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Jomunga, to answer your question, I've already found my dream girl, so I'd let you guys try and chase the down-and-outside pich for a home-run. Hmm baseball anologies, I'm going to run with this one. Everyone here has the same fundamental problem, we keep getting the underhand piches but we forget the bat. We'll never hit anything, even a 20mph lob, if we don't step up to the plate prepared. For the social implications of what Jomunga was saying. If a single girl were to "walk" in here depressed and looking, I'm sure she would get a nice warm welcome. In the end she might either be scared off by a biblical flood of guys looking to impress through various means. As jomunga said, she would have to choose someone at some point, weather it be somone here or someone somwhere else. That could lead to a few diassapointed hearts and about thirty posts as to wishing both here and her new boyfriend luck, secretly wishing the other guy would leave creating an opening. For the chatroom, good luck in finding that, 'cause your gonna need all the help you can get. Even if you did the ration of cute asian girls to american boys would be about 1:10 conservativly. Nighmare, camping is fun, I do it all the time. *lame reponse* Seriously, even when you're not there your presence still permeates this thread. Wolf, I use humor all the time, esspecially in social settings. Funny is my middle name, seriously my middle name gets lots of laughs. I also poke fun at my own last name, Trew. There's a list of jokes, some very very old, some pretty funny. |
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| Jeez... I sometimes wonder how men can live outside of the sexual context. And yes, I'm a guy. I just never gave much of a rat's ass about relationships. |
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| Welcome back bro. I am disheartened that it didn't work out between you and macie. I am having the same kinda thing happen with a girl I want to get to know. Bottom line is that we are both too shy to hit it off with each other. I find shy girls extremely sexy and they are always good people underneath their quiet exterior. I'll probably end up with another really good friend, so I have another little sister to look after and protect. Still lonely on my side of the world but atleast it gives me time to do more sports because without them I would have a complete and utter mental breakdown. Tangent complete. Next topic. NO GIRLS!!! HOW DO YOU LIVE!?!?! Even if they aren't in...whatever CC is...there are plenty out there and most of them are looking for a great guy *cough* YOU *cough* so get out there and mix it up. Keep livin'. |
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all this talk of love is making me a little depressed...im kinda mad that me and macie never worked out...but i guess its ok...im kinda used to it. ive alwayse wanted to meet a shy girl in school or something and talk to her....shy girls are usually too shy to ask guys out...so she would probibly be more committted to a relationship....but one problem....no girls at CC. btw, i was camping, so thats wheir i have been for 3 days....thanks for asking...heh  |
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Well ninja the thing is that everyone in my school knows that I am smarter than the average bear. That's why I am for the most part unpopular. I don't try and hide anything about myself. Lying is something I think is pointless and requires too much energy. So with people seeing the real me everyday they are still blind. I ask school friends who don't really know a lot about me besides for the basics and all of them think I am off the dating market. I always tell them they are wrong but no one ever seems to listen. The girls that seem that they wanna know what makes me tick are shy and steered away because of other people's assumptions about me. What makes it even harder is that I end up shy and tongue twisted when I go over to talk to them. So there's this awkward 10 word conversation followed by blushing and turning away as if there is something more important to do. That makes me second guess their and my own intentions and I end up with another friend or nothing at all. And I kick myself for every coulda/shoulda/woulda that happens in my life. Jomunga if there was a girl like that who showed up here one day then I wouldn't really compete. I would probably just wanna talk with her because if she was my dream girl I'd find her fascinating to talk to. By the time I realize that I want to have a relationship with her, someone would go and win her over and I would end up with another friend. That seems to be the story of my life so far. *edit* I knew I was forgetting something, ninja. Conversations are usually like that when you first start getting to know people. It takes forever to find something in common then once you find something you don't want the conversation to end. The trick is to try and put people at ease. Laughter is the best bet on this one. I know that if someone is tense then they need a good laugh. Just put people at ease and they will open up then it won't be as hard to start a conversation with them. It'll get easier and easier as they get to know you more and feel more comfortable around you. The funny thing is that I can do this with just about everyone except when I feel overly uncomfortable. And I think jomunga wants an asian girl because ASIAN GIRLS ARE HOT! |
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jomunga, online relationship?yeah, some people tend to be hypocritical in the relationship. some would just wanna date someone online just to "experience love". however, there are people who found true love online. for me, it all depends on how trustworthy and honest your partner is. though right now im dating someone online, its my first time in online relationship and it is quite tough considering the time difference, distance, accent and so on..yet its so sweet. and i think race doesnt matter in love, whether you are caucasion or asian, if the asian girl loves you, she will accept you for who you are. well, maybe some conservative asians wont date someone with different culture. oh did i mention im asian and im dating an american guy right now? and may i ask why do you want an asian girl in particular for your girl friend? |
