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How d u know if u r in love? What is love anyway?
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I'm confused about what it means as love. I read a lot of romance manga nad anime, and they don't really tell me anything... I wanna know, how do we tell if we are in love with someone? Is it really love? OR just admiring that someone? I know cheap love, like when u have a crush on someone for two days, then hate them... That's not the one I'm talking about. What I mean is, how do we know the difference if we like them because we admire them, or because we actually LOVE them.... And... I think, I might be in love with my best friend, or really close friend. But again, I don't know if it's real love, orjust admire them...  |
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on 2005-12-03 07:40:49 (edited 2005-12-03 07:41:31)
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Love, when u feel miss him/her if he/she not side of u. When u feel worry if far from u. When u close at him/her, your heart is pounding. &feel this world is beautifull when u close at him/her  |
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| dont fall in love unless youre really naive or generally have something going on like some kina connection. Falling in love for just to experience it could be the worst move of your life. Unless you have some goal in it, like money or fame or a connection, don't love at all. |
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Gasps at Gentlewind's reply. Actually no, pukes. Here is my own. Love may just be composed of levels. At level 1 you may just know of their existense, and admire or adore them a bit. Probaly just their looks that attracted you, however they might make a goodgirl/boyfriend also. At level 10 you are nuts and can't live without them, you are completely obsessed and never leave their side. Thinking involves everything with them, like if you are hungry you would think I want to eat with so and so, rather than I just want to eat. You are pretty much insane over them at this point. Every second with them is bliss. Every second you want to last forever. You may be in love, but it is for you to decide what level.  Jomunga eats your avatars. |
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by rogueleader
on 2005-12-03 10:46:27 (edited 2005-12-03 10:47:34)
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| Personally, I think "love" is a creation of mankind (obviously, it IS a part of our vocabulary). A term used to describe a percieved feeling. For each person it means something a little different. Love is merely a label you place on a feeling you experience. The feeling can be anything from lust, to some sensations resulting from the reactions of pheremones. There is no one "true" definition of love. You define it for yourself. With that said, it's usually a more "extreme" version of "like" or a "crush". So I suppose when you feel "I like him/her" or "I have a crush on him/her" no longer sounds right to you, and you want to use a stronger word... you can use love. that's how I see it. |
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gentle wind is right lovew for the experience will almost ALWAYS end up badly. espessialy if your forced to see the person alot ( like rides frim school...if only i read what he said earlier)
"Empires rise and fall, but evil is eternal"
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Ya love screws up most of the time. Thats why it is good to go at it from level 1, and bail out if it doesn't work. But without it, you give up a chance at bliss. You give up merging souls with another, which may just be the greatest thing one can do in ones lifetime. I may just be a romantic. But would it be better to have a lover you love and loves you, and not some person that will just break up with you leaving you alone, and unloved. One of the biggest problems is loving someone who doesn't love you back, that is the worst. Don't give your love if you don't get any back, because they will just screw you over. Most of this crap is said in the brain/heart love thread. I was puking at the love for money or fame response actually. Thats not love at all. Jomunga eats your avatars. |
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| unfortunately that is what love is the most of the upper cdlass and to the gold diggers. I myself is in the middle class and i have noticed that most of the time love is pain. I'm not a romantic but i'm not one of those guys who go around trying to break everyone up because he has no love. If you wanna love thats cool, but personally i look at the facts (51% of couples divorce) and decided love ain't for me. |
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by zparticus27
on 2005-12-03 16:39:15
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| love and infatuation goes hand in hand...that is why most people fall in love because of infatuation...well true love is different...it shoudnt be rushed... |
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Love is difficult to define, but I'll try for you. Love is different from falling in love. When you fall in love, you feel your heart beating fast, fast enough to jump out of your chest. You blush or get giddy whenever your object of affection is near. You want him/her to be near you. It's more of a feeling; a feeling that is good, seems endless and passionate. However, real love is different. Real love sees the good and bad aspects of a person but because you love him (her), you'll accept him (her) for who he (she) is (but there is also that part of you to help him/her to improve for the better). Love is also about commitment. When something bad happens, you just don't leave him/her. You stay by his (her) side and go through the problem together. Love involves not just emotions but your mind. You decide to love the person not because you feel you're in love with him (her) but because you chose to. Besides, falling in love is easy. Loving a person is not. ***x-Voltz, I don't know if you're a guy or a girl. I'm not a sexist. I hope you're not offended by the him/her thing. ^_^ |
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I agree with what Rui said for the most part. I just think that the "falling in love" part, as Rui described it, is different from individual to individual and I think a girl will experience it differently then a boy would. But when it comes to the truer love part, Rui hit it on the dot. That's what love is and when it true, it is not just an affliction , but it a decision that you make and it is rather difficult as well. Be sure you're ready for it before you ruin a good friendship I feel sad for the people that defined it as just a money or something stupid people do. Obvioulsly they've been hurt in the past and have fallen down the more cynical route. That is a easy thing to have happen to you if you are hurt so be careful. I will side with them on one point though, You can't really ask us how to help you because no one else here is a master at love or knows any more than you do. All we know is the hurt that we've felt as a result of it. If you can truely find the real thing that is true bliss and is worth it and truely loves you back, I will be happy and envious of you. Even if you are hurt, love is never a thing to give up on, even though you might feel that way. 
