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Stressed thEn Self Destruction~
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on 2008-01-14 02:11:16 |
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now i was in deep hesitancy,confused ab0ut 'd0 people care of me sincerely or they care because they only want to take advantage fr0m me?' thats question have made me thought that there are N0 true friend.. -my statement above influenced me to stress pressure,,that I realized I have n0 true friend for last 12 years,and I Give up to socialize wid other and send me to STRESS!! please tell me what I must to do... I am hoping to make friends here... |
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Re: Stressed thEn Self Destruction~
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on 2008-01-14 02:20:01 |
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Don't worry about it. Be at peace with yourself first and others second. Even a furious storm is calm at the centre. Think of all that I have not said. *sorry I can't make it any clearer than that*  |
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Re: Stressed thEn Self Destruction~
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on 2008-01-14 02:27:08 (edited 2008-01-14 02:28:23)
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ooh ur so wrong!! for me that is x33 true friends do exist but well sumtyms u hev to really be careful with choosing friends because nowadays its just normal to meet users and fake people in this world *_* if u really cant find friends then u must also bear in mind ur mistakes... err i mean try to ask urself if ur fine or maybe ur the one hu has the problem that keeps u away from them... im not saying trying to make friends on this virtual world is wrong but well hiding here to escape ur problems in reality isnt right... try to talk to people there and ask them about what do they think about u... that'll help but im not sure if it'll work out with u x33 i <33 my friends but i know that its not ryt to depend on them always and sumtym sooner ill hev to face problems that can only be solved by me... *_* having just 2 or 3 true friends is olredi sumting for me... just be urself and relax.. im pretty sure ull find lotsa true friends in the future *_* and why complain if ur olredi with ur family and God if ur an R.C. ^-^ 
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Re: Stressed thEn Self Destruction~
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on 2008-01-14 03:24:46 |
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Y'know I hate it when I can't communicate properly, so here goes a long(er) reply. Life is about balance. People can't too introvert nor too extrovert to achieve happiness. Problem is we are constantly bombarded by outside influences trying to tell us where we stand in the world and what we should do. It all depends on the type of person you are. Are you strong for other people and gain strength where they are weak because you take on their problems. Or, are you the type of person that grows stronger in the presence of the strong and gain the most out of your friends. Whichever one you are, you're not able to hide. You can't surrender and there is no running away. Even the follower must have the resolve to fight, and the leader the resolve to risk damage to his followers. Either way you make a stand against it all. But whatever it is you choose to be and do, you will be surrounded by people and events, conflicting characters and matching characters. In the end it's down to you. You don't feel good now, that is because you have noone to fall back on, so go out there and find them. That is the only solution. |
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Re: Stressed thEn Self Destruction~
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on 2008-01-14 08:39:25 |
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now i see why act like taht eon (:P) well, you can't be too suspicious to people around you right? you don't need to think about "d0 people care of me sincerely or they care because they only want to take advantage fr0m me?".. that is such a waste of energy.. if you think that you never have a true friend for last 12 years, that may just in your mind. or if it is true, forget about it and try to again. well, not all people in this world is a good person, maybe you're just unlucky meeting bad people.. so don't give up to socialize but remember taht you must limit yourself, if you think someone is trying to using you you can just simply say "no!" right? and remember taht sometimes people who appears not like a true friend maybe your true friend. just relax and enjoy don't think about it too hard, and true friends will come to you.. and stop talking to your own mind too much! this is not good, that thinking you have above is because you talk to much to your mind. although talking to your own mind seems to relax you, in fact it burdens you and encourage you not to disclose yourself..so stop thinking like taht and "just walk in the park" dude  |
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eon-san, for me "a friend" means "someone that see us and can help us when you need any help" do you know why someone could like other one? thats coz the "other one" can give him what he need. thats why the two ppl can be friends. if you say there are no true friends, thats absolutely right. i'm sure you won't like to a person that can give you any advantages. now see... if you have a friend, and he ish the most stupid student in your class, a rule breaker, nearly dropped out then you have another classmate, the smartest student, which one will you choose? of course the smart one coz he can give you more advantages that the stupid one. it's not just about brain~ the way someone behave, and even money can even be your advisement to choose someone as your friend. so just don't think that you don't have any tru friends coz you yourself won't be a true friend for someone. if you could be more cool, you won't even care about "true friend" or not. just do your best for your friend and, if for him you are his friend, he'll do his best for you~ |
