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Actually, school should be your top priority but you must not take it too seriously, and take the advice from jomunga. Don't think about school when you're outside classes, just have fun...and study a bit at home while watching anime or listening to music. |
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Heres some advice. Try not to compare yourself to others. Put goals in your reach that are for you, and dont reach at other peoples goals. If you wanna give it my style, dont be so serious about school. Things you enjoy should be first priority. School shouldnt be your first proirity, thats just gonna mess up your brain. Relax and go through school at a comfortable pace for yourself. Or go at my pace and just dont do anything in school but goof off.  Jomunga eats your avatars. |
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No, I didnt say Neji and Eeekar are easy, just that as girls they seem to have a different attitude to guys chatting up chicks than most other girls I know. And yeah Nejigirl, I can understand your problem although I didnt have to go through with it. Your parents are like Nightmare's right? Surely you can explain to them that going to med school aint your interest and that it lies elsewhere. But tell your parents that you will do your best anyways but just that your path just cant match theirs. your parents may have gave you life and raised and and all that but I just dont think parents have the right to determine what their child's future path is. One's path is one's own, it is mutually exclusive of other people's paths. If your parents won't listen, Nejigirl, then they are just like those Asian parents some of my friends have. They always want their kids to get the best of the year, and get into Medicine at the state university or to do dentistry at the state university or to do commerce in university. A bro of a friend of mine, he's now doing veterinarian science but his father wanted him to do commerce or something at the University of Western Australia. My friend said his dad was kinda upset when my friend's bro said he wanted to do vet science instead. Once this chick in our year she started crying to her economics teacher because she didnt get about 90% and kept trying to get the teacher to raise her marks til it's above the 90% mark saying if she doesnt get more than 90 her parents get really upset at her, and she's very intelligent in our year too. Sadly, that's how it is these days. It's always about how you can be better than other people and how can you get jobs that will make you relatively rich. No one can follow their own path anymore coz it somehow is predetermined by everyone else. Just follow your own path Nejigirl, i think if you do things happen so that you wont end up marrying some guy just to live. the Divine looks after its own. |
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| ...you still have 2 years before college, don't overthink about it. When the time comes, you will decide well for yourself. |
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| Nejigirl, dont worry much, just try to do your best. A friend of mine has a brother that flunked 3 times in highschool!!! Then he went to college and now he is going to do his last year of college, and he is one of the best in his course with amazing grades and never flunked at anything since then. |
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| Nejigirl, I completely understand because I'm at the same point in my life. The only thing I can say is be persistent and do not falter. If things don't work out as planned there are always other opportunities. Hardwork = good payoffs and applying for every scholarship and college under the sun will surely get you something good. Don't worry yourself into a heartattack, my brother flunked his senior year and ended up in nursing school which was where he wanted to go anyway. I'm the biggest idiot in the world but I got into the college I wanted. Then again they want me for football and track. Just take a deep breath and realize you will get where you gotta go. |
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but you're ACTUALLY INTELLIGENT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! there's a difference! >.<
nya........... hehe.
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I don't think that my parents were as focused on grades and "success" as the parents of some other people that I know, both here on the forums and in Real Life, but I do have something to say that I think might help. If I were you, I just wouldn't worry about it so much. School is important but not the be-all and end-all. I was always a slacker... I got ok grades, mostly B's with the occasional A or C...Plus, I had NO extracurricular activities in high school at all :) ...but here I am, going to a good college (it was actually my first pick!) and I even have a scholarship. Bottom line-- straight A's are not a necessity for life. Just do your best, don't swamp yourself. If you feel that you have to get fantastic grades and do 50 different extracurricular activities in order to qualify for a good college, just relax and think to yourself "oldcrow's a lazy ^&%$ and he's in a good school with a scholarship." I hope that sharing the boring story of my academic life helped.  |
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and wait... i am most certainly NOT easy!!! {flustered} what happened when i leave you guys alone for just two simple days?!?
nya........... hehe.
