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on 2007-09-12 20:43:39 (edited 2007-09-12 20:44:01)
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Yes, I am currently in a relationship... I'm not sure if this is very philosophical but: Why do girls sometimes play "hard to get"? It kinda bugs me on why the females continue to baffle my mind. Like say you want to please this girl but she keeps on asking for more and more and more and more. And then when they never answer your questions! Gah! It so frustrating when my girlfriend never answers my questions. I buy her flowers and she says she likes roses better than carnations... *sniffle*... Whatever...so er...what do you think? 
So I drove into a parking lot one time and saw this person pull into a handicap parking spot. When you think handicap, you think wheelchair and whatever, right? So it just ticked me off when I saw the guy come out of the car perfectly fine. So then I ran him over. |
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I'm no expert on relationships, but I personally think that they act "hard to get" because, well, it's fun for them. I guess it makes them feel desired and what not. Maybe they think that if they keep getting chased, they'll make the pursuer want them even more, making them even more desirable. Plus in your case, it kind of sounds like she's just extorting things out of you if she keeps asking for more and more... No offense to your girlfriend, but I personally think people like that are just plain selfish. For one thing, it's a privilege for her to receive flowers so I don't see why she should be complaining. :P I guess if you don't want her to do these kind of things to you, you should be more firm. |
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on 2007-09-12 21:24:40 |
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For starters, let me ask you one question: What does relationship mean to you? What i is included in your definition of love? Does it constitute material or non-material aspects of love? It is important to know these. If you do not, you had better spend time thinking through them. It differs from one person to another. In my opinion, you should NEVER jump into a relationship without knowing what plans you have for your spouse. Some girls , like in your case, desires material needs. Their interests can sometimes be hard to manage. It can be, like you said, frustating. It really bugs me too. I think that both of you need more time together to understand each other's needs. This is the only way that you can sort out your stuff. Relationships cannot be rushed. It needs time to mature and develop, often taking up lots of time. This is the cost of being in a relationship. To gain one thing, you must forgo another. If you choose to go out with her, you may have to sacrifice time with your computer games or your favourite television programmes. It is realistic. You can never be at two places at once. It is illogical. In your case, it seems that she is the material sort, which can really drain you emotionally and physically, to meet her needs. To say the truth, this is all i can offer. You two need MORE time together to sort things out. It is rather personal. I will not intervene too much into personal problems. These are the advice that i can offer you. Good luck pal.. ^^  |
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on 2007-09-13 06:00:48 |
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Awh, well... We girls really often wandering too about boys. SO I guess, it's fair enough, cause human is created with heart and mind, and their so unpredictable. Sometimes, u really ma not know whether what they tell u is a really one they think in their mind. It could be opposite one, and here is about how you try to be more sensitive to know and predict what they really want. It may not a right one, but, the most things we girls want is affection and.. Hm,karas-san.. I'm not sure that we girls only think toward desiring material needs ^^ Not all girls act like that. Okay, well. Things when she ask you more and more, this is time, we girls really want to let our mate one step ahead knowing us. When I told u I like orchid better than roses, it doesnt mean tad I'll refuse your roses, but the next day, I want u not gimme another wrong, and I just want you to know all my preferences. Things quiet obvious is, why people always start think toward the negatives side ? When ur girl start to act weird, and persuade or yelling this or that, just dont be so negative, it's normal, cause we created more sensitive than you, and men created to balance us. So just do the relationship with fun and love, so even you are facing lots of problems, you both may more understand each other, and can face them smoothly ^^  |
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on 2007-09-13 07:05:21 |
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I wonder why relationships exist. Is it because it is human instinct or.. is it something more...really puzzles me.. X.X |
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on 2007-09-13 19:49:38 |
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@Karas-san : relationship exist cause human realize that they can live alone.. Do you feel it ? ^^ whether it's bout love / friendship, the most obvious is, we need other to accompanying us through life. Now, you mention it life as puzzle, then u need other to help u to solve the pieces ^^ |
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on 2007-09-13 20:16:58 |
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Here is my two cents. Girls play "hard to get" so they can find how just how far the guys are willing to go. It is like a test of strength, only in this case the strength of your love. If you are willing to do anything and everything to be with your girlfriend, I think that would be enough.  |
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on 2007-09-13 21:08:08 |
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Girls use that "hard-to-get" tactic to test how far and strong the male who's "trying to get them" will go. It's almost like toying with them, since you're on top while he's making his way up the ladder. If you're going to be with a girl, you have to understand her mind as well as her heart. They're both very vital and are nearly in sync with each other. My friend one time even called certain female's mind, "Dangerous Weapon-A" or something. Cause, that's what a female's mind can do... manipulate and control you. If you like a female friend of yours and you both know each other's mind and heart pretty well, you might be a good couple in my book. 
