate you could get fat, how would you have the stamina for sex if you're fat? Too much sex?? RSI?? addiction?? I have heard people getting desensitized to it... which is scary. hmm yes moderation. |
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on 2006-01-06 05:49:13 (edited 2006-01-06 05:49:40)
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Ranger I have the keyB *evil laugh* Firsr of all I the only thing I do to excess is Rin. That's doesn't sound right. I don't think too much sex can desensitize you. I know guys including my bro who after 18+ years of being married still want sex but not with their wives. They all start talking abotu sex with younger women/girls. I don't have that problem because of Rin. To me she was Miss Cute and sexy when I met her and she is still that today. While other guys are dragging good looking but unhappy trophy wives to concerts and dinner Rin pulls me by the hand like and excited kid at Disneyland. Big diff. The trophys and Rin look similar; noce white dress, hair done well, trippy, trippy shoes only they don't smile. Moderation if fine for some things not all. Tuesday night was a good night for a Pacific Black* a pint of Gunniess and a shot of Tequila. You only need one so moderation has nothing to do with it. Chocolate, I have only one thing to say about that. As long as you don't stand between me and chocolate no one gets hurt. I am 60 Fn years old this week. I weigh ~195lbs and hike 5 miles a day, climb rock and run a ranch. You can drop me in the middle of the desert with my pack and a few liters of water and I'm good to go 2-3 times longer than anyone else. Wanna tell me a little more about moderation? /Ranger Oh dear. He is not happy this mornign.; We fouind out last night the Bronco is a total loss. We're still waiting to find out who's at fault since the insurance on the Bronco doesn't cover collision. If he's at fault it get's replaced by them otherwise... As for sex, I'm saving myself. A button for Phoney |