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Re: Stressed thEn Self Destruction~
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on 2008-01-16 03:55:31 |
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I disagree with the above (sorry). But I have a very close colective of friends of which I know at least 3 would put their lives on the line for me in an emergency. I would do the same for them. Why, I can't really explain, but it's kinship and the things that we've been through together. There are bonds that were made that cannot be broken. |
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Re: Stressed thEn Self Destruction~
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on 2008-01-17 03:16:21 |
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"if you say there are no true friends, thats absolutely right"--- Please don't say that. That quote is so cold and hypocrit. True friends does not have to be ones you found outside your family. Your close family members (that you considered) are true friends--- those who adore you from the day you were known to their sight. Eon, stop moping on not having friends. I was like you in last year. I found it difficult to make at least a friend because I was so self-centered on my self-pity and self-mental abuse. I was so stupid to rely on my sorrowful thinking. And I hated being alone. So with that nonsense spiralled in my head, I gave up that freaking stupid thoughts and braved myself to greet this person I really want to be friends with. I did it. Finally. I kept up the communication, and without us noticing the progress, we can see our friendship was blooming. |
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Don't give up. Coz if you do, you'll die. Talk to others, not to a mirror. Play with others, not to your PSP. Eat with others, not with the plate. Watch movies with others, not with your couch. If, however, no such things exist, then just sit silently and wait. Something always comes, right? Just wait. And see. |
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| @ eon-san: er... you said, "I am hoping to make friends here... " so what the ppl here mean for you? they're not your friend? and the ppl in indonesian thread? they're not either? kyuzuryu-san, aolas-san, and ashura-san are your classmate, and they're not your friend? so what do they mean for you? |
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Re: Stressed thEn Self Destruction~
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on 2008-01-21 03:30:01 |
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Y'know Farhrenh pretty much got it in one there. Apart from the eating one. (I believe if I tried to use my friend in substitute for a plate, he'd try to punch me in the face. People are here giving you their support, and from what I can gather from Kiseno, you're classmates are ready and willing to do the same. Lean on them, they are your friends and they are willing to take on some of the strain you're taking at the mo. |
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by hawaii 150
on 2009-10-11 13:31:10
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Don't Panic. Try not to think about it much so you won't get stressed. If they weren't true friends then they weren't friends in the first place. Try not to attach true to friend(s) from now on. There should be a bunch of them that you can identify as friends. Or at least one. Try going through the good times that you spent with them. By then you may get hints who you're friends are. |
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Re: Stressed thEn Self Destruction~
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on 2009-11-29 18:25:45 |
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Stress then destruction and what is true friend huh? I'm not too sure if this is relates to what I'm about to say. what i do know is this by exp. "So-Called Friends" I have been Betrayed friends before and least they claim to be my friend but all they do is just take whatever they want like for example: I'm going to Take this all these Trading cards and sell em so that i can buy something great cus that's friends do kay. then the next day Hi there next thing you know "I don't know you get away from me stranger". leave you there when getting beaten up, mugged, steal things that they want most and here's my meaning of "True Friends" they are there for you through Good and bad and crazy times XD just like this one time when they said they needed a "Mascot" I volunteer to be a mascot and this is was when i didn't know what a mascot was XD and basically all they told me to do is just dance and do stuff and then when that time came I was in Front of Hundreds of people whom i never know I was kinda shock and got stage fright. I was embarrass (if that's the right word) and had fun all I'm saying is that once you form a bond (well...um..I'm not too sure if this is starting to sound weird) You'll know what they're thinking sometimes and know how they feel (as in you know what mood they're in ^^;) err...kinda confusing right O_O; but you know what I'm somewhat talking about right? 
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Re: Stressed thEn Self Destruction~
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on 2009-11-30 03:37:59 |
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most people maybe be friends with you because they want to take advantages, but not everyone do that... in Indonesia right now we know some groups that can be called geng and jacket groups... some of those groups are a new type of social room, where you'll meet friends there... they're take no advantages from ya... help each other with another member, protecting each other without thinking what ya'll get from doing those things... if you really don't know which is your friends, try making a group like these, in these group you'll know they true self and you can kick 'em if they really wanna take advantages from ya  |