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I guess it depends on what you do. If you really plan something special for her and she shows no apperication for it, she's not worth it. It's true that they play games but it depends on what they are. If it's just harmless fun that doesn't include material things then it's a little easier to deal with, But if it's all about that she is a B-i-c-t-h and you need to run away very fast because you will never be happy. My brother and his soon to be wife constenly crack on each other and things like that, but that's what they do with everyone so they know it's just for fun and they know they love each other so they tease eachother all the time.  
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Girls play hard-to-get ,in my opinion, because they want to know if you really love her, test us if you're really meant for her   |
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on 2007-09-18 20:26:43 |
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Yet all of this stil boggles my mind...
So I drove into a parking lot one time and saw this person pull into a handicap parking spot. When you think handicap, you think wheelchair and whatever, right? So it just ticked me off when I saw the guy come out of the car perfectly fine. So then I ran him over. |
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on 2007-11-11 00:43:21 (edited 2007-11-11 00:47:17)
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Is it any point in acting hard-to-get if you're already in a relationship (Yes I'm probably a young man who doesn't really understand girls)? Though I can understand it if, as many here have said, that they act like that to check how much we love them (if this is the truth, will they test us as long as they can?). To Celeriter: it would be all right in my opinion if she also said thank you for buying flowers to her. As michibi says; "When I told u I like orchid better than roses, it doesnt mean tad I'll refuse your roses, but the next day, I want u not gimme another wrong, and I just want you to know all my preferences." --------- I just try to say that the girl shouldn't think that the boy can READ his mind, and should actually say "thank you for the gift". I think girls are a lil' bit selfish if they believe so and whine about the fact that we don't understand them (and the other way around I guess). I don't think too highly of this "hard-to-get-strategy". Does it mean that some girls think you love them enough if you buy them a new present every month or something (birthday presents and so forth are of course a must)? I believe girls are a little bad if they continiue to somewhat torture/confuse/frustrate boys with such indirect-approaches (that is if they know what they are doing -- this is prob. true for boys too). ---------- To Celeriter again: Maybe you somehow can try to talk about this with your girlfriend if it's really bugging you? Since you're in that kind of relationship it should be all right. Edit: by the way, maybe you should change the threadname to "acting hard-to-get" or something. |
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by GuitarGirl
on 2007-11-11 08:14:07 (edited 2007-11-11 10:21:21)
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Hmm, I don't see why she'd play to hard-to-get if you two are actually dating each other. If two people are dating, what's the purpose? You already have each other, so playing hard-to-get at that point would just look and be plain rude. I'm not really sure why she'd be acting like that, maybe like everyone else said, to see how much you really like her? But as far as us girls playing hard-to-get when we're not actually dating a guy and just really like him, I think it's just to make it seem as though us liking the guy isn't too obvious and to see if he likes us back. Personally, when I like a guy, I don't want it to be ridicuously obvious that I like him because it can give the wrong idea that you're too pushy. Not to mention it can be kind of embarassing if he realizes you like him that much and he doesn't feel the same way. It's good to give him the idea that you're interested, but not make it so obvious that he'll think he doesn't have to do his share of the friendship and you'll be the only one making all the effort to be extra considerate. In my opinion, playing hard-to-get at this point isn't bad because it's not hurting anyone and it's just testing to see how much the guy likes you back. But in my opinion, once you're actually dating the guy and know for sure that he likes you equally in return, it's not right to be distant for no reason. And the same goes for guys, they shouldn't acting aloof for no reason while dating, either. @ Celeriter: Girls confuse you guys, but guys often confuse us girls, lol! I still don't get why guys often get freaked out if you call them or ask them to hang out with them, even if they seem to like you. Shouldn't they be glad you like them in return? XD I also don't get why many guys think a girl showing them friendship automatically means you want to date them and start to freak out, when all you want is to be their friend! |