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guys, i feel like fainting. can i rant here? too late, here goes... yeah, so i haven't posted for a while because school started, and now i'm really, really freaked out. for the first time in my life i'm afraid of not being accepted into college, and not getting a decent job to support myself, and having to marry some guy just so that i can live.... UGH! jesus christ! i'm sixteen, how the hell am I supposed to know what I want to do with my entire life!?! It's been two days of school, and I've just been buried in expectations, ridicules, and the underlying process of continually pushing to be better, stronger, prettier, smarter, and more talented than everyone else in the entire school so that I can recieve credentials and awards and identifications and certifications that i don't even care about, so that I can please those who I financially depend on. and it will continue this way forever, it just seems like there's not one sigle way of breaking the chain of this sort of thing!!! it's not like i can depend on my family, that's just a load of crap, forever it's just all been on me, and i wish that there was just some kind of substantial comfort that could just take care of me or something, i just feel like i'lm going to regret so many things like i'm running out of time... i miss my friends, i don't want to have to be so stressful, and i don't want to forget who i am under the burdens of useless things... i don't want to have to go to a college that i don't truly love, i don't want to have to go to a med school where people aren't truly compassionate... i just feel like i'm not good enough to do everything that i need to be... i feel like there's just no way of surviving if i don't improve, the word 'succeed' just keeps drilling into my head like a bloody screwdriver or something, and it disgusts me because i've become afraid of forgetting my ideals in search of something better that will make me justified somehow... and i'm afraid of being on the brink of anger, and having to constantly feel bitter about what i'm doing every day, and i'm afraid of having to do all of this alone, because i just know deep down that I CAN'T.... i just can't.. i feel weak. there is absolutely nothing there! i don't know... i just feellike i'm... i don't know... {sorry about the typos, i just typed that really fast} sorry about that..
nya........... hehe.
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| My original opinion on depression was generalized as seen through my own experiences. I never took the time to read through the thread. I apologize if you have been offended by my ignorance and lazyness, nightmare in particular. I understand the frustration, saddness, and fear that leads inevitably to depression. My advice,which doesn't need to be taken personally, is to be honest to yourself and towards others. To live like that is to have a clear conscience. Granted people will hate,ignore, and reject you just becuase they can, such is human nature. Life can be rough, no doubt, but when you fall your friends and loved ones will pick you up. I am just saying that there are times when you must have the will to stand upon your own 2 feet and take a step forward, no matter how difficult it is. |
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by Stevetastic
on 2005-09-08 12:40:38
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I agree with sekis advice. I also type from experience. I am also amused and disturbed to find that so many people have looked and replied to this thread, bearing in mind it is called 'the depression thread' What does that say about us? |
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by night_link
on 2005-09-08 09:58:57 (edited 2005-09-08 09:59:36)
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| Heh, it's a good thing that most of us don't know each other on the outside then! |
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Seki, are you saying Eeekar and Nejigirl are easy?! XP And I agree with you, it's easier if the girl knows the guy personally, so the best way is to talk with her a bit before saying that he likes her. |
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| All the girls that I told that I like them all were nice pplz, but I still got rejected. It's not that simple, i guess eeekar, u are one of the few exceptions. I picture that Nejigirl is too. |
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well, it would be nice if the girl knows you personally. Then try to sense whether she likes you or not. If she's really nice, then you can tell her that you like her. I know someone that waited to tell this girl that he likes her. He waited for 2 yrs before he said it. But everything worked out fine. They've been together for 2 and a half years now. 
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I disagree goth, if a guy likes a girl, he shouldnt go up to her and tell her that he likes her. I know coz I did it like 4 times but no avail. The first time I just like a girl without really talking to her b4, second time I talk to her for a while and things looked good but she doesnt see me in that way, 3rd time the girl says she already just went out wif this other guy, 4th times the girl told me she forgot to tell me she already has a bf. No, you dont just go to a girl and tell her you like her, that will just weird her out. But yeah, try to talk to her first then ask her out but not on a date, then gradually make things cozy for yourself. |
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goth, one word. ego. it isn't to "justify", but more to explain the silly things that some boys do. I say boys because these are the ones who haven't grown up.
Veni, Vidi, Vici.
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| Y is that the male mind can never comprehend that women and girls are 4 the most part not going to wait 4 ur ass 2 get the courage 2 ask them out & whatnot. Just be upfront and tell the girl you like her and that it pains you 2 see her w/someone else. If she did like you as you said zparticus than maybe she will change her mind about being w/this guy. Have you ever thought that maybe she felt exasperated @ not being able 2 ask u out due 2 the fact that she is 2 shy 2 make the 1st move. Don't try 2 steal her away from her current relationship that is just plain stupidity. I mean what kind of guy steal's someone else's girl!It will give her the wrong message. I mean if u steal her away whats 2 stop you from cheating on her w/some1 more attractive hmmm? I don't know u that much but if u are a guy that doesn't really keep his word I would worry if I were you. Well I hope u get w/her when u both r ready. Good luck! |
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The reason there aren't many adult anime fans, it's because in their generation, animes weren't well implemented in our TV culture when they were younger. But now, with our generation, that will change and when we get older, we will not think the same as the generation before us did. oh, and there are plenty of adults here, as long as they're above 17 :) |