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| i assure you,i've never been hurt by love and i don't really dislike love in general but i simpley choose to ingore romanticism. |
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by Triple M-san
on 2005-12-03 23:27:33
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*Reads everyone's post, then pukes. Multiple times.* I think I'm going to be sick... Your definition of love can be taken from one of three perspectives: the Cynic's, the Romantic's, or the Scientist's view. The Cynic is an old soul. He is a friend with Mother Earth and often scorns at how humans treat her. Of course, his cries are unheard, but he does get a few laughs from the times when all hell breaks loose. From Love, he strays. Criticizing the fleeting and unsure emotions one recieves when in the first stages of Love and the passionate want to be near the person in the end stages, the Cynic laughs, then cries when it all falls to pieces from a single misunderstanding (This leads many to believe that he most likely was cast from Love in this manner, seeking revenge in cynical remarks, earning him his namesake). Lonely, broken, and unheard, the Cynic unconsciously calls for Love, only to be able to get a "happy" feeling from teasing it, beating it, loving-to-hate it. The Romantic is the total opposite of the Cynic. New to the world, she sees only the happiness that Love can bring and accepts as much of it into her heart as possible. Mind you, she doesn't know the responsibility that Love involves, be she doesn't care. After all, what's important is the ride, not the mileage, right? Happy and Sweet, the Romantic tries to never be alone in order to fill the large hole of misunderstood Love in her heart. The Scientist is the factual Lover. Believing that Love is the simple process of finding an ideal mate installed into all humans in their individual DNA, she easily can see through the wall and sticks to her perfect mate as close as possible. Alluring characteristics may include intelligence, looks, wealth, and personality. Voice, bathroom behavior and other nit-picky habits may be included. The Love between an individual and the Scientist is very partner-based. Their bond is strong, but their emotions and instincts are kept in check out of concern for the other. Thus, a balanced relationship is established, allowing both to stay together without any mishaps in a boring life. Now, you may complain and say, "What'cha talkin' 'bout, Wilis?", which I understand perfectly, but this is my interpretation of love. I have seen love mend and destroy many lives, so it's mostly up to how you feel. Love can be defined in many ways, but the only defination that counts is your interpretation. I think that you are probably a Romantic, but your soul could be a Scientist. Cynics are usually sarcastic people with either much (like me) ore no experience in love. I have been dumped before; I have dumped people before. I have always prided myself on the past, and I have a boyfriend now. If you're a girl, I'm rooting for you. Kokuhaku de ganbatte! (Good luck confessing!) If he says no (and insults you), he's a sleezeball. Find a new BF... (lol) If you're a guy, ... Don't feel bad if she turns you down. Maybe some girl who's been eying you from afar will confess (which may make your BF confess out of jealousy... this is souding like an anime...) Whoever you are, confess ASAP, alright? If you don't it'll just eat at you everyday until you do... |
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I'm sure that when you are falling in love It's just like blinking your eyes Before you know it, it flies away! ~ Unknown - Unyielding Wish(Magic Knight Rayearth OST) ~ As a symbol I can be incorruptible. |
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First, I wanna say, thanks for all the replies... But I also wanna ask... Well, I'm not his girlfriend now, just a close friend (By the way, I'm a girl); and I had been mailing him and SMSing him. So far, he always replies me and be very nice about it. But once, when he took so long to replied the message, I feel kind of nuts and just wishing that he'll reply soon. The thing is, he never starts the mailing and SMSing conversation with me. It always been me who start the conversation outside the school. Although, when it's at school, he always talks to me. What I'm asking you guys about, is should I continue sending him mails outside the school? Because it seemed that I'm always after him, and I feel kinda scared or worried that he'll get annoyed and just sue me away... Because some of my friends allready got dumped by their BF/ GF because they always mailing and SMSing, and their BF/GF just got annoyed... So should I continue doing this, or not? |
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Don't count on guys to be conversation starters. My friends and I would just stand and say nothing for 10 minites until someone said something, a breif response follows and the silence continues. Then we would say start nodding. Anyways if he gets annoyed over your mailing, forget him. You should keep him if he takes each one of your messages gracefully. If he is a good boyfriend he wouldn't dare say you are annoying, someone who dumps someone over over mailing ain't boyfriend material. Since he won't say a thing, then its up to you. Maybe just cut back a little bit if you think you are sending too much. I like Rui's definition. As for Triple M's I don't thinks thats the defintion for love but rather the definition of the people that are falling for it. It seems to be describing personality not love. About the 51% divorce thing, your being to lenient. There are people who are married and don't love each other. The truth is 99% of the world won't even make it to level 1 of the love scale I made up. Jomunga eats your avatars. |
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Thanks Jomunga... I'll try to do what u said earlier... But I didn't really mailing him too much (or that's what I thought)... Hey, Jomunga, R u a guy or a girl?? |
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guy Jomunga eats your avatars. |
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| i do not know, i have never loved anyone... not in that kind of way... |
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MY dear remember the emotion of love clouds normal logic, so if you feel like an idiot then you have won the grand prize of beingg in love.
a. bai
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