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I think if I get a girlfriend it will be from an online relationship. With online relationships its kind of the opposite from offline. Online people usually say what they think because they feel safe behind their computer, but you can't really tell what they look like. In real time they tend to hide there true selves and just try to look thier best. Really, I think it is more realiable for me to just find a girlfriend online. Just, one cant tell what the look like when one starts talking to them. One could find a person who thinks like you, but their looks might not be your taste to put it a good way. I ain't gonna lie and say look aren't important. They are quite important. The thing is, I ain't picky about looks. In Japan just about every girl passed my standards for looks. But still, I can't expect every girl I talk to to be asian. Besides I ain't asian either, I probably wouldn't pass in the looks department for them. I think I will make anime watcher a requirement for my girlfriend to have. I mean usually you can trust anime watchers. They tend to be looking for love after they watch all that romance anime. If I know a person watches anime, I probably will give them my trust easily. I have a pretty serious question. We all know that us here in this depression thread are looking for that dream girlfriend. What would you do if a girl came into this thread saying she was depressed, that she doesn't have a boyfriend, she explains her situation, tells us about herself, and happens to be our dream girl we are all looking for. Obviously most of us here would want this girl to be our girlfriend, what would happen to our community. Would you back down if your see other members desperatly trying to become her boyfriend? In the end if we all go for her, she will probably just have to choose one of us. I would definatly compete for her, however I wonder how I would feel if I wasn't choosen. Btw, where is the best place to look for a girlfriend online? I don't think gendou is the place to do it. I think some chat room designated for people looking for relationships is the best bet, however I don't know of any. I was wondering if there was a lonely cute asian girl anime watcher looking for romantic american boyfriend chatroom.  Jomunga eats your avatars. |
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Jomunga, as I read the bit about spiders one landed on my leg, irony. Ok now for a more serious topic. I have a similar social problem, although not quite the same as yours. I have no proble typing up a paged long essay on oh...let's say love. If you were to meet me in real life you probibly wouldn't recognize me. I don't talk like that too often, I write like that all the time though. It's actually becomming quite the problem. I can still keep a conversation going though, it just takes more time than I like. My conversations are like diesel engines, they take forever to get up to speed, last forever, and take forever to stop. Wolf, sell yourself right and they can't help but wonder what exactly those gears are turning for. If you want to be known for your mind, use it, that simple. I'm not saying that you don't just use it more. Show your mental acrobatics and they'll all wonder how agile your mind really is. |
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Well jomunga, yeah, my friend pretty much gave into his carnal self but he did have a couple heartbreaking relationships. They were like my one and only relationship with a girl. I liked her because she was everything I was looking for in a girl except it turned out to be fake and she just wanted my body. She thought because I was a year older than her that she could go to dances and show me off to her friends like some kind of arm-candy. But instead of me becoming like my friend and just settling into a life of pointless fornication I decided to swear off women until I found one that could look into my eyes and want to know what was going on behind them. Being friends with a girl is only as different as you want it to be. Try to be as true to yourself as possible. I try not to treat anyone one person different from the next. It takes a bit of risk and charisma but every friend requires atleast a bit of that. You just have to throw yourself out there and see who takes notice or even a liking towards you. Atleast you can go home at the end of the day and know people saw you for you. You seem to do it here easy enough. You express you truehearted opinion and see what people think about it. I think you can look back and find that ya ain't a bad guy, you just have to put yourself out there. |
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I like my corner though. In Japanese class I rarely say anything and am on the far side of the room. I just want to think and I don't usally like having conversations. The is a guy in my class, who is the life of the classroom. He goes out of his way to talk to me and tries getting to sit closer to him. (him and I are the big anime watchers of the class.) I like him and all, but I just don't want to give up my corner of solitude. It would be different if a girl asked me to move out of my corner. I suck at socializing. I hardly give an answer that is more that 1 word to people. Big difference from when I am at gendou. I when I was in Japan and had my first date. She was always struggling to continue the conversation. I was thinking, "I should give more interesting answers or maybe even ask questions." I actually managed to pull off a decent conversation, but conversations seem so boring when it is not in gendou. What I am thinking of is completely getting rid of my cool and quiet style and switching to the loud and obnoxious style. However, I think the loud and obnoxious style doesn't attract girls. But the cool and quiet style, you can't even converse with them. Acting normal bores me. I just wish I knew how to keep the cool and quiet style and still have a social life. And how does one get a social life where all your friends aren't guys. In highschool I suffered from the all guy friends syndrome. How does one get to be friends with girls? What a rant, sometimes I get carried away. I don't need to be in corners to be bitting by spiders. I did kill another a couple of hours ago. As for Wolf's friend, it really ain't his fault the women are like that. However, bad excuse. He is basically saying, "because the women around me are like that, I can be like that too." How often has HE tried to look beyond a girls body? I think his excuse is pretty hypocritical. Oh well, I don't think what he is doing is bad; if both sides just want sex then no harm done. I mean at least he isn't trying to fake being a boyfriend and loving them just to have sex then dumping them afterwards. As long as he is responsible for his actions and hurts no one, then he is fine by me. Oh and I give up on Oblivion. I reinstalled my old card, stored away the new one and Obivion with it. That game is just a pain in the ass. Jomunga eats your avatars. |