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well..... girls are IMO, very hard to understand ~_~ see... i have a similar problem too.... i have this girl, she is a friend, and i like her.... so, i go and make my way to her, trying to walk a path to her heart.... the first month, we are just like friends second month, we are like best friends and guess what? the third month, she suddenly avoid me, and we lost contact for 4-5 months even tho we are at the same school.... and just now (4 days ago) we chat again, like nothing happend (i always says hi to her, esp in the chat room, everytime she goes Ol) and just 3 days ago, she ignores me again.... wtf i cant understand them
there are only 2 things infinite, the universe, and human's stupidity
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on 2007-11-15 07:51:17 |
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Girls are completely unknown and irrational creatures. I have no idea why I do some things I do.   |
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Aye, aye, completely different species, they are. They move in mysterious ways  "Bad!" |
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on 2007-11-15 10:20:09 (edited 2007-11-15 10:27:59)
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First thing..Why girls are hard to get? One thing:Girl is an emotional species which you can't really balance them by using your brains but your hearts and love.. For example: If you are not feeling happy or well..they would know..because they would feel..(in case you are their love..just like your mom) Second: It's not that we girls like to play hard to get..It's because be a part of mystery and private so that you would take time to look us on and give time to yourself to suite yourself with us...Just take time to understand her so that she won't feel that you don't care about her. Second thing:Why is she asking for more..? Well..for me..i wouldn't ask for more though..but if your girl is asking for more..i guess that... Probably~>she wanted to get anything she wants from you(which i suggest..you should get off with this girl) Probably~>this is how she feels you love her(tell her that there's much more way of loving than materials) Probably~>she wanted to get attention.. Probably~>this is the only way she could want you to do as become her boyfriend(tell her there's many of love than this asking more..) Probably~>she's using you(get rid of her right away..she's not honest with the feeling) (there's much reason but try to observe for why she's asking for more before making a prompt action) Third thing:Why is she not answering my questions? She wouldn't think of any answers ~( i guess..that depends on your questions...) (but then if you ask her~'Do you Love me?' and if she's not replying...omg..i don't know that this world has turned 360 degree[it has]) Probably she feels that she doesnt need to reply to you or telling any personal things(for the reason..maybe she doesnt feel so) Fourth thing: From what you say~>you send her carnations than roses..i would think you as a person that has never dated to any girls before.. I mean..whoever guys dated with girls would send roses and not carnation(...havent you look to any movies?carnation is for mom!) rofl..~carnation is for mom...(she would think that you are sending carnation as if you are telling her she's your mom..) (but then if you send carnation instead of roses to me..i would be happier than that XD) you should send roses..for making sense..>.< *note:from Jad :ask the florist what flowers are for who before buying.(i'm just a messenger XD) Hope that helps~ |
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a girl is a non-undertsnable creature but definitely makes a guy complete :p 
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on 2007-11-26 19:34:13 |
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a girl is the most complicated being in the world that is undecipherable. you'll die on thinking on what she is thinking. it is so agonizing that it feels like a huge boulder is crushing your whole body yet you still want to be at her side. why do girls sometimes play "hard to get?" maybe... 1. she wants to test your true intentions 2. she just wants to flirt & play with you and will discard you in the end. 3. some girls treat the guys they like more different than her friends. 4. she wants something for you like money, power, knowledge or anything. 5. she's feels the same just like you and is awkward about the situation. I don't know about your GF but if she's a b*tch that is just using you or stabbing you back then I suggest that you think about continuing your relationship with her.  |
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Hey, here's all the answers! A model of how girls think. |
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