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on 2006-04-21 07:05:30 (edited 2006-04-21 23:21:00)
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People who sit in dark, secluded corners sit in dark, secluded corners in order to sit in dark, secluded corners. If a girl could even take notice, that corner wouldn't be very secluded, would it? All things are a manner of choice. Here, you either 1) have to get your ass out of the dark, secluded corner and go searching or 2) leave it to the fates.. both of these options involve speech. Big-body-of-water-between-Europe-and-Africa.... also known as, the Mediterranean Sea. |
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| HAHAHAHAHA, yeah there are a lot of people in this world that people consider a little on the dense side. But don't we all have moments like that? I know where you're coming from and I don't bash you for anything you believe but there are way too many people in this world to be pissed off at the majority of them. You just gotta keep livin'. Take my one friend for example. He is a walking penis. He has sex with girls atleast once a week and he never goes out with one a second time unless he had a good time. He even asks the girls once he's done with them if they have any hot friends they would set him up with. The thing is that the boy is smart as they come and athletic to boot. He's is my lifting partner and nationally ranked in wrestling. I asked him quite a few times why he treats women like that. He said to me, "I've never met a girl who has even tried to look beyond my body. They come to me from myspace or through a common friend looking for a notch on their belt. Just because I look like almost every single male model you see on posters in Hollister, AE, A&F, and Pac Sun, the girls automatically assume I'm the definition of a good-looking guy. They don't come to me looking for a relationship. Most of them don't even call me afterwards. And if they do it's just to be friends and hang out." And you know I respect him for atleast having the brain power to explain why he does it. I don't like that he does but he wants to get it while he can. He's still my bro and a good person. I've told him that he can just wait and find a girl he can fall in love with but it's all his perrogative. He is how he is, true to himself. Hate him if you want, accept him if you can, but he's just gonna keep livin' like he wants. That's all we can ask of ourselves. |
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Jomunga, they probibly like them more than the guys who ask out girls to prom just so they can have sex after. It's those kind of guys that give the kind caring ones like us a bad rep. Those guys get girlfriends because they don't think about the emotional attachments, and so they don't worry about the future of that relationship (well...past their own waist anyway). Oh, and sitting in those dark secluded coreners will vary rarly net you any luck, more likely you get bit by a spider. Wolf, if you want to be the "passionate 'foreign' lover they fantasize about," then talk to them in a different language and be suave. Oh and owning a yacht in the big-body-of-water-between-Europe-and-Africa (I'm too tired to look up how to spell it and I'm not even going to try) helps with that too. Sorry if I seem a bit cynical today. It's just that one of my friends is extreamly dense, and another 5 just want sex. I'm begining to think only a handful of my freinds are honest and a little less perverted. I'm also starting to see why people don't get direct voting, they're way too stupid/ignorant for their own good. It's people like that whom really push me over the edge, I can't take stupid people. Or people who act stupid for things like attention, or who lack common sense, or think they know things when they really don't and carry no open mind about anything and always think they're right (when they're not). I can take people who naturaly just aren't all that smart, but at least they have common sense (most of them). I've had to be arround the first group for 3 hours today and it really agrivated me. |
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I wonder if there are any girls out there that are attracted to men who sit in dark secluded corners and say nothing. Jomunga eats your avatars. |
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| HAHAHAHA, Sero most girls are looking for that stuff anyway. I get screwed with girls because I end up like the older bro they never had instead of the passionate foreign lover they fantasize about and then tell me they are looking for >=|. |
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exactly, sero.....that was exactly right! |
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*slams head on desk*... really not helping. LOL @jomunga - ... link? lol whatever. I'll check it out. |
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RFA, Just leave the name its fine. If you choose to RP it. it was pointless, until now, so just cheer up already sheesh. yeah suicidal girls....theres something bout them XD I guess the whole thing I could see as to why it is like that is.... you want to show them that they are loved...and you can protect them. and that someone looks up to you....etc etc etc That was better worded in my head....XD 
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my depression right now is that SERO keeps saying my threads piontless and well i kinda think he's right.....so er is there a way you change the name of a thread? or delete it..    oh helleo! hahaha, i'm Urahara , DON'T FORGET IT....hahaha |
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well i dont really want to talk to her right now...she hasent called me. so im going to wait until she does....myabe in like 2 weeks or so if she doesnt call...then well have that long talk. and i know what you mean, jomunga, abotu the suicidal girls....its wierd...but oh so true... |